How long did it take you to conceive?

[Headbanger]

Title says it all really! I (and a fair few of my pals) am not one of those, 'Whoospy I fell on a willy and got pregnant by mistake, how embarrassing!' wimmin. When you have been waiting a few months, it does rather feel as if absolutely everyone else gets pregnant by looking at a naked picture of Tom Hardy - but I'm sure that can't be the case.

I've therefore been thinking: you know, perhaps it just does take a while - for evolutionary purposes perhaps, to prevent the planet being over-run. Perhaps it can take a year or so not because there's something wrong, but because them's the breaks.

So to inform and reassure, I'd be really interested to know how long it took you to conceive, your age when you did so, and whether there were any medical factors that you knew of (including, and speaking as a plump lass myself, weight!).

6 months, am 39, first pregnancy.
def overweight at the time 11stone 12lb, however silver lining has been I have not put on any weight this pregnancy - still 11stone 12lbs and am 30 wks, so don't owrry too much about the weight.

Hate to say it, but just relax, I got pg after a nice long holiday!!
good luck!

I think the average person can take up to a year before it is considered an issue right?

FWIW if you've only been trying a few months.. well hard for people like me to sympathise.. ttc for 3 years before I got my first positive. :) really a few months is nothing just enjoy the sex for now.

It took me 5 months but I would caution you here that I used to devour tales of how long it had taken people and managed to convince myself that I would catch immediately. Set myself up for a fall there and spent 4 months distraught that it hadn't happened immediately. Everyone is different - it took my Mum 2.5 years to get me, but it had happened first time for her with my two older brothers.

I'm 31 by the way and most of my friends are currently trying. One has been at it for 8 months now and I know how hard it is on her.

Good luck with it anyway
xxx

DC1 - 1 month, 10st 4lbs.
DC2 - 3 months, 10st 6lbs.
m/c - 1 month, 10st 4lbs.
DC3 - 1 month, 10 st 4lbs.

We were very very lucky and really appreciate we were.

4yrs for my first positive - 6 for ds to arrive...

8 months with DD1, 2 months with current pg - am 15 weeks tomorrow.

Was overweight both times, with a BMI around 28.

Last time I found once I'd got to the stage of not worrying anymore I was pg within a month!

This time I didn't think it would happen at all (no idea why!) and it did - very quickly!

So relax (easier said than done I know) - it seems to work

sorrento56 so you actually do just fall on a penis! crikey!

1st pregnancy, 1 month - but that ended in MC at 4 weeks
2nd pregnancy, 3 months - but that ended in MC at 6 weeks
3rd pregnancy, 6 months - still here at 24 weeks

So what with the MCs and having a break after the 2nd MC, it took us 15 months to get this pregnancy. It takes time to get pregant for a lot of people - I wish there was more awareness of this in people not TTC yet. I now hate it when I hear friends say they want to wait until they're older to have kids - they often don't realise that waiting may mean not being able to have kids at all, or it taking longer and that even if they don't have any issues, it's not like you make the decision to start a family and definitely have a baby within the year!

I'm now 29 and have been overweight throughout TTC, although I lost 1 1/2 stones before getting pregnant the 3rd time (having put on a bit more weight after the 2nd MC). My pre-pregnancy BMI this time round was still about 30 though. My miscarriages may have been due to medications I was on at the time.

As someone else said, it can take up to 12 cycles without there being any problems at all. And if you have a MC, the clock gets reset.

I'm another one that got pregnant on holiday as well! Relax.

First pregnancy - five years and after 4 failed rounds of IUI and 1 successful round of IVF (I was 32).

Second pregnancy - completely unplanned, but delighted (I was 34)

How old are you, OP?

First month of trying with DS - BMI was 33

Second month of trying with this pregnancy (am 10 weeks) - BMI 35

Both times though I went on a low carb diet before TTC which I find really regulates my cycles.

This is all really useful and helpful chaps, thanks for sharing (even Sorrento, with her brood and her lissome frame ).

