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No Mosman thats not what you originally wanted addressing at all ?? The title of your thread is " Would you be happy for a photo of your child dressed in a crop top aged 11 to be circulated on the internet" Apparently you are fucking fuming about it ?? Even though your child isnt in the picture ??

So again YABU !

YANBU if yuor child really was singled out in that way, which is what you have now decied you are asking.

Oh and in real life people just roll their eyes about you behind your back I'm afraid.

decided..

The point is that having been told no the teacher is trying to upset my child so she goes home upset and questions me, she told me she would tell DD to ask mum if DD asked why she wasn't to be photographed but that wasn't good enough the teacher wanted to ensure DD was upset and would question me perhaps because I've created a few moments of extra cropping work for her to remove my DD from the photograph. I think that's piss poor tbh

Thats not the title of your thread though.
that scenario is fair enough. Thats not waht you asked and wasnt your point.

joyfulchristmasjumper sorry, I meant the school. As far as they're concerned the OP said no, that should be the end of it. We had to say no with our foster child, that was the end of it.

If the OP had said "We asked that no pictures be taken of DD, the school phoned me up to query it, then embarrassed DD confront of her class and have threatened to exclude her from some groups" then I don't doubt that most posters would be sympathetic.

I think it's the OP's consternation about photographs of other people's children in crop tops and swimming costumes that is making a lot of posters a bit

Cricketbill, I'm surprised people are happy to have those images circulated of their children yes. DH and I are not. Roll your eyes all you like.

If the teacher is taking pics of the class, I think it quite reasonable of her to ring and confirm you do not want your DD to appear in any of them as she will have to make a conscious effort to make sure your DD is not in front of the lens, as opposed to a more candid shot.

Though I am not criticising your decision whatsoever

Oh right freddie, I see. And yes, you're quite right.

Why are you surprised OP?

i don't see the problem with a child being photographed in any form they appear in public (yes, shows and swimming teams are public)

but i can see your point. and there's no reason to force your child not to be part of a show or choir or band.
if they accidentally photograph her they can photoshop her out.
or take team photos without her in them.

Complex number you don't think us saying no on the form they gave us to sign is sufficient then ?

Can I ask OP, if your child was in the school band would you insist that parents are not allowed to photograph their own children performing alongside your DD?

It wasnt me eye rolling actually but ok....

I'm not bothered by my children appearing in a weekly school newletter emailed to parents wearing p.e kit or crop tops . No I'm not. I dont get why I should be ???

Your daughter is 11, surely you should have explained your stance on this before it became an issue?

It you have taken the choice not to have photos of her taken then huh should have make sure your daughter knew this and knew it meant she may have to sit out of photos when they are taken

What if your DD was in the swimming team and won a medal ?? As mind is and did. She appeared proudly on the fron tof the local newspaper this Olympic summer. Beaming away, wearing her medal and a swimsuit
Would you say no to your DD ??

Curious ??

There was no need for announcement either they could have just sent DD on an erandt whilst taking photos, put her on the end to be cropped off but no she made a conscious decision because she doesn't agree with me to make a ding and dance about it.

Parents taking photos I'd rather they didn't get my Dd in but I've never demanded the negatives or insisted they don't. The school asked and were told no. They should respect that not question it and not try to undermine me via my child.

Im with the complete hysterical over reaction people here. So other peoples kids have been photographed in their dance costumes and yet again paedophile hysteria seems to take over.

I would say no to the swimsuit shot, absolutely.

But why should the school "pretend" that she should do an errand or have to photoshop her out really? She's 11 not 5.

Surely you have already explained that she needs to sit photographs out and she shouldn't need the school making up pretend jobs so that she doesn't feel left out.

Perhaps she wanted to be in the photos which is why they phoned you to double check?

So you want the school to lie to your daughter then?

If you haven't given permission for her to be photographed then they can't take a photo with her on then crop her off (which isn't that simple for most in reality either)

Er so they don't upset somebody perhaps ? You can be 11 and have feelings you know they don't vanish at 5

What if your DD was in the swimming team and won a medal ?? As mind is and did. She appeared proudly on the fron tof the local newspaper this Olympic summer. Beaming away, wearing her medal and a swimsuit

Well done to your DD!