I've been reading a lot of threads lately where jealousy has been discussed, and I made a remark which didn't go down too well....so I would like to expand!
My DH and I got together when all our DC were grown, a conscious decision on my part to never go near men with young DC. However I have noticed that a lot of SM's, here and in RL, mention the fact that they are always in competition with their SC....mostly girls! I don't believe (most) women are talking here, about trying to grab all of their DP's attention away from his DC, I think it's more a result of long experience of trying to do the right thing, trying to allow the DSC quality time with their DF, battling against a DisneyDad attitude, and the complete exhaustion of trying to avoid any situation where the DSC may feel pushed out/second best, or even....heaven forbid, not daddy's number one/excluding all others priority! If you treat a child like they are the pivotal point of the household, whose needs come before everyone else's...its your fault that they expect it!
Anyway, my point was, I probably used the wrong phrase in a previous post...'always in competition with my DSD' I think mostly in this scenario it's the DSD who is 'always in competition with the DSM'....and this, even when handled sensitively and with care, can become an insidious and wearing norm in a household, which by the time the child grows out of it, has wreaked havoc on the wellbeing of everyone else! There you go, end of rant and my input on the subject!
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Wdigin2this · 03/03/2016 09:32
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