Saying "ta" instead of "thank you"

(193 Posts)
saffstel Wed 29-Jan-14 17:59:27

Dd2 (10 months) is staring nursery in a couple of weeks. We did an intro hour yesterday.

Her key worker (who was also dd1's key worker) says 'ta' to the children when she hands them toys, food, etc.

This is a pet hate of mine and it annoyed me when she did it with DD1.

Wibu of me to ask her to say "thank you" instead of "ta"? The discussion sounds really petty when I have it in my head, but I really, really hate "ta".

Morgause Thu 30-Jan-14 08:09:31

Ta is fine until a child can say thank you. Manners are as important as good English.

My mum said it was common to say pardon. I'm not sure how she knew this but she did have a mysterious list somewhere in her head of all that was common.

CouthyMow Thu 30-Jan-14 08:04:43

If I'd have said "what" instead of "pardon" if I hadn't heard something, I would have got into trouble for being rude with my Scottish Grandparents. Yet if I said "pardon" instead of "what" in that situation with my English Grandparents, I would have got into trouble for being rude...

Odd how different people, from different areas go the Country, that the complete opposite phrase can be seen as 'rude' or 'common'.

Made it a minefield...

Then again, (outing myself here), my Scottish Granny has a 'phrase' that comes out as "beppon" when she doesn't hear something. It's a contraction of "beg your pardon". It is so much a part of my Granny that it will always be intertwined with what makes my Granny who she is, to me.

"Beppon?"

grin

BringBackBod Thu 30-Jan-14 07:14:45

Where I live 'duck' is often used after ta, although probably not in a nursery setting.
Can you imagine that? smile

madmayday Thu 30-Jan-14 01:44:12

My daughter has a speech delay and it's looking increasingly like she's a mute. sad

If she said "Ta" by way of giving thanks, I'd probably weep with joy.

Most kids learn their proper P's and Q's eventually. Some of you on here are being bloody ridiculous.

Nanny0gg Wed 29-Jan-14 23:45:00

Just imagining some of you clutching your pearls whilst in earshot of common little babies innocently saying 'ta' to their chavvy parents - oh the horror
grin

Oh dear, some of you really need to find your missing grips!

I don't have a problem with the dislike of certain words or phrases; I have quite a long list myself.
But, really - the over-dramatization of the horror that is the word 'Ta'! The world won't come to an end because one or two of us are a little common
(and you can tell that I must be as I am a Nanny in real life too, and that is a real MN Hate)
smile

newyearhere Wed 29-Jan-14 23:43:05

"Ta" is an extra word for "thank you" but with a different feel to it (friendlier and warmer). It's a dialect word which is perfectly valid.

I wonder how this thread would go if some of the other historic regional variations were criticised, such as Cockney rhyming slang, or Geordie, Scots or West Country accents or phrases. They're a part of the cultural identity of many people.

crazzzzycat Wed 29-Jan-14 23:13:52

Agree agree. Hate the word ta. it just sounds so awful. 15m DD saying thank you with no problems. As did DS slightly younger.

And pardon too..... yuk. Have to grit my teeth very often amongst all the ta and pardons from my MIL and SIL.

M0naLisa Wed 29-Jan-14 22:45:08

My 14mth old says 'ta' it's very cute I think

EmperorTomatoKetchup Wed 29-Jan-14 22:45:02

Gosh motherhood is such a struggle at times isn't it?

Have I actually read correctly that some people would seriously consider changing nursery over use of the word ta??

EST0106 Wed 29-Jan-14 22:41:00

I also can't bear it. When DD was about your DD's age nursery did say 'ta' a lot. I assume it's because it's easier than thank you. She grew out of it though and now says thank you or thanks, and we're in Yorkshire ;-) She's 2.6. I wouldn't bother saying anything, she will grow out of it in time.

msmoss Wed 29-Jan-14 22:39:48

Anyone else pondering how often those so in favour of thank you stoop so low as to offer someone their thanks? wink grin

perplexedpirate Wed 29-Jan-14 22:38:29

I loathe the word 'pardon', though not as much as 'serviette'.