Sanielle many many congrats, and to Japhrimel too! Indeed: I should not worry at this comparatively early stage (eight/nine months in total, but soem of them not as enthused as others!), and am largely not worrying - I think it's simply that I don't have a lot of pregnant friends or mother friends, and those taht are either waited a very long time and had troubles, or got pregnant with unbelievable and often accidental ease. I never seem to hear of the straightfoward, "oh well it took a few months, sometimes it just does" pregnancies, if that makes sense.

what really really interests me is that some of you took a long time to conceive one, and then conceived the others fairly fast...

I feel exceptionally lucky (and, to be honest, a bit guilty given that I know one of my best friends has been trying for a year or so) to have fallen pregnant for the first time the first month of trying - came as a little bit of a shock as I never thought I would be that lucky. Currently 32 weeks and totally disorganised in relation to the impending arrival.

We had just been on holiday and were just enjoying bonking every opportunity we could over a two week period so I was definitely relaxed if that's what does it!

18 months dc1
1 month dc2

Congrats sinking - that's a wonderful story . I'm coming up for 31, so by no means old enough to fret, and have a high BMI because I am a greedy cow (32). When we started TTC things instantly went from a clockwork cycle to being completely bent (to use a technical term), so the GP sent me for tests which are all AOK thus far. Just waiting for the Old Man's Jizz-in-A-Pot results.

I must stress: I'm not overly worried, I just want a broader context, as it were...

mistle I missed that first time: my word, you were put through it: a THOUSAND congrats on your son...

almost 3 yrs to conceive ds at 36
another 7 yrs to conceive dd at 43 (with help from clomid) (Weren't trying the whole of those 7 years, but were trying in bursts)

Fertility is very very mysterious but i know that trying itself can make it difficult for some reason, I think it's the stress of it. We only conceived ds when we actually had a 'break' from trying. The trying was just so hard on the rel.

Good luck and I've always heard acupuncture works well for some women.

He was (is) worth waiting for (although you do see me lurking around on the 'how badly does your son behave' threads rather a lot lol). 2 mc since - so I think we've come to the conclusion that we're meant to be a one-child family.

1 month DC1
2 months DC2
9 months DC3

Between 7 stone 10 and 8 stone for all 3.

11 years. But that was after being told that I couldn't, and I was 45 when I got the surprise news.

Thanks headbanger - even a few years later, I still see myself as an infertile person who's been lucky enough to have children. Agree with Noelle that fertility is a very strange thing, a real mix of physical and psychological factors. We were given some 'reasons' for our infertility first time around (dh low sperm count, though this fluctuated hugely; my variable hormone levels) but second time around, and when I was 2 years older, those same 'reasons' didn't seem valid any more. I've also heard some say that it's easier to conceive when you've already been pregnant, as your body 'knows what to do', but clearly that isn't the case for those with secondary infertility.

Have fun trying! :)

Kathy that's MARVELLOUS, congratulations!

I was about 9 st. 8 when I conceived ds., am 5ft 6
took four months
dd took about three months and I probably weighed a stone more
now I weigh more than I did when pregnant

1st pregnancy I was 30 and got pregnant in the 3rd month of trying. Sadly ended in MMC.
2nd pregnancy aged 31, again got pregnant in 3rd month of trying. I was a normal BMI (about 22 or 23).
My husband is 12 years older than me so neither of us are spring chickens!

Also I would say just for anyone who's reading that imo it's never good to brag about one's fertility to any woman of unknown state. And equally terrible to be quizzed about one's fertility at all. Most people know this but some really don't.

I found the whole subject agonising while we were trying and so many people think it's fine to say
"My husband only has to LOOK at me and I get pregnant!" (followed by hysterical laughter and smug tummy patting)

I try now to never ever ask a women anything about her fertility unless she opens the subject.

We have a bunch of cousins in their 30s and family occasionally say "OOO you're next!" and I just think 'don't say that! They might not be! It's cruel to say it!'