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Oh crap. MIL gave me a very expensive dress, I gave it to charity shop, she wants it back......

(233 Posts)
DrNortherner Tue 20-Oct-09 17:54:56

She put on weight and it no lobger fitted her. Was a very expensive long burgundy evening frock with bolero jacket. She said it was too expensive to give away, but she wanted me to have use of it.

It was too old fashioned for me, and she often dumps her cleared out stuff to me.

Anyway, she is off on a cruise next month, has lost weight and now thinks she'll fit into it. I did not have the heart to say I donated it to a charity shop.

She's coming round on WEdnesday to collect it.

Should I tel the truth, or say I can't find it, or I lent it to someone else.....?

HELP me.

Oh god, no idea.
Have you been back to the shop to check if they've still got it? How long ago did you dump it?

LadyoftheBathtub Tue 20-Oct-09 17:58:13

Erm, I would probably fudge it and say you can't find it and you are afraid it might have gone off to the charity shop in your last clearout, but you will keep looking...

But she hasn't got a leg to stand on - she gave it to you. And somebody somewhere is probably getting more out of it than either of you. If she's annoyed just say sorry but you never realised she might want it back.

DrNortherner Tue 20-Oct-09 17:58:18

Oh it was months ago.....

LadyoftheBathtub Tue 20-Oct-09 17:58:33

It sounds vile btw

Emprexia Tue 20-Oct-09 17:58:44

ccan you tell her you lent it to someone and it got ruined so you had to throw it away?

diddl Tue 20-Oct-09 17:58:49

If you can´t buy it back, you´ll have to ´fess up!

But I think the fact that she said it was too expensive to give away would have warned me off dumping it!

thelunar66 Tue 20-Oct-09 17:59:03

I'd say I lent it to a friend who has moved and not left a forwarding address, or something grin

DrNortherner Tue 20-Oct-09 17:59:21

It was her mother of teh groom outfit for her eldest sons wedding.

LadyoftheBathtub Tue 20-Oct-09 17:59:40

Ooh I like Wasabi's. Foolproof!

mazzystartled Tue 20-Oct-09 17:59:47

lie

you gave it to your second cousin because it suited her so much

DrNortherner Tue 20-Oct-09 17:59:57

Oh no. <bangs head against wall>

PurlyQueen Tue 20-Oct-09 18:01:00

Could you say that you lent it to a friend, but you have just found out that she passed it on to another friend who just happens to live at the other end of the country?

RubysReturn Tue 20-Oct-09 18:01:23

Oh you are so screwed!

sowhatis Tue 20-Oct-09 18:01:33

I'd say i found it in the bottom of wardrobe or something and it has been damaged? or went out with other 'stuff' that needed storing when you were having a clear out and you think DH mhas dumped the whole bag.....act angry that other wonderful items have also gone.......if DH agrees to go along with it!!! I would not tell her what actually happened!!!!!

LadyoftheBathtub Tue 20-Oct-09 18:02:44

Ooh blame her son. Like it.

supersalstrawberry Tue 20-Oct-09 18:02:56

your gonna have to fess up

give her flowers before hand to soften he blow

supersalstrawberry Tue 20-Oct-09 18:03:33

tell her the moths got it

MuttOfTheBaskervilles Tue 20-Oct-09 18:04:00

Tell her moths got it so you got rid and you didn't have the heart to tell her.

Sounds like you did her a favour.

DrNortherner Tue 20-Oct-09 18:05:15

Does anyone actually have moths?

Anyway, it was in a very expensive dress cover, zip up type bag thing....<wails>

Ewe Tue 20-Oct-09 18:05:42

Lost in a house move if you've had one?

MuttOfTheBaskervilles Tue 20-Oct-09 18:05:48

Hahaha

Sorry you're screwed then.

forehead Tue 20-Oct-09 18:07:28

I think you should lie and tell her that her son gave it to the charity shop. The dress sounds bloody awful btw.

MuttOfTheBaskervilles Tue 20-Oct-09 18:07:52

Ok...what about this.

Say a friend of yours had a really posh 'do' to go to and fell in love with her dress hmm so you lent it to her and the bitch gave it back with a cigarette burn in it.

GordonBrownsTeaLady Tue 20-Oct-09 18:09:29

Tell her she's still too fat for it, and she shouldn't try it on yet, in case it demotivates her. snort.

Or tell her you wore it recently and you and DH got a bit carried away in the taxi on the way home, what with the dress being so beautiful. There's now a stain you can't remove hmm. Surely she wouldn't want it then, but she may respect you more for banging her son in a taxi than how she's going to feel when she realises you gave it to charity.

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