I am in shock.
My dad died 3 months ago. He had been ill for sometime an my mum and I cared for him. Up until Christmas last year he was reasonably fine so losing him this soon was a big shock.
In recent years my dad became defensive about some of my mums friends and openly said he didn't like some of them. In particular a couple of men.
One of the men, my mums old work friend, is married and a few years ago his wife had a nervous breakdown and was sectioned for a while. His poor wife kept saying that her husband was having an affair with my mum but it was dismissed as delusions as she was hallucinating at the time. Thankfully she's now recovered.
Anyway the past couple of years I suspected my mum may be upto something as she'd have short periods of being missing.
Like she'd tell my dad she was coming to mine but not turn up for an hour. I only live 10 mins away.
Or she would leave my house saying she was going home but if I called her house she wouldn't be in for ages. When I asked her it was always an excuse like she had to get petrol or something but still didn't really explain the amount of time she spent.
She would even tell me she had been round a female friends house but I dad asked to tell him she was with me.
One day after much suspicion I asked her outright if she was having an affair and she was very angry I'd even asked and denied it.
I didn't think any more of it.
My dad passed away and this man friend of my mums came to the funeral with his wife.
Since then I have come round to my parents house to find him here. Mum says he pops over on his lunch break sometimes to make sure she's ok, which I thought was nice. It's not something he's ever done before though.
Anyway today is her birthday and I knew she would be upset without my dad. We are having a family party for her. She's at work right now and I've just been organising things and went to where she usually keeps the table cloths. In the drawer was a birthday card from this man that's says "to my sexy lady lots of love always your sexy man xxx".
All her other cards are out this one was hidden.
What do I do or say to her? I don't want to upset her but equally I feel like she's betrayed me and my dad.
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Rubydoo80 · 16/08/2013 10:42
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