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AIBU not to pay her for a party she threw

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ahphoque · 06/07/2015 21:04

Last week I was visiting a friend and she had been invited to a party by a new friend of hers. I had previously met this friend but don't know her particularly well ikywim. Anyways, since my friend had only recently met this woman, she asked me to go as her plus one and so I went along with her. The party was quite dull and the woman throwing it was a bit off with my friend and rather rude towards me so we left after an hour or so.

We didn't have anything to eat (she had laid out crisps and the like) and brought a bottle of (rather expensive) wine each aswell as flowers.

This morning I received a text from party woman demanding £5 to cover the cost of the food she laid out. Now there were at least 60 people in attendance and there is no way she spent £300 on food.

AIBU to not pay her as I didn't eat any of the food and already gave her flowers and wine?

OP posts:
hiddenhome · 06/07/2015 21:06

Good grief, no you don't pay Shock

BikeRunSki · 06/07/2015 21:07

Eh?

Was this a sort of pyramid selling thing in disguise?

HaleMary · 06/07/2015 21:07

A friend of a friend retrospectively charged you for attending a party she threw, and to which you brought wine and flowers???

I've heard it all now.

jeanswithatwist · 06/07/2015 21:07

the woman wanted some money towards some crisps etc? what a tight arse, she is embarrassing herself

Appleblossom82 · 06/07/2015 21:07

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Stealthpolarbear · 06/07/2015 21:08

If you consult debrett's you will find the appropriate response in this situation is to text "wtaf?!?!"

PuppyMonkey · 06/07/2015 21:08
Wink
PuppyMonkey · 06/07/2015 21:10

Sorry, I meant Grin

Can't blinking see this phone any more, old git.

TheRealMaryMillington · 06/07/2015 21:10

wow, some people are just really weird (not you op)
nothing constructive to say!

DinosaursRoar · 06/07/2015 21:11

Text back "no" then ignore all other correspondence.

Smartiepants79 · 06/07/2015 21:12

Where has this new trend come from?
When you invite people to a party/wedding/christening that you have organised you don't expect everyone to pay for the privilege of attending.
If you can't afford to pay for the guests, don't invite them.
Rude.

MrsKoala · 06/07/2015 21:12

Wow. That's a new low.

Text back something like '£5 for an hour of your company and some crisps? When i brought wine and flowers? Are you fucking shitting me?'

EugenesAxe · 06/07/2015 21:13

Holy shit - no! What an incredible woman! Genuinely so shocked anyone could think this was acceptable behaviour.

Still shocked. YOU give a party; your choice. Can't afford it, suggest something else where your friends are reasonably clear about what they have to pay.

PoppyBlossom · 06/07/2015 21:13

I think I'd actually say what jeans said, tell her you didn't have anything to eat and she's embarrassing herself.

QuestioningStuff · 06/07/2015 21:14

What the hell? What a weirdo. Please ask her what the hell she's on about and tell us what she says.

TheNumberfaker · 06/07/2015 21:14

Just ignore her or reply that you'll expect your usual £100 'party attendance fee' first...

DoreenLethal · 06/07/2015 21:15

'There was food?'

hiddenhome · 06/07/2015 21:15

Tell her she's a graceless scrounger.

scarletforya · 06/07/2015 21:15

Send her a bill for the wine and flowers.

SanityClause · 06/07/2015 21:16

Nope. That's just bizarre.

Maybe she's homophobic, and thought you were a couple, and was offended shed spent money on you?

Maybe she fancies your friend, and thought you were a couple, and is trying to chase you off?

I'll try to think of some more explanations in a minute.

Wristy · 06/07/2015 21:16

Text back 'hahahahahahaha, I'll give you a fiver if I get my wine and flowers back!'Grin

Wow, just wow.

lastnightiwenttomanderley · 06/07/2015 21:16

Pay the £5....then send her a bill for the wine and flowers!

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CrystalHaze · 06/07/2015 21:17

Send her a bill for the wine and flowers.

Just what I was going to say Grin

lastnightiwenttomanderley · 06/07/2015 21:17

Love all the cross posts Smile

DragonWithAGirlTattoo · 06/07/2015 21:19

i think MrsK nailed it!

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