I found out this evening that an acquaintance's boyfriend got physically abusive with her the other night. From what I understand, he pushed her over, then trashed all her belongings that were at his place, e.g. smashing perfume, ruining make-up etc.
I was told this by mutual friends, who were saying what an absolute cunt the boyfriend is. However, they then said that the ruining the make-up was the worst part and implied that the fact he hadn't offered to pay to replace it was worse than his lack of apology for physically hurting her .
They're also supposed to be going to Australia next week for a long holiday/short travelling and my various friends all basically said that she couldn't split up with him because it was booked and they'd lose out.
I don't entirely know why I'm posting this, other than I'm completely horrified that my friends seemed to think the make-up was worse than the physical stuff and that a holiday meant you had to stay together. I said that for me that would be an absolute dealbreaker and that it was a hateful thing to do.
It's the first time I've encountered violence in a relationship at such close proximity and just found my friends' reactions completely shocking. Is there anything you can do to change views like this? These are all young people at university, I guess I just thought that these views were old-fashioned and dying out, but apparently alive and kicking
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Quite shocked and disappointed by my friends' reactions. Am I being unfair?
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EduStudent · 12/06/2012 23:57
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