To think he should buy a new fucking engagement ring!?

(312 Posts)

I got a text from my ex fiance this morning saying:

"Hiya, this might sound a bit weird, but can I have the engagement ring back?? Think I may have found a new recipient!"

My face was like this shock.

I've not seen him for a while- since I picked the last of my stuff up- and have been distancing myself, but he didn't mention anything when I saw him. I asked him when we split if he wanted the ring back, and he said no.

Obviously I don't wear the ring, but it still means something. And what woman in their right mind would want a ring chosen by a man's ex and worn by her for nearly 3 years? I think that's pretty insulting for both of us. AIBU??

WorraLiberty Wed 28-Nov-12 13:07:59

I think it just serves to remind us all to think before we put personal things in the public domain.

All I can see here is two people bickering over a diamond ring and the fact she's slated him here on MN and he's slated her back on Facebook.

The whole thing's terribly crass really - hence the interest from TWS.

But there you go...lesson learnt I expect.

WorraLiberty Wed 28-Nov-12 13:09:33

He seemed a little more bemused that you said you kept it because it means something to you but you couldn't wait to sell it, after he wanted it back grin

Oh and Worra, there was no real relationship with someone else, jut a woman he liked. And it actually was a coincidence that I sold the ring now- as I said upthread, I always intended to sell it (along with some other stuff I had knocking around) but couldn't quite figure out ebay. My friend offered to help me and we happened to both have an evening off this week. She picked the ring to sell first to demonstrate ebaying to me cos she said it'd be the easiest one to show me all the different points IYSWIM. Strange but true!

WorraLiberty Wed 28-Nov-12 13:14:35

Yes but his relationship/non relationship is his business.

You're right, it is a strange coincidence.

Oh well, let's just hope he doesn't spot this, the show or the FB page grin

Ha I suppose that does sound odd. I think I meant it means something in that it symbolized our relationship and that time in my life. And I personally wouldn't want an engagement ring that was once worn by my partners ex for that reason!

AmberLeaf Wed 28-Nov-12 13:19:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

WorraLiberty Wed 28-Nov-12 13:24:36

Amber you might want to get your post deleted and then PM it to the OP?

I mean given that you've just pointed it out so to speak.

I've done it, thanks, forgot about that!

AmberLeaf Wed 28-Nov-12 13:31:06

I don't think Confuddled.com meant it like that OP.

I have reported my post.

That is the kind of thing I meant by unsafe.

katieks Wed 28-Nov-12 20:11:58

This has made interesting reading. My opinion: she should've given it back at the time of them breaking up. Even if he said keep it, I would've left it there way back when because somehow keeping hold of the engagement ring mentally to me means he's always got some kind of 'promise' with you, as that is what it represented.

TheReturnOfBridezilla Wed 28-Nov-12 20:19:34

Glad you've sorted it. And found fame in the process!

Fwiw I would be thrilled to receive someone's ex girlfriend's engagement ring. Erm, not!

confuddledDOTcom Wed 28-Nov-12 22:47:36

No, I didn't, I was backing up Amber.

katieks, do you give back all gifts when you split up? I wish my exes had! I've spent far more than any one of them and never got anything back. It was a gift, the law says it was a gift, he didn't want it so she sold it. End of.

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