what did you wish you'd known/been told about labour and post-labour (things they don't print in books)

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choufleur Sat 21-Jun-08 19:01:31

i wish someone had told me that you can feel the baby go back up sometimes when you're pushing (but it will eventually stay down and come out)

squiby2004 Wed 02-Feb-11 22:12:33

That it was worth every penny of private maternity care

That because I had PE had a c section at 34 weeks I totally escaped labour and had a painless birth due to a mobile epi for 4 days, and also because if this my fanjo Is EXACTLY the same as it was pre DD.

That you could have a baby without 1 VE or need to get my fanjo out at all!!

That my baby could go to the nursery at night whilst in hospital so I got a full nights sleep for the 1st 4 nights after she was born in which to get over major surgery which meant I was fighting fit on leaving hosi 5 days post birth and shopping in Bluewater 3 days later :-)

That pregnancy was a bitch but due to the above the birth was AMAZING!!

whoamamma Sun 20-Mar-11 21:50:10

That...
you can be one of the lucky few who labour and deliver speedily and without intervention.

you don't feel the tear as it happens, but you certainly feel the stitches. For weeks afterwards.

VEs hurt more than any other part of it. Not sure what happened there, but each time I leapt off the bed in agony.

lochia lasts for ages, but gets lighter each week.

you don't necessarily feel the urge to push. Looking back, perhaps I did, but assumed it was a poo!

some MWs are into active birth and also read the birth plan. I had a bad cop one too, who was like a League of Gentlemen character.

Spudulika Mon 21-Mar-11 14:59:35

That forking out the amount of cash you'd spend on a fairly cheap European holiday can buy you the birth that you want and allow you to buy-pass all the things that can make birth on the NHS infuriating.

SavannahRose Wed 23-Mar-11 15:11:25

Babytime i just about pee'd myself at ur comment

Pregnantwhale Fri 25-Mar-11 22:37:17

That you can have really painful contractions for 3 days and still only be 3cm dilated.

That you can be given strong sleeping pills to get you to go to sleep during these contractions.

That the sleeping pills don't work because the contractions are so painful so you are incredibly out of it and don't know what is going on and have lost the ability to speak.

That epidurals don't always work and you can feel all the contractions down one side of your body.

That you will be constantly sick during labour. That you can throw up all over yourself because you can't move due to epidural and you have been left on your own.

That your MIL can be allowed to come into the labour room only 10 minutes after you have given birth so she can see her grandchild.

planetalice Sun 27-Mar-11 14:25:11

How BRILLIANT gas and air is. (well was for me)

Seriously you will not care if you do a poo!

To remember to wee between contractions - my bladder blocked the placenta being pulled out.

The pain - contractions - stop immediately once the baby is born - magic!

And... it really is all worth it

That gas and air makes you talk complete bullocks
That the tea and toast after labour tastes the best ever.
That the post-birth poo session really can be that bad.
Not to take neck half a bottle of lactulose in one day unless you want to fart like a horse and have raging stomach cramps.
That the midwives who took the baby overnight for feeds were worth their weight in gold.
That it's all worth it in the end.

notcitrus Wed 30-Mar-11 10:34:37

That all my care through labour and delivery and recovery would be wonderful.

Post-natal, on the other hand:
That my hospital wouldn't give me toast.
How terrifying it is to be left alone in a room, attached to a bed with drips etc, and your crying newborn out of your reach.
That no-one asks what drugs you might be taking when you arrive at hospital, so after birth you don't get them for over 24 hours. And only then at the fifth time of asking and shouting at a nurse that your vagina feels just fine thanks but you still have the OTHER PAIN YOU CAME IN WITH!
That random people will take your baby away with no explanation (sent interpreter running down the corridor twice to check they were in fact hospital staff)
That staff will fuss about washing their hands before touching the baby, but you lying in diarrhoea for four hours and expected to feed him is considered just fine.
How wonderful the assistants who clean you are - finally being told 'well done, of course you're tired now, don't worry, you will be a wonderful mother' made a huge difference after three days of no sleep. They should get medals. Unlike the bitch who told me breastfeeding for only 15 min per side didn't count, when I told her I'd been lying in shit for four hours despite promises to clean me up, but at least I'd managed some bf.
The one advantage of all that is the post-birth-poo trauma didn't happen!

Most importantly - even once ds and I were cleared to leave at 10am, people wanted us to wait and faff with talks and paperwork so we didn't escape until gone 5pm. Should have just walked out so I could have got some precious sleep at home!

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