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to ask DH NOT to take a piss in the morning

(154 Posts)
BurntToastSmell Tue 09-Oct-12 20:22:46

Details:

- we live in a tiny 2 bedroom flat (DH shows no interest in leaving it despite my pleading).
- I've got a 2yr old DD & 9 mth old DS.
- DH leaves early for work in the morning. The bathroom is right next to the kids' bedroom. When he has his morning piss he manages to wake me (I'm not bothered about this) and wake the kids (I am bothered about this).
- I'm at home all day alone with the kids, and I'm not being precious when I say, it is physically exhausting. I'm on pills for anxiety and depression and often find it difficult to cope.
- When DH doesn't get up early for work, the kids sleep for at least another 2 hours. This definitely helps me to cope better with the rest of the day.

I reached the conclusion that it must be DH having a piss before work that wakes the kids up. So I suggested to him that he not piss before leaving for work (anytime up till 5am is fine). And he completely blew up at me. He got very angry.

I didn't think I was being overly unreasonable with my suggestion, as I've been preventing myself from pissing after 5am for months now. (Yup, it can be uncomfortable at times - but getting up at that hour and having the kids all day on your own is even "more^ uncomfortable).

AIBU?

redlac Tue 09-Oct-12 20:24:14

Of course YABU. What's he going to do - tie a knot in it?

SoupInaBasket Tue 09-Oct-12 20:24:29

Put loo paper down and it muffles.

Tuttutitlookslikerain Tue 09-Oct-12 20:25:00

What do you want him to do, pee on the pavement on the way to work?

YABVVVU. Just ask him not to flush, perhaps.

I think telling him not to go to the loo when he gets up is a bit U to be honest.

LadyBeagleEyes Tue 09-Oct-12 20:25:30

grin
Nice one, OP

Chubfuddler Tue 09-Oct-12 20:25:40

Yes of course you're being unreasonable. He needs to urinate FFS.

It may be reasonable to ask him to be quieter getting ready but you can hardly demand someone ceases essential bodily functions.

Tell him to piss on the pan not directly into the water and don't flush it.

YABU to ask him not to relieve himself in the morning.

cricketballs Tue 09-Oct-12 20:26:28

You have got to be kidding...telling a grown adult that he can not go the toilet in his own home, YABVVVU

What do you expect him to do?

Chubfuddler Tue 09-Oct-12 20:26:38

Oh is this a joke thread?

pjmama Tue 09-Oct-12 20:26:50

When you've got to go.... YABU

How does he wake you? Does he piss ball bearings into a metal pan or something?! Is it actually the noise of him weeing, or just the fact that he goes into the bathroom and make noise? Could he pee sitting down and put some paper down to dampen the sound, not switch the light on, just be generally quieter?!

HappyAsEyeAm Tue 09-Oct-12 20:27:01

Tell him to aim his wee against the side of the loo (obviously inside the loo) rather than in the water. This will make it sound less like Niagra.

Housewifefromheaven Tue 09-Oct-12 20:27:19

Ha ha ha.

What soup said

honeytea Tue 09-Oct-12 20:27:28

I think you should ask him to sit down and wee, aiming his willy towards the edge of the loo and then not flush, I can't see that would be noisy enough to wake anyone.

iliketea Tue 09-Oct-12 20:27:54

I think you know YABU and ridiculous. Banning your DH from having a wee, what exactly do you want him to do when he needs to go? confused.

Whitecherry Tue 09-Oct-12 20:27:54

He could sit down to make it quieter!

mustbetimetochange Tue 09-Oct-12 20:27:57

Lol

Coconutty Costa Rica Tue 09-Oct-12 20:28:22

Give him a pot and let him piss in that then chuck it out the window.

CuttedUpPear Tue 09-Oct-12 20:28:34

Sit down to pee and direct willy against the side of the pan.

MrsDeVere Tue 09-Oct-12 20:28:41

I had to ask my OH to NOT do his morning pee whilst I was a.pregnant and b.in the bathroom

but that was because it made me hurl. I think IWNBU I think YABU.
Specially because we had two toilets.

Why not ask him not to flush?

On a practical note, if you are struggling you will probably be able to get a funded 2 year place at nursery for your two year old. Its 15 hours a week.

OHforDUCKScake Tue 09-Oct-12 20:28:48

Yabu but it'd rile me too if my dp's wazz was the wake up call. If he sat down to wee I bet it wouldnt be as bad.

Compramise? Wee like a girl and I wont divorce you.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Tue 09-Oct-12 20:29:09

aw don't be mean to her, two hours is the difference between a nice day and a miserable one, she's clearly desperate. he should be willing to piss onto some loo roll i'd have thought, and not flush, that's perfectly reasonable.

(of course your hallway might be eye-watering by the time you all get up but you can live with that i think for an extra whole TWO HOURS SLEEP grin)

scarletforya Argentina Tue 09-Oct-12 20:29:32

I second putting down some bog roll to muffle the noise. A little consideration goes a long way!

Sassybeast Tue 09-Oct-12 20:29:40

He could pee in the kitchen sink

HTH

Anonymumous Tue 09-Oct-12 20:29:49

I think you are being unreasonable and quite possibly insane.

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