Is oral sex a regular thing in your relationship?

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I'm married 17 years and I think DH has gone down on me 3 times in this time. I have giving oral too. I never read much into it until I read some of these posts and now I think we're freaks. Am I massively missing out?

My husband literally goes down on me every single time. lol. I either give him head in return or we have intercourse after. Kind of just depends on our combined preference frankly. We practice natural family planning because I can’t take hormonal birth control. We both hate condoms so essentially a lot of it also depends on the time of the month it is. If I’m infertile we usually do intercourse. If I’m fertile then we usually 69 or do handjobs or something. So yeah it’s a regular part of our sex life. I can’t stand men who are constantly demanding head but never want to give it in return. It usually makes a big statement about how the rest of the relationship is going to go/is going. We’ve been together for 13 years. This is how we’ve done things for awhile now.

My DW has never once given me a BJ. I do do down on her when she allows. Last time I did and made her cum that way but that doesn’t happen much. I yearn for more oral but she won’t.

I want to go on my wife all the time but she won’t allow and she stopped giving oral around 3 years ago. She says although I’m good at it and she really likes it she’s not in the mood . As for giving it to me she just avoids it like the plague.

OH loves giving me oral, she always takes the lead, varies from a few minutes to sometimes half an hour then she slides on, it’s what she enjoys but me going down on her, absolutely not, she just won’t entertain it, don’t know why, she used to enjoy it but really dislikes tongue or fingers down there now

Love giving a lady oral and don't expect any head in return.
It's a standard part of foreplay for me

Hopefully it would be for me if I was back in a relationship...

I tend to go down on the wife maybe twice a week as part of foreplay, depends how much time we have etc. I probably get a BJ maybe once a fortnight.

Doesn't bother me though I get a lot of pleasure from giving oral

OP are you able to orgasm through intercourse? My DP tends to begin by going down on me until I orgasm, then we will choose whether to have sex or I’ll give him a blow job. Oral is such an intimate act, i really love the closeness it brings!

I've no idea if I really enjoy it as I have such limited experience of it. I feel a bit embarrassed about the thought of it tho and I don't know why. I think we need to spice things up a bit!!

It’s mind blowing when it’s a man who understands female anatomy and is enthusiastic about it. If the guy is bad at it and has no interest in learning then it can be pretty disappointing.

My hubby and I always have oral every time we have sex. We either 69 or he plants his face in my fanny and makes me cum. It’s honestly the best. Married 23 years

Married for over 25 years. Taking it in turns mutual oral usually features in foreplay prior to PIV. Quite often DW will continue a BJ until I ejaculate which is fabulous. I love it that she swallows my semen and the erotic intimacy of that. I really, really love going down on her and could do it all night although realistically there's not usually the opportunity for that! There's nothing like it when she cums this way. Love a lingering, leisurely 69 esp on a Saturday morning lie-in

Most of the time there is some oral involved in our foreplay. We both love going down on each other although it's an uneven split as DH would go down on me every day if it were up to him so I get it more than he does.

I would say fairly regular.. probably daily but not as the main event, just part of foreplay or if we are fooling around in bed in the morning.

Though I am much more regularly the giver than the receiver! But that being said I tend to give the odd 5 minutes here and there or he will finish in my mouth after sex but when he goes down on me it's a more drawn out affair and he will give me the whole build up and stay the distance!

But in previous relationships it's been much less frequent, I often think oral sex is one of the most intimate things you can do so I think we probably do it more because I just feel very very comfortable.

Been together for 10 years. I give my wife oral every time we have sex. I enjoy giving and she tastes divine. She gives me a BJ most, but not all the times. But I prefer to cum in her vagina rather than her mouth. She has willingly swallowed often in the past and would probably do so, no problem, if I asked for it.

She loves 69 and will ask that we do that more often than not.

Every time

Always. Giving my partner oral is easily the best part of sex for me. To be able to give so much tactile pleasure and literally see, feel, taste and smell her arousal as she builds to orgasm has to be one of the greatest pleasures. Years ago When I was single, I was invited to join a couple of friends who wanted to spice things up and I went down on the woman as I would normally and probably spent the best part of an hour taking her from one climax to the next. Apparently her husband had never gone down on her and it opened her eyes to a different experience and helped him to try something new. Great times all round!

@weathervane1 that is so beautiful, you gave your friends a wonderful gift. And obviously had a great time too 😁

So I’ve been single for over a decade after splitting with father of my kids, just started a new relationship 2 months ago. Up until then I’d had very little oral. I couldn’t even remember what it felt like as I’d probably been drunk the handful (at max) times I’d had it done. Then I thought about it and I’ve given so many BJ’s, really bloody unfair and I don’t know why I put up with it. Anyway my new bf gave me oral the second he whipped my knickers off! Jesus Christ I nearly died. He’s done it a lot since, the other night until I had an orgasm which is the first time that’s ever happened as at most it’s been 2 mins before the few times I had it.

Are you massively missing out? Omg yes. I mean some women don’t like it. I moan more than I ever moan when having sex as I’m not very loud, my new bf knows I love it. He’s a very experienced and unselfish lover and keeps asking me what I want. He’s perfect in every way, so respectful to me but then he’s like a sex God in bed! Tell your partner you want oral next time you give some. If he refuses tell him he’s selfish and refuse to give him anymore BJ’s

I love oral. My DH and I have sex most days, sometimes twice a day and we don’t usually do oral as the PIV is so good. My DH really knows what he’s doing and when he goes down I am in heaven. I guess I am lucky because I always orgasm with sex and have never faked it. It wouldn’t occur to me to do so and I was so surprised to find women fake it. My DH just loves giving me pleasure and if you have a partner who knows what he’s doing it would seem self-harm not to let him go for it. I can’t say I am into self-denial when it comes to sex.

It feels lovely! Personal rules - no oral = no entry. A little conversation is required with someone new before first base.

Oral is part of inappropriately named (it is far more important than the word suggests) foreplay for me and the best way to reach climax.

ln addition, l enjoy oral only sessions from time to time.

l think oral willingness demonstrates the character of lovers (I’m in my 40s and use old fashioned terminology) and demonstrates they understand how a woman works.

l’ve also experienced some all female celebrations. Identical bodies does help the roadmap.

I was in my late 50's before I met a woman prepared to give oral, so no, it's absolutely not "usual" in a relationship - but maybe I was just unlukcy...

Fast forward to now, and things have changed... I love giving, and recieving!

To add, I can't successfully 69 though. The multiple focus required in working on my own "let go" point as well as working elsewhere does not work for me during a celebration. In addition I tend to clench my teeth at the point of the ripples going off, which, let's say, could cause someone a little discomfort.

If the curtains were closed, I would perhaps have a little giggle and carry on. If the curtains were open it would be another matter. I am not overlooked at the back of the house but no window cleaner would have access without me letting them in.

I did accidentally flash the postman once, but that is another story.

69 can take a bit to get right. But done unhurriedly it's fantastically relaxing and arousing at the same time. We've managed on occasion to do the simultaneous orgasm thing (without serious injury!) but mostly we take turns.

OP just to add I personally find that in giving DW oral I get so much from being so close to seeing her intimate parts, enjoying her taste and smell and giving her great pleasure too. It's the same for her for me. It definitely keeps us close - and it's just great fun. I do recommend you explore further!