unrequited love

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

if you have fallen in love with someone from afar ,but they aren't interested ,but you have to see them all the time,so every time you see them you have a little lurch and fall in love a little bit then remember they aren't interested again then get over it,only for it to happen again the next day, despite avoiding them as much as possible,what else can you do to forget about it

[LynetteScavo]

I don't think you can do anything else (apart form convince yourself they are really evil for some reason)

Just remove them from your life completely, and in a few years you can move on.

Hell, I'm crap at this agony aunt stuff tonight.

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

it's painful
lol @ a few years though

come on lets hear from those of you who know what I mean...

[BitOfFun]

You can't possibly fall in love with somebody that you are not in a relationship withy- it is a CRUSH, and a bit silly. Take the romantic specs off and sort yourself out. You will cringe when you look back on this, honestly.

[BelleDameSansMerci]

How do you know they're not interested?

[LynetteScavo]

Why lol @ a few years?

Too long or too short?

I thought I knew what you meant. Sorry.

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

of course you can,just like you can not really love someone you are in a relationship with

lots of different sorts of relationships,lots of different ways of feeling about people

[AtlantisLegoDuplicates]

I understand alright, see other thread

I have come to conclusion I am just desperate for sex, actually.

You need to sort that out. You will be fine.

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

lynette...too long i meant,hope it's not that long that's all

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

what thread

[Gigantaur]

you need someone to tell you something awful about the man.

if you found out he voted for BNP or once shot a kitten or something, you would no longer feel he was so fabulous.

[BitOfFun]

"In love" means something a bit deeper than infatuation though, surely?

And if you aren't close enough to be in a relationship, how can you possibly know the person well enough to "love" them? You wouldn't know them nearly well enough.

You can certainly fancy the arse off/be infatuated by your fantasy of what a person is really like, and if you lack maturity you may equivalate that with 'love'- but you would be experiencing a crush, that is all. Unrequited love is the stuff of silly novels and movies, and not exactly conducive to happy healthy adult relationships.

[LynetteScavo]

Well...it was years for me.

But I happen to know that this man you have feelings for drowns unwanted puppies in the canal.....

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

he doesn't [shocked]

bitoffun...we are all different ,don't argue with me as I'm sad

I have a relationship with him,it just isn't as close as I would like it to be

[EmilyBronte]

Well I know how it feels and it's agony. Time, and not seeing that person, and properly falling in love with someone who also loved me, and more time, cured it. Now I look back at that feeling with a kind of affection. It's horrible, and you just have to ride through it and be strong if there really is no chance of it being requited.

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

thanks

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

would any of you recommend me telling him about my feelings

[BitOfFun]

I'm not arguing with you- just offering you a therapeutic kick up the jacksy. Sometimes it does you good, you know.

[AnyFucker]

BOF...it is uncanny how you keep popping up on threads and saying almost exactly what I was going to say

please stop...you are going to make me redundant

[catinthehat2]

Only if you want to look needy and immature

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

but that's mainly what is offered on here...what I want is empathy,just had enough and it won't go away

[BelleDameSansMerci]

I don't think you want it to go away though...

I do understand how you're feeling but you have to want to move on to get over this and it doesn't really sound as if you want to.

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

ok thanks for replying surely it will wear off in the end

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

I've had a lot of men unrequitedly in love with me..so it must be quite common

[LynetteScavo]

No, no, don't ell him! He's a man!

ARe you 100 % sure it's unrequented?

I do know how you feel..it is awful, and it is very real, for you.

I have an idea...you need a new love object to help you get over him!

[Gigantaur]

no don't go and tell him you love him.

by all means ask him out for a drink and see if there is any chemistry. you never know, maybe he would like it to go further too.

but BoF is right, its not love it's infatuation. for now