to have said something to this man at the pool about his baby? Or should I have said something earlier?

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TickledOnion Sun 07-Oct-12 20:21:39

At DD1's swimming lesson today, a man got into the public bit of the pool with a 7 week old baby in just a swim nappy. The pool is at a private gym and quite a pleasant temperature for adults but too cold for an almost naked baby. I take DD2, 8mo, swimming there with a swim nappy, swim pants and a wet suit. (Possibly overkill, but she seems quite happy).

I was really unsure whether to say anything and asked another mum who agreed with me but also didn't say anything. They stayed in for about 10 minutes and then I saw them again in the family changing room. At this point I mentioned to the man that you can buy wetsuits for babies as it can be quite cold in the pool. He said he didn't know and asked where he could get one.

Should I have said something earlier? Or nothing at all? The baby didn't seem unhappy and luckily the man took my comments as well meaning advice rather than criticism. More a WWYD than AIBU?

MerryCosIWonaGold Tue 09-Oct-12 21:30:12

wallace grin. Mine too! Shocking isn't it, that my kids love jumping in the pool, going underwater and getting splashed despite only going swimming a few times in their nearly 4 years.

You try newborn twins and a 3yr old in changing rooms and you will understand why my poor, deprived children have only learned to enjoy the water once a year on hols and the handful of times I could be bothered to de-hair every inch of my body.

Also grin at the 200 quid 2birds in 1stone photo. My dsil has one of these on her fridge. Bless.

Noqontrol Tue 09-Oct-12 21:28:54

No hat? shock. How shocking!!

Nancyclancy Tue 09-Oct-12 20:52:38

When I read this thread earlier I thought, yes, yabu. Then I had to nip out to take my dc to footie practice. While I was there I saw a mum with a baby, that was very newborn, with NO hat on! It was freezing and there was a really chilly wind cutting across the field.
Her little baby was in her arms with his little head exposed. I really felt for him. But I didn't say anything, maybe she'd just forgotten it and didn't need it pointing out.

VivaLeBeaver Tue 09-Oct-12 20:51:34

I tried dunking dd under water when she was a couple of months old. A childless doctor friend insisted it would work if I blew in her face first she would hold her breath and then I could quickly dunk her under. Didn't work at all.

Wallace Tue 09-Oct-12 20:51:28

Never did underwater swimming but all of my children have spontaneously learnt to jump in and go underwater and hold their breath... shock

TalkinPeace2 Tue 09-Oct-12 20:50:40

YABU
None of your business.

Unhappy baby would have howled.

bumperella Tue 09-Oct-12 20:49:38

They called it "plopping in off the side" or somesuch (sounded more like describing someone having a poo TBH) at ours. But they didn't explain the rationale (thanks, sleepless!) and it wasn't sompulsory - more if parent felt up to it!
I agree re: nioghtmare of getting out of the changing rooms.

Mylittlepuds Tue 09-Oct-12 20:48:29

Oh and 'underwater swimming' can be captured on camera for a snip at £200 per photo. And then you can share the pictures on Facebook for the world to see how fabulously wealthy you are and what a great parent you are. Two birds, one stone.

Mylittlepuds Tue 09-Oct-12 20:41:49

That's why they call it an underwater swim, naturally hmm

sleeplessinderbyshire Tue 09-Oct-12 20:29:05

the underwater swimming thing is really important to get them to keep on with the breatholding reflex. If they fell into a pool or got dunked by accident you want to be as sure as you can that they won't simply breathe in the water and drown immediately. I've done waterbabies with my DD1 for 3yrs now and have done almost a term with DD2 it's by far the best thing we do together and I (and more importantly both DDs) absolutely love it

Mylittlepuds Tue 09-Oct-12 20:20:56

Sounds much better than ours! The one I went to insisted on an 'underwater swim' in the first lesson. An underwater swim. For babies as young as eight weeks. The underwater swim consisted of dunking them under at the end of the lesson. Most of them came up howling and shocked.

Not to mention that going on my own to one of these swim lessons would have been a logistical nightmare. I had DH with me and still found myself stressed beyond belief as he wasn't allowed in the changing rooms. I might stress easy but tell me honestly who wouldn't with a tiny baby, swim nappies and wet costumes to peel off. Never again. I've warned a friend. Wish I hadn't as she's booked up anyway and I'm sure I'll hear how utterly fabulous the experience was. Oh f**k off.

bumperella Tue 09-Oct-12 20:05:47

mylittlepuds, x posted, those lessons you had DO sound shite :-).
Ours involved floating rafts, toys, daft songs, rhymes with actions, - lots of vareity. Can't imagine they'd actually teach DD to swim, but were fun. And last 30 mins, which was plenty long enough.

bumperella Tue 09-Oct-12 20:01:48

I took my baby swimming (and still do).
She loves it, it's another experience for her, it was sociable (for both of us) it was fun... don't see why taking babies swimming is any wierder than taking older children swimming - they just splash around grinning madly.
I had a block of lessons, really useful for ideas of what moves to do with DD, etc., also getting into a pool with tiny baby is awkward. Lessons weren't expensive - £10 for the block of 8 I think - and a council pool. If that makes me middle-class-pfb-helipcopter-parent, so be it.