If it makes you feel better to assume I have 'no life' (what does that even mean?) then go for it, kiddo. wink

LurkingCinners Wed 29-Jan-14 22:38:11

I went to uni up North and everyone said it "ta, luv"
I do say "ta" sometimes in a very informal setting. Can't see any harm.
Don't use it with my dc because we speak another language wink

<prefers ta to fank you>

LittleBearPad Wed 29-Jan-14 22:36:00

How is this an issue.

Do unclench people. This is the epitome of middle class fussing. Will you all faint if the DCs say perfume, mirror and serviette too.

NoraRobertsismyguiltypleasure Wed 29-Jan-14 22:33:35

I don't like 'ta' either. When I worked as a nursery nurse I always said 'Thank you' or if a child already said 'ta' then I would say 'Yes, ta, thank you'. Now as a mum I find I do say 'ta' occasionally to my daughter simply because she is more likely to say that, but I continue to say 'Thank you'.
I don't think you can ask the nursery to only say Thank you to your child, but you could ask them to say both and explain that you would like her to learn them both.

BringBackBod Wed 29-Jan-14 22:31:01

I think words such as lazy, rude , ignorant, horrid, common are a bit much tbh.
In the north of England ta is commonly used (as is thank you).
It doesn't necessarily make people who use the word any of the above.That's quite insulting.

Kubrickian Wed 29-Jan-14 22:29:02

PrimalLass don't even bother asking about 'pardon', unless you want to be bored to tears.

Pardon = common and you are suppose to say 'what?' instead.

For the people that have a life this would not even register as an issue.

YummyDollie Wed 29-Jan-14 22:25:13

Everyone round here says ta is it a yorkshire thing... i always say it to DD (9 months) but then i say it to adults to i.e hands me a drink "or ta for that" don't see the problem with it personally

scantilymad Wed 29-Jan-14 22:19:55

I don't particularly like 'ta' but isn't it good your daughter is being taught the concept of responding politely when someone hands her something? I wouldn't make it an issue as you may just alienate the staff. Then just work on it at home?

Gatorade Wed 29-Jan-14 22:15:13

I don't know what I would do in this situation but I completely understand. Last year I decided not to employ a nanny who was perfectly acceptable and lovely but for the fact she kept saying 'ta' to my DD everytime she was handed something.

DownstairsMixUp Wed 29-Jan-14 22:07:26

Are you the woman at my nursery who complains EVERY single day to our manager about one of the keyworkers? hmm

rainraingoAWAYNEVERCOMEBACK Wed 29-Jan-14 22:05:20

I dont care if its common or what the Queen herself uses, I just dont like the sound of it!

rainraingoAWAYNEVERCOMEBACK Wed 29-Jan-14 22:04:31

I wouldn't complain but I am so with you op, I do not understand it, you do not usually shorten other words why shorten thank you....

Its horrid.

CassCade Wed 29-Jan-14 22:01:04

I hate "ta"!! I think, if you feel like you do, then stick with 'thank you' at home but don't mention it to the nursery. And I don't agree that "thank you" is so hard to say that you shouldnt bother trying to teach it - a child's name is sometimes hard for the child to say but you're not going to simplify that into an easy one-syllable sound, are you?? All words are hard to say when a child is learning language - otherwise they'd sound like perfect mimics from day one! Anyway, I'm sure your child will be more likely to copy you, who she speaks to all the time than a nursery worker. smile

msmoss Wed 29-Jan-14 21:48:27

Primallass some people think the use of the word pardon is common hmm

I can understand pedantry when it comes to spelling and grammar, particularly in a formal written context, but I'm just totally baffled by the application of class consciousness to words, particularly words that are being used to be polite. Communication is about more than the actual words that are used Ta and pardon are used by people with good manners, if you can't accept the sentiment behind these words and would rather just write off the person speaking as common then you clearly have no manners.

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