AIBU to be gopping mad at this woman who posted my DCs party invite on social media!?

(527 Posts)
VodkaVomitANDPoo Sun 03-May-15 14:02:55

I made some daft invites to look like magazine covers for DCs upcoming birthday to use up a load of old photo paper.

I found it odd that I was getting text message acceptances and requests to bring siblings from mothers of children I had never heard of- when quizzed the same name came up and a mention of a Social Networking site.

It turns out one of the mother's of a child in Dc's class took a photo of the invite (which had date/time/venue)on her wall and posted it on FB under an event (wtf?)

I've hired the venue out privately and am panicking the party will be ruined, we will end up in the local paper because 200 kids turn up wanted to be entertained and fed.

I asked the mother directly and she denied it and I have no proof (screen shot etc) although I am STILL getting texts

DC will be heartbroken if I cancel I just do not know what to do for the best. The last thing I'd want it having to stand by the venue door for 3 hours instead of joining in a celebrating a birthday- It wouldn't be so bad if it weren't for the fact my child will be 7 but this is the first time we've ever held a party.

Any advice on how to handle would be greatly appreciated.

VerticalCheese Sun 03-May-15 14:05:15

Can you or a friend find the event on facebook and post a message saying you are sorry and explain what happened? Then ask fb to remove it.

MissDuke Sun 03-May-15 14:07:34

Can you explain what has happened to these mums who are contacting you? If you don't really know them, then surely they won't be too shocked? This is so bizarre, why on earth would someone do this?

WorraLiberty Sun 03-May-15 14:07:49

That's so weird.

Weird that she'd do that and weird that anyone else would take it that they too are invited confused

I suppose you'll just have to stand by the door until all your DC's friends have arrived, and then stick someone else on the door to not let anyone else in.

usualsuspect333 Sun 03-May-15 14:07:52

Is the event still there? Did she tag all her fb friends in it?

You can only see an event if you are invited to it.

Mrsjayy Sun 03-May-15 14:08:12

So this woman put your sons invite as an event her child was invited to then invited people to the fb even that is weird just tell woman to take it down the frigging loon what was she thinking. Tell the texters you havnt invited their child

VodkaVomitANDPoo Sun 03-May-15 14:08:41

Hi Vertcal- I cannot find the post anywhere (not brilliant with FB to be fair) and the lady is not my FB friend-so I'm guessing it's been deleted but I still got a yes from a woman yesterday via text!

MissDemelzaCarne Sun 03-May-15 14:09:07

YANBU to be cross, you're going to need a bouncer!

kinkyfuckery Sun 03-May-15 14:10:11

What sort of weirdos accept an invite to a party they're not invited to?!!

VodkaVomitANDPoo Sun 03-May-15 14:10:27

I have told the texers they are not invited-
"we saw the invite on FB" (WTF?)

usualsuspect333 Sun 03-May-15 14:10:34

She must have invited people on her fb to the event.

SoupDragon Sun 03-May-15 14:10:55

I assume you had the sense to reply to the texts saying there had been a mistake and you did not invite them.

SoupDragon Sun 03-May-15 14:11:15

Xpost

VodkaVomitANDPoo Sun 03-May-15 14:11:40

A bouncer sad
Cringe

VodkaVomitANDPoo Sun 03-May-15 14:12:42

Without mentioning too much and outing myself
The invite DOES look like a flier.

Mrsjayy Sun 03-May-15 14:13:01

Why did she put a childs invite up on facebook ?.maybe she was boasting is it a posh do grin

SolomanDaisy Sun 03-May-15 14:13:17

Do you know anyone who is her Facebook friend?

VodkaVomitANDPoo Sun 03-May-15 14:13:43

Not posh in the slightest- it's a kids party!

zoobaby Sun 03-May-15 14:14:07

Totally unreasonable! Any chance you can change the date by one week (and omitting to tell the original FB poster)? grin

Shakey1500 Sun 03-May-15 14:14:07

How bizarre that anyone would think it an open invitation confused

Also agree to put someone on the door and once all the legitimate guests have arrived, turn the rest away but accepting the presents before, obviously

DejaVuAllOverAgain Sun 03-May-15 14:14:13

Any chance you can change to date to the week before and just send the change of date to those you did invite.

VodkaVomitANDPoo Sun 03-May-15 14:14:30

No I looked on her page and there's nothing under friends. There's very little info

Mrsjayy Sun 03-May-15 14:14:30

It doesnt matter if it looks like a flier there is no excuse for her bonkersness (not a word)

gamerchick Sun 03-May-15 14:14:36

Text one of the try it ons and ask them to invite you to the event in Facebook. Then you can take it from there.

In all honesty it might be better to postpone the party or change the time to earlier or later.. It's so bizarre someone doing this, it's usually daft teenagers when their parents go away.

DejaVuAllOverAgain Sun 03-May-15 14:15:01

x-posts with zoobaby

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