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Aaargh! It wasn't cheap and I lusted after it and have only worn it once. It was gorgeous and now it is shrunk! I found it hanging next to the dryer where we put the stuff to dry that's not to go in the dryer but obviusly it went into the dryer because there is pink/red (colour of the jumper) in the thing that catches the fluff. It looks like she realised she shouldn't have put it in the dryer and then hung it there to make it look like it had not gone in or half dried it in the dryer and then hung it. I feel like screaming! How will I tell her calmly in the morning....

YABU to FEEL mad. DH did similar recently and he was quaking in slippers when he came to tell me.

Have to say your capital N made me think it was your granny, was just about to say poor old thing. I guess it's poor young thing? for poor jumper.

oops YANBU to feel mad I mean

She cocked up and while it's gutting and I do sympathise, that's all it was - a cock up. She made a mistake - we've all been there. I've done it with my own stuff and been furious with myself.

Did you wash it or the nanny? Was it hand washed? If it was machine washed then that could have caused to to shrink without it ever going near the dryer. Just ask her politely in the morning how it was washed/dried as it has now shrunk. If she accepts it was her fault could you ask her to pay for a replacement? If it was washed/dried as detailed on the washing instructions and it has still shrunk then return it to the shop?

She probably is quaking and feels bad.. We all make mistakes but feel for you..

I'd be more annoyed if she hadn't told me. Although if this is how you usually overreact no wonder she's tried to hide it from you.

Try calmly asking her and seeing what she says then take it from there.

Grip here >>>>

Get one?

If she's your nanny why would she be doing your washing anyway?

If you can afford a nanny you can afford to replace this jumper.

Hope you pay her more to do your washing.

Is it wrong to say I'm slightly jealous? I love a good felted jumper for craft projects...

But if it was my new gorgeous jumper I'd be really annoyed too. My ex dd this to a gorgeous soft blue jumper that I'd only worn once. Hopefully by the time morning comes you will be a bit calmer anyway. I'm sure she feels bad about it, but she really should have told you - I think thats the point you need to emphasise as I'm sure she'll be more careful in future. Well, I know I would be.

Nothing you can do about it now except be gracious and forgiving, but I'd suggest you have a rule of doing your own laundry in future. I learned the hard way from my tumble-dryer-happy husband.

Do nannies do family washing? Is it an au pair? Irrelevant really I guess. Can you smooth it out,perhaps reshape it?

Naughty nanny!

I think you'll have to file this one under 'shit happens'.

'My ex dd this to a gorgeous soft blue jumper that I'd only worn once'

Is that a typo? Or did you disown your DD because she shrank your jumper?!

if you can afford a nanny, you can afford a new jumper

Ha ha! Maybe the nanny is essential due to working patterns? Maybe she's a Nanny-share? Maybe that's not what she was asking AIBU about?!

Gotta love MN - that post was a guarantee!

If you're going to have a specific space for stuff you don't want drying wouldn't it make sense not to have that space right next to the dryer, cos it's a bit confusing.

lol! Yes, typo - ex DID this... that's not the reason he's an ex though!

My dd is still very much part of my life.

She didn't tell me but she may not realise it has shrunk. It's not tiny, just smaller but not what it was. I'm so bummed. I'm not going to make her pay for it. I'd never do that but It is just so annoying. I'm pretty sure it was washed properly. The label says specifically not to put it in a dryer. I almost don't want to ask her if she put it in the dryer as it's obvious from the fluff in the catcher that it was (nothing else in the wash is that colour) and then if she says she didn't that would really be bad…. I know it was a mistake (even though I'm always telling her to be careful with the dryer!) but I don't like that it was hanging, as if it is to make it look like it was not put in the dryer….

Stunt girl: I'm venting quite a bit here but do not react like that to my Nanny. I'm actually really soft on my her, really nice. She has quite a strong character and is more likely to give out to me!

Cozy: Yes I can afford to repay her

My chemical: She is more of a Nanny/Mothers help and she is paid VERY well and treated very well…

It's not a question of how much money I have or she gets it's just my spur of the moment reaction. It's just so annoying when you lust after something and it is ruined after wearing it once.

Well I think it's just one of those things and you'll have to write it off as bad luck. I can see why you are cross and yanbu about that but there's not much you can do about it. It would have been better if she had admitted to it and apologised as she knows she has done it due to where she hung it.

Am absolutely gobsmacked at comments such as - if op can afford a nanny, she can afford to replace jumper. Although probably a fact, it is outrageous to suggest that it's ok to damage stuff so long as it belongs to someone rich . I must remember next time I find myself in a rich person's house to steal some bits and pieces. After all, they can afford to replace them so who cares?

I'm wondering if this is a wind-up, because 'screaming one's head off' at people who help you is, well, I want to say it's such a first world problem, but realise that's twattish...

Your nanny does housework...?

Our au pair doesn't do our washing, only the kids'. Why would she do ours? Be grateful you have a nanny who helps out around the house, and then yes, get a grip. I know you're venting, but you do sound pretty awful!

Yes but it was an accident. If it's "barely noticable" then she probably doesn't even realise she's done anything wrong.

If it's only a little shrunk then you should be able to stretch it out again, you need a jumper board - if there are local knitting groups you might be able to find someone that could help you.