How many adults do you buy for and how much do you spend?

(57 Posts)
brokenshoes Fri 22-Nov-13 16:28:36

Between us, DH and I buy presents for:

Each other
My parents / PILs
My sister
His sister
Two grandads

We spend about £20 per head. Doesn't sound much each, but just realised that's £200!

My dh and my mum. That is it grin

Ragwort Fri 22-Nov-13 16:44:28

I buy my parents a charity gift (£25) and make up a hamper of food (£30 ish). My best friend (£20) and my DB & SIL (£10 total).

That's it grin. No ILs. No Grandparents & don't buy for any other siblings or DH's siblings. I might buy myself something and tell my DH it is 'from him' can't stand his taste in presents.

RobinSparkles United States Fri 22-Nov-13 16:48:53

I only buy for my mum. We buy for MIL and FIL but DH sorts them.

Me and my sister usually only buy each other's DC but they're buggering off on holiday this year so we're not bothering smile.

RobinSparkles United States Fri 22-Nov-13 16:49:42

Oh and DH.

Forgot about him grin.

There are 12 adults on my list other than DH.

Dsis x3
Bil x2
Bro x1
Mom x2
Dad x2
SMom x2
SDad x2
Nan x1

I always say it is £10.00 per person - but I spend about £15 really - well on my mom I spend £40ish, and my Dad £50ish... because I do the shopping and I like my family more than Dhs grin luckily so does Dh grin

Jesus that's a lot!!!

VerySmallSqueak Fri 22-Nov-13 16:53:22

We do not buy for adults,by agreement made when so many children arrived in our families.

ArabellaBeaumaris Fri 22-Nov-13 16:58:10

I hate this. Generally I can't afford to buy for all the adults I should buy for so I make fudge/chutney/something similar but never plan ahead & always have a hectic December!

DP
SIL & BIL
My 2 brothers
DP parents
My parents
6 of my friends (argh! 4 of them have birthdays in Dec too!)
Technically should also do DP's 2 aunts & gran but we generally just send them a kid craft present.

So that's 15 adults plus 3 that I generally get away with spending v little on - but 18 overall.

Plus 6 children.

amothersplaceisinthewrong Fri 22-Nov-13 17:00:59

Four in my extended family, four in DHS extended family.

Plus each other and our two young adult children and two young teenage nephews of DH.

£30ish a gift for extended family so around £300 on them. £150 on each of our kids and £100 or so on each other.

I buy for my mum and dad, 2 sisters, 1 brother and their partners, dh Nan and 2 aunts. Ive bought a joint present for each couple and got a stocking filler for the men, and a handmade bracelet for the women. Dh has bought his Nan a Christmas jumper with Rudolf on grin

timidviper Fri 22-Nov-13 17:13:57

My Mum
A donation to charity in memory of my lovely Dad
PILs
BIL
SIL
...so 4 = a donation

but children are now grown up so could also include DS, DS's girlfriend, DD, DD's boyfriend, DNephew and DNiece in that total too

MrsPear Fri 22-Nov-13 17:23:37

6 - mum, dad, brother, sister and my 2 nans. I have spent £99 this year.

MrsPear Fri 22-Nov-13 17:24:48

My husbands family do not celebrate Christmas so we don't buy anything for them.

NoComet Fri 22-Nov-13 17:32:02

My Parents (sadly no PIL)
DSIS
DSIL
BIL
DF and her DH and the DF who stands in for my DMIL (Friend and surrogate granny)
And the aunt and uncle who DM and I have been trying to lose of our lists for 50 and 25 years respectively as they send such junk.

However neither are very well, so I'll not begrudge them this year.

£200 with chocolates and bits my family get because they come here and are very generous to DDs.

But I only have a few DCs to worry about

notso Fri 22-Nov-13 17:33:00

This is my first year without Grandparents sad
DH ? We haven't set a budget yet.
DSIS £20-£40
DSIS's DP,£20-£40
Mum £20-£40
Dad,£20 if that he never ever wants anything!
DH's Nan and Grandad tin of biscuits from M&S
DH's Auntie who's not a real Auntie but buys the DC loads of presents £15
We do a Secret Santa with PIL, BIL1 and wife,Bil2 and wife and SIL and husband so we only buy 2 £50 presents.

Marne Fri 22-Nov-13 18:01:49

I buy for my parents and their partners and my grand parents, only spend about £10 (max) on each.

nurseneedshelp Fri 22-Nov-13 18:04:14

Don't buy for ANY adults!

Just my dc and my nieces, xmas is for kids not adults!

MrsHowardRoark Fri 22-Nov-13 18:09:00

I buy/make for 30+ adults. Only little bits, like a book or some homemade chutney. Still adds up.

Thank goodness no one has started having children except for me smile

ShatnersBazoolium Fri 22-Nov-13 18:11:59

I try and try to get the adults to knock it all on the head, but I'm the only one who thinks it's silly. I'm asked by them all, usually in October, to name something I want so they can buy it - it's embarrassing and pointless. Great for children to get nice surprises at Christmas, awkward for adults to receive things they essentially ordered.

It's only a handful of adults but it's still a pain to coordinate every year.

ShatnersBazoolium Fri 22-Nov-13 18:14:50

Oh, and we spend £20-£50 depending how much they spend on us.

littlemisssarcastic Fri 22-Nov-13 18:14:53

Usually buy for mother, but don't buy for other adults in the family if they have DC, because I buy for the DC instead. Until they have DC, I buy for nieces, nephews, brothers, sisters.

If I bought for all of my sisters, BIL's, aunts and uncles, cousins, grandmothers and grandfathers, it would cost me so much, the DC would have to go without to be able to afford it.

RoadToTuapeka Fri 22-Nov-13 18:19:33

With my dad and his wife and the family on her side, (lots of adults and a few children) adults draw an adult's name and buy a present for them, all buy presents for children.

Have - at last - agreed with DH family no presents for adults (he has 4 siblings all with partners, was costing a fortune), so just presents for children.

I will buy a present for my dad, mum, their partners, my sister and her partner. I think we will also agree no presents for sis & partner next year & focus on children.

DH and I just bought an expensive kitchen gadget as combined anniversary/christmas present so no additional presents there.

Weeantwee Fri 22-Nov-13 18:35:17

I buy for DH (who's birthday has only just happened!)
My mum (who's birthday is the 27th Dec)
Brother
Mother in law
Father in law
Sister in law
Three Grandparents

Have a budget of £30 per person (except for DH, he's about £100 this year!) so £240 for everyone else in total.

There are no children in the family yet, once we have kids the Grandparents (Great-Grandparents by then) will get token gifts at best I imagine.

OatcakeCravings Fri 22-Nov-13 18:55:49

Mum £30
Dad £30
MIL £30
FIL £25-30
SIL x 2 £10 each
BIL x 2 £10 each
3 friends £10-15 each

No wonder I'm always skint at Xmas!

cantthinkofagoodone Fri 22-Nov-13 19:03:21

No friends just;
Mum/mil
Dad/dil
Granny/gdad/gdil
2 siblings & 2 sils and their 4 dhs
Dh
£300 in total with £50 on dh, 20 on the immediate relatives and £10 on the others

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