to be really, REALLY fucking angry.

(225 Posts)
HarrySnotter Tue 12-Feb-13 20:46:19

DD is 6. Was very quiet when I picked her up from after school club (at 5.30pm), unusually so but I kind of worried that she was coming down with something so after the initial 'are you feeling ok' I kind of left her to it and didn't question her too much.

Ran the bath, gave her a quick cuddle as she was getting undressed and she winced, actually winced, then started crying. I got her undressed and she had blood on her shirt at the back. Her shirt was actually sticking to her back. Then it all came out - one of the girls at school was poking her with a stick and was lifting up her coat and cardigan and scraping it down her back. I asked her if she told anyone and she said that the playground supervisor saw it and told her to stop crying and that she was acting like a baby.

Her back is scratched to absolute fuck and she was sobbing as I was trying to clean it for her. I am beyond mad. The issue with the child is one I shall bring up with her teacher but I am absolutely fucking furious at the playground supervisor.

How do I handle this so that I don't get a 'oh sorry about that' response. I'm so angry that she spend the whole afternoon sore and upset and she didn't want to tell her teacher because 'Mrs X said she was being a baby'.

1. Photo.
2. Doctor's appointment tomorrow perhaps, so it's on the medical record?
3. Research the school's complaints procedure so you know where to start.
4. Letters are more effective than phone calls, in my experience.

And by the way, I would be very angry too. Your poor DD. sad

Naysa Tue 12-Feb-13 20:54:55

That's an awful message to send to a child angry your poor dd sad

HarrySnotter Tue 12-Feb-13 20:54:59

I tried to be so calm when I saw electric but I don't think I did a good job sad I was so shocked. I know she's mine but she's such a sweet wee thing. She said she didn't say anything else because she didn't want to get anyone in trouble.

BabyRoger Tue 12-Feb-13 20:55:26

I would be absolutely livid. Your poor DD. Fucking awful. I would be straight to the head. angry for you.

ohdoone Tue 12-Feb-13 20:55:34

It might be hysterical of me but I'd not only go to the school I'd go to the police as well. Think about it, it some one attacked you with a stick what would you do? I appreciate nothing with probably happen to the child that did this but the people in charge of your daughter should be taken to task. I'm fucking appalled on your behalf. Your poor DD, I feel for you both. Fucking awful.

Oh man, that is shit, poor little thing. Straight in tomorrow, I would email the head tonight too so they are prepared for the wrath....
As a teacher, I would take that to the head immediately if you brought it to me so just go straight there.

Your dd needs an apology from the person who hurt her, via the head, and maybe from the midday supervisor too???
Otherwise, will she ever feel that she can go to an authority figure again?

Grrrrrr on your behalf. Kiss to dd.

HarrySnotter Tue 12-Feb-13 20:56:47

And now you're all being so nice that I'm blubbing. I've never felt so angry before, ever, in my life.

freddiefrog Tue 12-Feb-13 20:56:51

I'd be spitting too

Is it a lunch time supervisor or is it one of the TAs/teachers supervising? Only, DD2 had a problem with a boy in her class, I went to the class teacher in the first instance and nothing changed as she's not actually out on the playground herself - DD kept being told to stop telling tales when this boy was chasing her around and punching her the entire break time, I went to the head and she soon dealt with both the boy, and the supervisor.

Greensleeves Tue 12-Feb-13 20:57:35

I totally disagree that the other child should be "named and shamed" btw hmm

They are six. That is why they are supposed to be adequately supervised! The other child should be in trouble for her actions and I am sure she will be, once OP has let the teacher know what has happened. But there is no need to lynch her.

The MTA is at fault here. I would need some very deep breaths before writing that letter if I were you OP

ohdoone Tue 12-Feb-13 20:57:49

Abysmal typos, sorry!

skullcandy Tue 12-Feb-13 20:58:18

OMG, i'd be absolutely FUMING.

