to be really, REALLY fucking angry.

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HarrySnotter Tue 12-Feb-13 20:46:19

DD is 6. Was very quiet when I picked her up from after school club (at 5.30pm), unusually so but I kind of worried that she was coming down with something so after the initial 'are you feeling ok' I kind of left her to it and didn't question her too much.

Ran the bath, gave her a quick cuddle as she was getting undressed and she winced, actually winced, then started crying. I got her undressed and she had blood on her shirt at the back. Her shirt was actually sticking to her back. Then it all came out - one of the girls at school was poking her with a stick and was lifting up her coat and cardigan and scraping it down her back. I asked her if she told anyone and she said that the playground supervisor saw it and told her to stop crying and that she was acting like a baby.

Her back is scratched to absolute fuck and she was sobbing as I was trying to clean it for her. I am beyond mad. The issue with the child is one I shall bring up with her teacher but I am absolutely fucking furious at the playground supervisor.

How do I handle this so that I don't get a 'oh sorry about that' response. I'm so angry that she spend the whole afternoon sore and upset and she didn't want to tell her teacher because 'Mrs X said she was being a baby'.

Stixswhichtwizzle Fri 15-Feb-13 21:22:44

Thanks for updating OP and I'm glad the HT acted appropriately and that your DD is ok.

gwenniebee Fri 15-Feb-13 21:24:27

Oh, I'm so pleased smile I hadn't seen your thread until tonight, but I am pleased you have a good ending. I hope you have a very happy weekend (half term next week too?) with your dd.

gordyslovesheep Fri 15-Feb-13 21:26:55

so glad you got the response you deserved xxxx

hermioneweasley Fri 15-Feb-13 21:28:19

So glad you were listened to and feel satisfied with how it's been handled.

The other little girl sounds a bit disturbed to be honest

Have a lovely weekend with your DD.

weblette Fri 15-Feb-13 21:28:23

Very glad you had an appropriate response from school. How's your dd feeling now?

HarrySnotter Fri 15-Feb-13 21:28:29

Me too Norks smile they're a grand bunch.

HarrySnotter Fri 15-Feb-13 21:31:35

DD is OK thanks I think the thing that upset her most was that she's very fond of the supervisor and couldn't understand why she wouldn't help her at the time. Thankfully she's a pretty resilient wee thing.

weblette Fri 15-Feb-13 21:36:23

Good to hear she's feeling ok smile Must be hard though when your faith in a grown up is shaken sad

PastaB Fri 15-Feb-13 21:55:34

So pleased this was dealt with properly by the school. I hope your DD has a lovely weekend to recover from the week she's had.

ThePathanKhansAmnesiac Fri 15-Feb-13 22:54:12

I,m so glad this has been dealt with well Harry. Have a great. weekend with your dd.

DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved Fri 15-Feb-13 22:57:09

Good! Heartening the school took it all seriously and did the right thing.

Makes me wonder how bad your poor little dd s back was for the photos to shake them though. What a horrible thing to have happened. Well done you for handling it so well! Dd has a great thing going for her - her mum.

Thumbwitch Fri 15-Feb-13 22:58:12

Oh well done Harry - sounds like you did exactly the right things and I'm so glad it all worked out properly although by the sound of it your DD's back must have been in a shocking state indeed, poor little girl!

I hope that this sort of thing never happens again to her or any other child there.

makemineapinot Fri 15-Feb-13 23:00:07

That's great and your dd knows she can trust the adults in her life to keep her safe x

pigletmania Fri 15-Feb-13 23:22:15

That's fantastic, wish all schools were as proactive

SoleSource Sat 16-Feb-13 01:11:40

Brilliant!

For you thanks you handled everything perfectly.

poodletip Sat 16-Feb-13 06:56:18

Sounds like the best outcome you could have hoped for really, well done. I'm glad to hear your DD is doing ok. Are the school going to do anything to help explain to the other children about why she needs a bit of extra attention so that the jealousy thing doesn't cause more problems?

Sounds like a great outcome to me.
It's reassuring to actually see something being done not just to be told it will be iyswim

armagh Sun 17-Feb-13 09:20:52

Thank you for updating. Well done you for the way you handled the issue. I hope your wee dd is on the mend.

Buzzardbird Mon 18-Feb-13 05:43:17

That's great and lovely thought of the mnr who sent the gift.

Cherriesarelovely Mon 18-Feb-13 07:36:46

Really happy to hear about the positive outcome Op. You handled it brilliantly.

grumpyoldbookworm Mon 18-Feb-13 08:03:52

Well done HarrySnotter , hope the bullying girl has learned a lesson here. Hugs

Lottikins Mon 18-Feb-13 09:34:08

I think it was unprofessional of the teacher to tell you
how the MDS had been disciplined though.

goneHaywire Wed 20-Feb-13 08:19:16

I disagree Lottikins she is letting the OP know that the situation has been adequately dealt with.

Lottikins Wed 20-Feb-13 11:51:47

Hmm I am not sure.I think a teacher's disciplinary record needs to be kept confidential from parents and pupils.I know of a very similar situation where the teacher claimed constructive dismissal.

goneHaywire Wed 20-Feb-13 17:19:39

were they actually successful??...

as a parent I would want to know that something had actually been done, rather than being fobbed off with a veil of secrecy... too easy for ppl to say "we've handled it" when in fact nothing has been done.

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