I am due to be married in May. I have lived with my partner for a year and I am having serious regrets and worries. I can't go anywhere or do anything without him kicking off. When he gets in from work he questions me about my day. Disguises it as "did you have a nice day" and then pushes and pushed for info "did you go into town for your lunch? that's nice...who did you go with...Sarah, Stacy and John? who's John? Does he work with you? you've never mentioned him before? How old is he? funny how you've never mentioned him. Is he married then? bet he's gay. Sounds like a twat..." etc and then later he'll get really nasty and say stuff like "maybe if you hadn't been fucking around with John all day you would have remembered your prescription" etc.
He texts me constantly and if I don't reply within 10 minutes he phones me. This has gotten me into trouble at work before and I have told him and he says "so its illegal for a bloke to text his girlfriend now?" etc.
I know he checks my phone, goes through my texts and my emails. Searches history on the net. He smashed our last PC when he found a dating site in the history. It was just a pop up that had come up with a different site but he didn't believe me.
At first I used to just not go out because I knew it would cause a massive row. Now if I do go out he literally won't let me.
I feel like a hostage but its all my fault and I know if I break off the wedding everyone is going to laugh at me making yet another mistake. The kids will be upset, god knows how DP would react. I darnt even suggest it to him
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Controlling DP
RoastingRooster · 24/02/2009 12:47
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