Db has been engaged for about 2 months. I've only met her a couple of times but she seems really lovely.
Db is a complete mummy's boy and I foresaw that this would be the clashpoint. He is 29 and lives at home with absolutely everything done for him. He has been funded through uni twice by dm but has now set up a franchise business from home (which didn't need a degree, let alone a masters) which netted him 2k last year. He works very minimal hours doing this. He pays £25 per week rent and dm has bought him a brand new car which he pays a very small amount towards.
Db's fiancee agreed to move to Cornwall (where he is) after uni, where she is almost qualified as a midwife. There are very few midwife jobs in Cornwall so I thought she was crazy to say this but figured she's in love and will do whatever for him.
Having spent Christmas in Cornwall with them though the fiancee has realised that db doesn't function well under dm's roof and turns into a baby. This has made her very unhappy. She has asked him to reconsider moving somewhere else and if he loved her he would want to make her happy. He says that he agreed to marry her on the agreement that they would stay in Cornwall, and he wouldn't be prepared to give up the 2 years work he's put into his business.
Cue lots of arguments 2 nights ago with df trying to work out their relationship, dm locked them in the house so they climbed out of the window to go for a walk and try to sort things out. I'm obviously unaware of the contents of their conversations, but it looks to me like the problem is that df feels like db loves dm more than her.
Last night things were a little calmer although not amazing. They are sleeping in separate rooms due to religious leanings, and as they were going to bed dm told db to turn off his phone because he needed a good night sleep and didn't want any more nonsense with her texting etc as she had done before. AND HE DID.
Db knows that dm having control is the main issue and he did this at her request. I totally understand her not wanting any more trouble in her house but if he'd just put his foot down and said he was in control, would do anything for his wife-to-be I'm pretty sure everything would be fine.
As it is he slept like a baby and in the morning she announces that the wedding's off and she's taken an overdose. She starts attacking dm and db, gives dm a nosebleed. An ambulance is called, who call for the police, who then call for backup because she escapes and also attacks a policeman. She's eventually taken to hospital.
Obviously this end bit of behaviour is pretty unacceptable but she's a heartbroken hysterical young girl. I feel so sad for her. She's been snubbed for her mil and a rubbish job. I think in her circumstances I'd have lost the plot too. Of course db and dm are just saying how unhinged she is, and how he's better off out of there.
Sorry it's so long.
AIBU?
To be really angry at my brother (and mum)
slugz · 30/12/2010 23:02
wow... 
actually I think she should run for the hills and in a few years she will count it as a lucky escape..
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Poor girl. She's better off out of the relationship, there's no room in it by the sounds of it. What does your father make of it all?
It sounds very much like the recent drama with Francesca Annis...
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