ds1 got fired from his job on saturday - his job was 2 hours in the morning - he left at 7am and came home after 9 am.
he has been pretending that he has his job since saturday. i knew on monday - i dont really take much notice of what happens at a weekend( which he works.) but i knew.
so i decided to tackle him about it this am
his GF is living with us becuse..........and listen to this shiznit
he was working at bultins and got fired.
she left her job as a sales assistant to work at bultins with ds.
she had a uni placement in sept and didn't take it up syaing she was having a year off!
so he gets fired and she is let at butlins.
her mum wont take her back becuase her BF ( who ws done for manslaughter some years ago - no shit) doesn't like her
despite knowing that she has other family i said that she could stay here and they thought i swallowed allt he shit that she had no where to go.
i asked them both for board money and got not a lot from either of them as they both worked part time. this money i put away - as i told them they had to get a bedsit come january and i was going to give it back to them so they could use as a deposit or whatever - as a surprise.
i have been on at ds for a few weeks becuase pt job isn't good enough 2 hours a day ffs.
but i have been the one reearching stuff. i have been the one fiulling uin online application forms and looking at job centre plus websites and quite frankly he hasn't made much of an effort at all
we are within a 10 min walk from town centre for job centre.
this monring it all came to a head. he hasn't even been doing hs chores
the gf was complicit in this lie - that he was still working - when he wasn't and i told her that it was now time for her to leave.
ds went mental telling me she had no where to go - i told him i knew very well she not only has her mother - who might or moight not take her - but her nan, cousins and her dad and step mum. i told them both its certainly not the problem of the boyfriends mother.
i told he it didn't have to bne tonight - she can go tomorrow or day after.
anyway upshot is ds went ballistic and slammed out the bhouse screaming FUCK YOUR HOUSE
not seen him all ay and dd1 informs me that he is going to kip on the streets - the gf has a place at her aunties but there is no room for him ( quell surprize)
dh says that its about time he grew up and i do everything for him. i agree
and apart from being a tinsy bit worried - not overly mind you, i am a bit relived. - i have been taken for a mug over and over
i have told dd not to become a conduit ( she adores ds1) if he wants his clothes - he knocks on front door.
if he taps on her window at 2am ( has done before) she is to come and get me.
dya know what? they were sharing a room with ds2 (15) and made it so uncomfortable for him to be there he moved into what we term a games room - the smalledst extension int he loft over the bathroom - like the loft to a small bathroom IYKWIM.
i swear to god i have done what i can
i even filled in a housing application for him and asked him to finish it off - i work in housing ffs
i have researched apprenticeships and everything. and if he wants to tell everyone i kicked him out then fuck it - i haven't i told her to leave becuase of his actions and her complicit omission
thoughts?
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