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AIBU?

to think my brother should buy me a pram?

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AnnunziataSono · 26/09/2013 18:37

He wants me to mind my nephew for one day a week, which is fine. But I will need a double buggy because I will have two babies! He said we can go half and half, but I really resent that. He said there's no point in him buying something that he won't be able to use.

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Fisharefriendsnotfood · 26/09/2013 18:39

He'll get a cheap double on eBay or gumtree etc. no way would I pay towards it unless he is paying you for the child care

stiffstink · 26/09/2013 18:39

And how much is he paying you? If its zero tell him to fuck off.

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 26/09/2013 18:40

His son wil be using though. My friend had same issue with her cousin. She looked after her cousins son 2 days a week free and her cousin wouldn't even go half's on a dpuble

Phineyj · 26/09/2013 18:40

Why won't he be able to use it? Won't he ever take care of your DC in return? Yes he should buy it. Also, if he's being this tight when you are going to be doing him a massive favour, I think I'd say no, because he will presumably also be tight about paying for all the other stuff his child will need on those days. You might like to divide the cost of a secondhand double buggy by the cost of a day's nursery care round you and calculate how many days it will take to break even!

FeckOffCup · 26/09/2013 18:41

YANBU unless you are a registered childminder charging the going rate in which case you provide the equipment.

Redlocks30 · 26/09/2013 18:41

Just say that you can't have his son at all then! You've massively got the upper hand here!

Sleepybunny · 26/09/2013 18:42

LTB

AnnunziataSono · 26/09/2013 18:42

I knew I was right! No, he won't pay me anything, and he probably won't ever look after mine.

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SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 26/09/2013 18:43

Tell him to get fucked then.

Maybe not those words

StuntGirl · 26/09/2013 18:46

Tell him you won't be having his son then. Easy peasy. redlocks is right that you hold all the cards here!

Jambi · 26/09/2013 18:47

Fat chance! You're saving him a load of money, what a cheek!

expatinscotland · 26/09/2013 18:48

Very simple: he finds someone else to look after his son.

Madamecastafiore · 26/09/2013 18:48

We no and no and no.

Do not look after his child for free and go not cough up for any bloody thing.

Freeloading cheeky fucker.

thebody · 26/09/2013 18:48

don't be a daft walk over. having a child for a day will cost you.

he needs to buy a double buggy and provide food, nappies etc. also contribute to cost of toys/ activities.

you have the upper hand so use it. what is your sil like?

unless you get in with them I would say no as it's a big responsibility and trust works both ways.

YoureBeingADick · 26/09/2013 18:49

don't agree to have his son! it hasn't even started and already he is taking the piss out of you. it will happen again and again with different things if you agree to have his son. your choice but you have been warned. he's a chancer!

SugarMiceInTheRain · 26/09/2013 18:52

A unanimous YANBU so far He, however, is being a cheap, ungrateful freeloader. Don't look after your nephew. If he is already taking you for granted, things will only get worse!

QuintessentialShadows · 26/09/2013 18:53

dont be a doormat. YOU dont need a double buggy.

Just tell him, fine, dont buy the double buggy, and find somebody who has one already to mind your son.

Cataline · 26/09/2013 18:54

Your brother is a cheeky sod. Tell him to do one!

KippyVonKipperson · 26/09/2013 18:56

This is so cheeky! I can't believe he is expecting you to buy a double buggy! Anything you are out of pocket for on account of looking after his child he should cover.

This doesn't bode well for the future of this arrangement does it? I can't see it working out but at the very least you need to have a month trial period or something

IdaClair · 26/09/2013 18:57

YANBU, he should buy anything you need to look after his son, especially if you are doing it for free.

hermioneweasley · 26/09/2013 19:00

Are you a complete doormat?

AnnunziataSono · 26/09/2013 19:01

It's very nice to be told that you're right! Don't get on with SIL at all.

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McNewPants2013 · 26/09/2013 19:05

yanbu, a double buggy is a bargin cost in regards to childcare cost.

A cheap double stroller is what £100-£150 new.

pooka · 26/09/2013 19:09

Don't do it!

Your brother is being ridiculous and you don't get on with your sil.

Nothing you do when looking after your dn will be good enough. Just knock the idea on the head now.

ThePinkOcelot · 26/09/2013 19:09

My sister looked after my DD as well as her DD - 5 mths between them. I bought the double buggy. I also paid her . I would tell your brother to do one!

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