.. to use the disabled loo when out with DD

[Gster]

I'd bet this has been covered many times, but I'm fairly new.

When I'm out with DD ( 2.5 years ) somewhere like a museum and she needs a pee-pee ( or me ) , I use the disabled loo. I obviously wouldn't venture into the ladies being a bloke, and more often than not the gents are pretty grim.

What do other dads do ?

Or general opinion.

I have no problem with it as long as you give the disabled priority.

It seems pointless having an empty toilet standing there if you/your daughter needs it.

On the other hand, if everyone did this...the disabled would have their toilet taken over.

YABU for using the term 'pee-pee but in the circumstances, I would understand you chosing to use the disabled loos instead of the Gents. However, you do have the choice, whereas a disabled person may well not have the choice, and you could cause someone distress if they need to use the disabled loo whilst you are using it.

Yanbu.

Why would having to wait a couple of minutes to use the loo cause distress?

Many disabled toilets are simply labelled as accessible toilets and also have baby changing facilities in them. I don't think YABU.

Pee Pee?? Are you serious??

yabu!!!

bloody hell!! us women have to cart boys into the ladies with us as well you know!!

where do you draw the line?

pee-pee. yes, just grown used to using it now. although I don't say 'ka-ka-poo' too much except with dd.

Tiffany

the difference is I think that the gents are usually somewhat less inviting than the ladies. At least from my limited experience.

ladies toilets are also grim a lot of the time

and if men (who presumably make the mens toilets so 'grim') all use the disabled if out with a child,then the disabled toilets will quickly end up in a bad state too....yabu!!

I don't know what your alternative would be.
You can't really take her into the mens or the ladies.
So I don't think you're BU in your particular situation.

Oh em gee, Ginster. Prepare for the onslaught, m'love.

at what age are us mums expected to send our sons into this grim environment then?

i'm lone parent....3 boys.....12.8,3.

can my 12 year old use the disabled toilet too then?

His dd is 2.5, hardly 12...

yanbu
as long as you don't brag about it.

why is age any different tho??

he can at least carry her in

Actually I kind of understand Tiffany's point. I take my DS into the ladies with me, and some pretty grim ones at that. Are men's toilets really so awful that your DD can't be in one for 5 minutes?

YANBU

I don't see any 'bragging', just someone asking.

Yes, this has been covered a few hundred times and it always ends in a massive bunfight

My DD is now 9yo and my DH always took her into the Gents. Once she was old enough to go herself, she started going to the Ladies alone.

Gents loos may be grim, but Ladies loos can be too. We live in Switzerland, near the French border and I cannot begin to describe the grim-ness of some public loos here.

Teach her to wash her hands thoroughly after going to the loo and be done with it.

Rainbowinthesky - disabled people may have continence problems, and find waiting to use the disabled loo very difficult - when they need to go, they need to go, iyswim. Or a parent might need to use the disabled loo to change a (larger) disabled child who had soiled or wet themselves, and making them wait might also be distressing for the child.

I don't know, I think it's because the men's toilets have public urinals that would make me a bit uncomfortable.
I would have no problem with a man taking a little girl into the ladies though, but I don't know how other women would feel about that.

bupcake.. ( I'm just after a morning spanking, but ssshhh don't tell anyone )

But there could be someone with a disability using it so they might have to wait anyway. It takes time to get to the toilet so there will always be an element of waiting.

TechDad will be along with riding crop shortly...