Hi, please can I have your opinion on this?
I've been with my bf for nearly four years - we have separate homes. I'm lucky enough to live in a home owned by family (after being made homeless due to repossession of family home when ex husband left us). He spends 12 out of 14 nights at mine (as I have three dogs) and pays for our evening dinners (he has ready meals whilst I prefer salad). I stopped cooking dinners because he wasn't reciprocating enough.
He earns good money - I'm estimating 35k gross and pays rent and maintenance for his daughter. I work very part time hours in retail whilst doing a part time degree (which I can only afford to do due to dwindling divorce settlement). I obviously pay all my bills.
He has paid for three holidays for us which I really appreciated. He used to be really tight and would happily accept me paying for meals out until I got fed up and one day snapped telling him he was tight. The result of our talk (after he had an angry strop and hid in his man cave)and me explaining in simple terms our difference in incomes, and I wasn't his pal/mate but girl friend, he now offers to pay for the cinema (ensuring student discount) and has been better at buying groceries. When we have a mooch around the shops, he never buys himself anything as he isn't interested in clothes or technology etc. He never offers to buy me anything but would feel greedy expecting things like clothes or make up. We very rarely go out for meals/drinks/theatre etc and I don't feel I can suggest these as I can't justify spending the money that is needed for bills. I can now suggest the cinema without feeling greedy. We spend our evening dog walking if the weather is fine then snuggled on the sofa (which is nice...). He washes up every night, mows the lawn and has done things like fixed the shower. He showers after work and does his washing at his home. We go out in his car on (free/cheap) days out at the weekend to save my petrol.
He is a dependable, loving, trustworthy and faithful man so has a lot of the qualities most of us look for.
Do you think the above is right and proper or is he taking the piss out of me/my home?
Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
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Is he taking the pi££ financially?
Nofoolnomore · 29/06/2016 14:54
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