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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be disappointed no-one gave me anything?

129 replies

NickNacks · 19/12/2012 18:27

I'm a childminder and mind 6 children altogether. Last Friday I gave out gifts to all the children, gifts and cards to the parents that had been made with the children and this morning I went to watch the school nativity as I knew some mums couldn't make it.

Today was the last day before Christmas and I received one solitary card from one family. I know it sound a bit greedy but I wasn't expecting diamonds just a little 'Its the thought that counts' token box of chocs would have been lovely.

My husband thinks I'm a bit unreasonable to be miffed but I don't, I'm genuinely a bit upset that they didn't think.

So AIBU?

OP posts:
Jemma1111 · 19/12/2012 18:29

YANBU , a little appreciation goes a long way but unfortunately not everyone is very thoughtful

DPotter · 19/12/2012 18:29

No I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I think they're a bit rude. Well done to you and I hope this is a bunch of flowers for you ! Merry Christmas ! /emo/te/thanks.png

fluffyraggies · 19/12/2012 18:29

DNBU. How sad and miserable of them!

gordyslovesheep · 19/12/2012 18:29

I gave my CM's (husband and wife team) some fizz - yanbu a nice token would not have gone amiss

SallyCinnamonandNutmeg · 19/12/2012 18:32

No I don't think YABU but perhaps they've just been so busy sorting out presents, food etc etc it just slipped the parents' minds to get you anything. But YANBU to feel slightly miffed.

OlaRapaceFru · 19/12/2012 18:33

I don't think YABU at all.
You are looking after the most important 'things' in those people's lives - their children.
How thoughtless of the parents.

Have some virtual Thanks = flowers and Wine

coldcupoftea · 19/12/2012 18:34

Yanbu- we have got a big box of biscuits and some wine for DD's childminder. Ungrateful gits! Have some Thanks

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 19/12/2012 18:34

could it be a money issue? some people are really on a tight budget this year.

diddl · 19/12/2012 18:34

Maybe if they live close they´ll bring something nearer the 25th.

It´s still quite early.

TBH, though, it´s not the sort of thing that would occur to be.

It would have been nice-but if you hope/expect, it sets you up for a fall.

SallyCinnamonandNutmeg · 19/12/2012 18:36

They could have given cards though even if they couldn't afford presents

SantasENormaSnob · 19/12/2012 18:37

It's still early yet.

My children had their last day before Xmas with our cm today.

Her gift will be dropped off Friday.

NickNacks · 19/12/2012 18:37

Thank you. I feel a bit better knowing it's them and not me.

I love those children to bits and so it comes naturally to me to think of them at times like Christmas but I accept I'm probably not one of their priorities.

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Inclusionist · 19/12/2012 18:38

You've made me feel a bit bad. I bought my CM's children presents (3 of them) but not her. Maybe I will go and get her something tomorrow!

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 19/12/2012 18:38

YANBU...I'm really surprised.

NickNacks · 19/12/2012 18:38

True- they do all live close so there is time.

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Izzyschangelingisarriving · 19/12/2012 18:39

Mine are going in with dcs on Friday

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells · 19/12/2012 18:39

YANBU at all.
You've clearly got some mean spirited clients.
But as diddl said, maybe they'll do something nearer the time.

OlaRapaceFru · 19/12/2012 18:39

Quite, SallyC, just a lovely card would have been nice - especially if the DC had drawn it themselves.

Xmas Sad for NickNacks.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 19/12/2012 18:40

cards still cost money. i dont have any craft card or paper in my house to even make cards and if i was totally skint i couldn't afford to buy any just to make a card for someone. TBF though if i was in that situation i would write a lovely message thanking the Cmers for all they do and wishing them and theirs a lovely xmas and new year.

NickNacks · 19/12/2012 18:41

YY even a card would have been lovely!

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everlong · 19/12/2012 18:42

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JustFabulous · 19/12/2012 18:43

Maybe the OP is your CM ENorma.

flossy101 · 19/12/2012 18:45

Yanbu! Id be upset too.

A token gesture would have been nice.

Maybe they haven't had time, and will drop something off before Christmas.

Rudolphstolemycarrots · 19/12/2012 18:46

I always make a point of sending a card or giving a tiny something as I want teacher/carers to know I Appreciate theM

HaveToWearHeels · 19/12/2012 18:52

YANBU, a small token goes a long way. My DD last day with CM's today (husband and wife team) I gave them a tin of sweets and two bottles of wine. It was rushed pick up, so also sent them a text to thank them. I know things are tight but a tin of sweets was only £4 in Asda, that is less than their hourly rate and probably more appreciated.