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How do I communicate with dh to stop trying to wake me up for sex

(76 Posts)
EveOnline2016 Fri 05-Aug-16 11:46:33

I am not well atm. On antibiotics for a nasty infection as well as zapain for the pain of said infection.

Dh is working nights and gets in around 6:20 am and comes to bed while I'm sleeping and starts fondling and asking for sex.

It's getting on my nerves as finally after 10 years ds is sleeping longer and it means I can.

Wtf is he playing at.

Lweji Fri 05-Aug-16 11:48:23

You could punch him accidently.
Or ban him from the bedroom.
Or get divorce papers.

Lweji Fri 05-Aug-16 11:49:27

Accidentally, even.

Or keep waking him up during the day when he's asleep.

stolemyusername Fri 05-Aug-16 11:50:15

If it was me, he'd be told in no uncertain terms that I was sleeping and if he ever woke me again for sex then he'd get a quick knee to the bollocks!

JinkxMonsoon Fri 05-Aug-16 11:50:48

"Stop waking me up at 6am and asking for sex. I'm ill. If I ever want you to wake me up at 6am for sex, I'll let you know. Otherwise assume that I'll never feel sexy after you wake me up at that time".

If he sulks, tell him to grow up.

Pearlman Fri 05-Aug-16 11:51:31

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WorzelsCornyBrows Fri 05-Aug-16 11:51:56

Say "oi, stop waking me up for sex".

Seriously though, some people would like that, others wouldn't, you need to tell him you don't want him to do it. This is only a problem if he doesn't respect your wishes.

ElspethFlashman Fri 05-Aug-16 11:58:12

What do you currently do and how does he react?

Lweji Fri 05-Aug-16 11:58:40

Why do people assume the OP hasn't told him to stop?

Pearlman Fri 05-Aug-16 11:59:44

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EveOnline2016 Fri 05-Aug-16 12:00:58

I have told him to stop.

I know currently finding time to have sex is an issue. DC off school and are awake longer ect.

But for god sake leave me sleep.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Fri 05-Aug-16 12:01:51

Did he not realise when you got medication it wasn't an instant miracle cure?

Pearlman Fri 05-Aug-16 12:02:41

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NickiFury Fri 05-Aug-16 12:02:52

He'd get an elbow in the larynx if this were happening to me.

PeppermintPasty Fri 05-Aug-16 12:03:29

Haha I see Lweji has got there first. I'm favouring punching too, whilst simultaneously not in any way condoning violence too, natch.

DropYourSword Fri 05-Aug-16 12:04:35

Fork to the forehead.

ChaChaChaCh4nges Fri 05-Aug-16 12:05:10

Assuming he has a basic grasp of at least one language in common with the OP then clearly it's not a communication issue. It's him being an entitled fuckwit who thinks his wants are more important than her needs.

ayeokthen Fri 05-Aug-16 12:06:00

Just tell him that you're tired, not feeling great and don't want to be woken up for sex. If he persists, tell him to fuck off or he'll not get any for the next 10 years.

Lweji Fri 05-Aug-16 12:07:28

Ask him if he feels like explaining sexual assault to the police.

EveOnline2016 Fri 05-Aug-16 12:13:22

Thank you.

I swear to god I'm ready to divorce him if this continues.

Ifailed Fri 05-Aug-16 12:14:13

Wake him up at 10am with a mop & bucket, hoover, toilet cleaner, load of dirty washing and a hot iron and tell him there's a load of housework you want him to do, now.

LumpySpacedPrincess Fri 05-Aug-16 12:17:15

How did he respond when you asked him to stop, did he continue to pester you?

microferret Fri 05-Aug-16 12:19:02

As somebody else suggested, wake him up when he's in the middle of a daytime sleep and see how he likes it.

Then sit down and schedule a time for shagging that works for both, not just one, of you.

trafalgargal Fri 05-Aug-16 12:21:07

My OH is on nights this week 6.30 am this morning "in your dreams ....." Rolled over and went back to sleep. No issue , why would there be?

OreosAreTasty Fri 05-Aug-16 12:21:17

You've asked him to stop.
he hasn't... this is on par with rape.
LTB.

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