To be annoyed with my dh regarding vaginal abscess? Might be a bit tmi sorry

(156 Posts)
MoveYourArmsLikeHenry Wed 09-Apr-14 20:44:53

Last year I had the most horrendous 2 weeks caused by an abscess on my vulva. It was agony sad I couldn't walk from the pain and antibiotics didn't take effect until later.

The doctor said it was ready to be drained but there's no point draining it as it will drain naturally very soon and be better for healing if it's left alone. This resulted in the abscess very painfully bursting all over my leg 4 days later and me having to be cleaned by a nurse every day to stop further infection, and for the first few days having to change the gauze every hour because it bled right through. Definitely not better for me sad

Anyway I now have another fucking onesad I am in so much pain, but again they won't drain it sad the doctor said abscesses can be caused by a hair follicle becoming infected, amongst other things.

lying in bed sobbing about how sore it is, dh turns round and says "it's your own fault, you never shave. If you shaved it wouldn't happen"

I am livid. He goes on and on about shaving that area. It's my choice not to and he hates it. Now he's using this as an excuse to torture me about it. sad angrysad angry

iliketea Wed 09-Apr-14 20:46:42

YANBU.

And I reckon he's talking bollocks - shaving would put you at higher risk of ingrown hairs and follicle infections, not less.

foodtech Wed 09-Apr-14 20:46:58

You poor thing. If you shaved it would be worse surely as more chance of ingrown hairs. LTB.

Hatescolds Wed 09-Apr-14 20:47:05

Tell me if I am wrong but would have thought shaving would make it worse if caused by blocked follicle?

Acinonyx Wed 09-Apr-14 20:47:27

I've had a nasty abscess recently. I'm going to pm you about it.

Nennypops Wed 09-Apr-14 20:47:46

Shaving has nothing whatsoever to do with it. I have never shaved down there, and have never had an abscess. If anything there is rather more danger of infection being introduced via shaving.

Sorry you're having such a rough time, OP.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Wed 09-Apr-14 20:48:21

Shaving would make it worse! He's a fucking idiot.

petalsandstars Wed 09-Apr-14 20:48:33

He is being a twat. If you shaved then surely you'd be atrrisk of ingrown hairs - which can also get infections!

Sympathy for the pain though

PollyCazaletWannabe Wed 09-Apr-14 20:48:59

Your DH sounds like an insensitive arse. Sorry you're in such pain OP. [thanks ]

PollyCazaletWannabe Wed 09-Apr-14 20:49:39

Sorry that should have been a lovely bunch of thanks

rinabean Wed 09-Apr-14 20:49:50

That's horrible on so many levels. Omg. YANBU a tiny bit. I hope you feel better soon

DoYonisHangLow Wed 09-Apr-14 20:50:53

What a twunt. No YANBU. I'm sorry you're in so much pain, it sounds just horrible. As PPs have said, I think shaving woud only increase the likelihood of infections. It may be worth mentioning to your GP/ practice nurse though as maybe waxing would decrease the likelihood? No idea if it would btw but I think all options are worth exploring if you're in so much pain sad

MoveYourArmsLikeHenry Wed 09-Apr-14 20:50:54

Thanks everyone. I've looked up some info on Google and yes, shaving increases the risk of abscesses.

I just wish he would stop going on about my sodding pubic hair. He knew I didn't shave before he married me ffs. I have a fucking right to not shave.

BadgerFace Wed 09-Apr-14 20:50:56

Poor you, that sounds horrendous. And your DH sounds like a dick.

If I was you I'd accidentally stamp on his cock. And then blame him for having being an absolute cock.

Hope it clears up soon for you.

Goblinchild Wed 09-Apr-14 20:50:58

He's wrong, but what a vile and self-centred opinion to have. He ought to be feeling your pain and supporting you. he sounds deeply stupid and insensitive.
I take it he has the full sack and crack wax so that he is bald, if he finds pubic hair so revolting?

EhricLovesTheBhrothers Wed 09-Apr-14 20:53:03

Wow. He's behaving horribly.

MrsTonsofbloodykids Wed 09-Apr-14 20:53:34

I actually thought you were going to say you did shave & would need to stop...

YANBU! Plan your revenge whilst your recovering!

MoveYourArmsLikeHenry Wed 09-Apr-14 20:53:42

badger that made me smile thanks smile

goblin oh no, it's only women who should have a hair free pubic zone hmm

Teladi Wed 09-Apr-14 20:54:26

Your DH is being horrible, as well as being WRONG. YANBU.

ChelworthBrond Wed 09-Apr-14 20:54:55

Obviously he's the expert on all things vaginal because he's behaving like a massive cunt!

mineallmine Wed 09-Apr-14 20:55:13

O I feel your pain. I had an absess on my vulva last year and it was absolute agony - and I'm not a baby when it comes to pain. You poor thing having another one. I will never forget the drive to the doctor's, not being able to sit properly on the seat to drive.

Your DH is a twat. Shaving would put you more at risk of having another one as lots of others have said.

Make sure you take or eat something to put the good bacteria back into your system after two lots of antibiotics.

Goblinchild Wed 09-Apr-14 20:55:25

Couldn't live with a bloke like that.

Teladi Wed 09-Apr-14 20:56:08

I forgot to say I really hope you feel better soon, it sounds horrendous! thanks

Sparklyboots Wed 09-Apr-14 20:56:26

Have my first ever LTB, OP. What a cock.

diddl Wed 09-Apr-14 20:57:15

Has he always been this horrible?

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