Can't beleive its come to this. I have no where to turn. I have name changed as I've posted previously about being unhappy.
Been with OH for 8 years - since we were 16 - 2 kids, house, mortgage etc. young i know. He proposed this year. Anyway when we bought our house (aged 21) he tried to finish it with me out of the blue, for no reason at all. When he was seeing our son I checked his phone and found out there was someone else. I told him to leave as he had broken my heart. He went back his moms for a few weeks but eventually we got back together and he promised he would never put me through this again.
I thought things were ok, since we have had another child. We have our tiffs about house work but nothing serious. Deep down I've never gotten over him cheatin on me. Its so wrong but occasionally I check his phone bill to see who he's been texting. Im constantly paranoid its going to happen again. So the past few weeks he's been up and down with me, hot and cold and I cant bare it any longer!!!! I've asked him if there is anyone else and he just gets so angry for me accusing him and says he is sick of it.
I today checked his phone bill and have seen 5 texts sent to a number around 7pm on Friday evening. This was the night I was out with my work lot and he was at home looking after our 2 young boys. I called the number and it was a woman, i searched the number on facebok, turns out its a polish woman (looks around the same age-ish as me), and I'm guessing she works with him (though it doesnt say on her profile) as they take on a lot of polish staff. There is no way I can question him and say I've looked at his bill because he will go mad. I need more proof.
There havent been any exchange between them since Friday from what I can see but he easily could now be whatsapping her, talking to her on FB. Something here isnt right. Maybe i'm overly paranoid and its one of the guys at works GF i dont know but who am i kidding??!?!
Tonight he finishes at 10 - he called to say he is going to be about 20 - 30 mins late home because he's got to train some night staff that are taking over the shift. Dno what the hell to think now.
Today before he went to work I lay by him and he was on his phone, he told me to get off, I was like wtf I am putting my head by you before you go to work, and he said no I was about to jump on him. This upset me so I stormed off upstairs. He came up about 10 mins after and kissed me on the head and hugged me. He then went in the shower and this is when i checked the phone bill online. I couldnt contain my upset so when he got out i asked him straight if he had been talking to somoene else (as i said earlier i seen texts were sent friday). he said no and started to shout at me asking why i had flipped from being happy to this. He left the house in a massive mood with me.
I hate this misserable life of not knowing whether he is coming or going but I havent got the guts to leave. I wanted a family for my kids - I love him. Im close-ish to my mom. My friends dont go out that much. I just cant cope with this anymore.
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Think he's cheating again, please give me the strength to leave
heartbrokenagain12 · 27/09/2016 22:11
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