Wetsuits work by trapping water in the neoprene that then heats up (by wearers body heat). So a nice warm insulating layer. If they're too big then water flows in (ie between skin and wetsuit) and then it just all flows out -so they don't work well unless they fit well. I've never used one for my DD but have borrowed other peoples when WW kayaking....

Mylittlepuds Tue 09-Oct-12 20:00:37

Oh and her son had a wetsuit. Obv.

Mylittlepuds Tue 09-Oct-12 19:59:05

Merry I absolutely agree. I signed up DS to one of the franchise swimming lessons as other mums had RAVED about it. I will make no bones about saying IT WAS SHIT. We all went round (and round) in a circle arms outstretched, babies at the end. For an hour. My arms ached. Afterwards - despite me being there in the pool witnessing the same lesson of most of the babies screaming - another of the mums went on to bang on and on and on about it to other mums at baby group saying her 9 week old so loved it (pfft) not forgetting to mention the hefty price tag. We stopped going after the first lesson as DS was hospitalised with gastroenteritis (no they wouldn't refund our cash) and said mum still brags every week without fail on Facebook about swimming lessons. Yes I agree with those who say it's great to take babies swimming but for God's sake, just take them yourself.

pongysticks Tue 09-Oct-12 19:51:08

Seriously? would you go up to someone on the street if the child doesn't have a coat on and recommend where they could buy one?

These silly wetsuits and sunsuits, does anyone else play spot the british kid on holidays? they will be the ones wrapped up against the sun, the insects and the cold - grin

we survived without wetsuits it's just marketing crap, if anything unless you are out surfing or in the sea a wetsuit in a swimming pool just creates a whole new load of faff.

MerryCosIWonaGold Tue 09-Oct-12 19:44:21

theo, or because they are wearing miniature wetsuits wink!

theodorakis Tue 09-Oct-12 16:26:04

You can always tell the posh ones, they are the babies weighed down because their cotton wool wrapping gets heavy in water.

NorthWhittering Tue 09-Oct-12 16:22:15

We took DS to a free trial session when he was a baby. He fell asleep afterwards – the first time he had ever spontaneously slept. We signed up on the spot grin

Woozley Tue 09-Oct-12 14:01:22

Exactly Merinda & Greythorne. Excellently put.

Merinda Tue 09-Oct-12 11:54:02

Well, I take my baby swimming because I want him not to be afraid of water (like I am) and be able to swim (I cannot). Using their natural reflexes is much easier than try to teach them much later when they may not want to do it. I consider swimming to be an essential life skill and very mad at my parents for not teaching me when I was a kid.
It is also a good time to do it while I am on maternity, when I go to work I will not have that opportunity.
It tires him out and he can get a good afternoon nap afterwards, something he struggles to do as he is a bad sleeper. It relaxes him as he is not well and it distracts him from pain he is frequently in. A very therapeutic experience.

I am surprised that someone would even question this.

Greythorne Tue 09-Oct-12 08:58:14

Hen I was at home by myself with a baby, no family support, very few friends around, I looked forward to our weekly swimming sessions for so many reasons:

It gave us a structure to the day
Got us out of the house
Was a great bonding experience
Was fun
I made friends there
Allowed DD1 to feel at ease in the water which has helped loads with swimming lessons now she is 5
Got her to sleep like a top because she was so exhausted

So kill me.

akaemmafrost Mon 08-Oct-12 23:41:54

Swimming wears babies out because its massively stimulating and it makes them sleep for ages that's why I did it. We still swim a lot and I am most definitely NOT middle class.

Woozley Mon 08-Oct-12 23:36:27

How odd to think taking babies swimming by yourself is middle class, or somehow "entitled". It's just something else to do with them isn't it? So what if the parents get enjoyment out of it? Good for them. It might stop them getting depressed that day because they got out of the house with their little one.

suebfg Mon 08-Oct-12 21:42:48

I think you were being a tad unreasonable. A costume doesn't keep you warm anyway - it's just to cover your modesty.

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