I have a child who doesnt tell people when she's hurt, and i often end up having to question the teachers about various cuts and scrapes.. but for a teacher to have SEEN this going on and still dismissed her?

There are no words. Its disgusting.

Please do let us know if you want help writing the letter, draft it out to us here first!

I hope your DD isnt too sore in the morning.

ThePathanKhansAmnesiac Tue 12-Feb-13 20:58:23

Ahh God love her, the poor wee dote. I,d be fuming. Hope it,s sorted to your satisfaction.
What. a viscious thing for a child to do to another, and as for the playground supervisor!.shock

Greensleeves Tue 12-Feb-13 20:58:36

I would cry too Harry sad this is awful for you and your little girl

Oh thats so awful sad your poor DD.

Definately class teacher in the AM and the Head. If you dont get a satisfactory response put it in writing.

Please take photos to show them. Dont show then her back in person. She might not like that and it might make her feel at fault.

Oh no, type 1 diabetic too, and just since Christmas, so she is dealing with all that too?!?!?! Email letter now!

I agree. It was wrong of the child of course, but that is something they are all learning at 6. It is the supervisor I would be raging about. She has some serious grovelling to do IMO.

Marcheline Tue 12-Feb-13 20:59:43

Holy shit. I would be raging too.

I second the pp who said take her to the doctor, so it is on record. If she had scratches all day, made by a sodding stick, you would legitimately want to make sure there was no sign of infection.

After doctors, go to the head. Surely the supervisor should be disciplined for that sort of negligence?

HarrySnotter Tue 12-Feb-13 21:00:05

I'm not happy with the other child obviously but I am actually far more pissed off with the supervisor.

MamaBear17 Tue 12-Feb-13 21:00:56

I am a teacher. Please do the following:

Take a photograph

Take a statement from your dd - write down exactly what she says and quote the things she says about the supervisor.

Phone and book an appointment with the head teacher for first thing tomorrow morning.

When you see the head, try to stay calm, but express your complete and utter disappointment with the supervisor. You have every right to express your concerns about their ability to keep your child safe at school. The supervisor had a duty of care to your child. When she saw her crying she should have asked her what was wrong. She should have taken her inside to a teacher she trusted and allowed the teacher to investigate. What a bloody idiot!

Good luck.

Ps I wouldn't worry about feeling emotional about it, and not writing it down till you are calm, I get your point greensleeves but if it was me, I would want to put down my anguish and not wait till I was calm!

goingupinfumes Tue 12-Feb-13 21:03:01

Oh that's awful, I hope you get that sorted out tomorrow and give your DS lots of hugs and cuddles poor mite.

HarrySnotter Tue 12-Feb-13 21:03:09

I'm going to take her to doc in the morning. I've cleaned her back but it was so sore for her that I was so worried about hurting her even more so I want to make sure no infection.

Checkpoint she is dealing with her Type 1 amazingly. I, on the other hand, never stop worrying about it. I just feel that she has so much to cope with just now (my FIL died last month too, who she adored) that she really does not need this. She has 6 injections a day, I think that's enough pain for her.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Tue 12-Feb-13 21:03:13

Poor little lamb! If that was my DD I would be on a murderous rampage!

I cannot believe she sat and suffered because some stupid twat told her she was being a baby!

I am angry on your behalf and very sad for your DD.

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 12-Feb-13 21:03:31

How about this.

Dear head,

My child returned home from school injured on such and such date, at play time ( insert approx time) another child was poking and scratching her back with a stick. This occurred in full view of ( name) but when dd approached them for help she was belittled and told to go away and stop being a baby by previously named person.

Please find attached photo of injury and either shirt or photo of shirt to show the nature of the injury.

Whilst my child is in your care you are responsible for safeguarding her as are your staff members,on this occasion this did not happen and I would like to know why. I would also like to know what steps will be taken to make sure this is not repeated.

I would also like to know who in the LA I should copy in on this request.

Yours.

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