I genuinely don't know if IABU because I'm such a light sleeper.
Our DD, 5, has an illness which means we have to get up and check her in the night and if needed - provide medication.
I go to bed around 10-11, my DH never comes to bed at this time and prefers to stay up playing on computer games etc. Pretty much every single night he falls asleep downstairs, he'll rest his head on the sofa for a minute and then that will be it until morning.
So, when it's his 'turn' to check DD, he sets an alarm on his phone in case he doesn't make it upstairs.
This is pointless, however, as he never wakes up. Last night was the final straw, I felt really poorly and I was so glad for it not to be my turn. But I woke at 4am and he hadn't been in. Again. This keeps happening. I came down to make breakfast and he was asleep on the sofa with controller in hand.
I was very annoyed, as this keeps happening and I find it unfair. He was embarrassed and went off to work without an apology, but I've just had an email from him saying that he's very sorry, he sets 8 alarms but sleeps through them and the only times that he has managed to go in to her during the night - he's been waiting up until 3am to do it! Because he 'doesn't trust himself'.
I am really, really tired of being the one to shoulder all of the responsibility. But I wondered if deep sleepers could tell me, is my anger here futile? Is there really nothing he can do to make sure he wakes up? Should I just give up and do all of the night checks myself?
He has also been known to fall asleep on the train on the way home from work and miss his stop, so I guess he does have sleep issues to an extent.
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AIBU?
to be so annoyed? Deep sleepers.
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KateRambeau · 23/04/2014 09:24
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