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Would it bother you if your OH spent 30mins - 1 hour almost everyday chatting to another woman?

(69 Posts)
foxyfox112 Fri 08-Apr-16 21:08:28

When he is travelling to/from work. It's someone he met through work but doesn't work with anymore. He doesn't have any reason to speak to her.

She moved away so he never sees her in real life, says they just chat occasionally but phone log shows it's nearly every day during the week.

RiceCrispieTreats Fri 08-Apr-16 21:09:33

Yup.

LuluJakey1 Fri 08-Apr-16 21:09:48

Yes

AnyFucker Fri 08-Apr-16 21:10:07

yes

RiceCrispieTreats Fri 08-Apr-16 21:10:29

But the question is : does it bother you?

DropYourSword Fri 08-Apr-16 21:10:44

I wouldn't have an issue at all if they were sharing transport, but calling someone on the phone every day is a different matter. No, I wouldn't really like this.

Herewegoagainfolks Fri 08-Apr-16 21:11:14

If they were in the same train commuting no.

He's calling her every day behind your back? Yes.

Shapebandit Fri 08-Apr-16 21:11:19

Yes and he clearly knows it's inappropriate as he lied about how often he speaks to her!

foxyfox112 Fri 08-Apr-16 21:14:51

Yes it bothers me but as I know he doesn't see her didn't know if I was being overly jealous.

FuzzyOwl Fri 08-Apr-16 21:15:55

The lying would bother me most because why, unless there is something to hide?

RiceCrispieTreats Fri 08-Apr-16 21:16:53

Trust your feelings.

AnyFucker Fri 08-Apr-16 21:18:16

why does he lie then ?

does he talk to you one to one for a full hour every day ?

Cocoabutton Fri 08-Apr-16 21:18:56

Yes, that would bother me.

foxyfox112 Fri 08-Apr-16 21:19:36

It was a few months ago I first noticed and he said it was occasional so I don't know if he was lying then or telling the truth but now it has got my frequent

doodlejump1980 Fri 08-Apr-16 21:20:16

Massive red flag for me I'm afraid

foxyfox112 Fri 08-Apr-16 21:20:20

more frequent

WellErrr Fri 08-Apr-16 21:25:56

Yes. It's shady as fuck.

How do you know he doesn't see her?

AmIbeingaBitch Fri 08-Apr-16 21:26:21

AF's question is good. Does he talk to you for an hour a day?

FifteenFortyNine Fri 08-Apr-16 21:33:15

I don't think it makes a difference how long he speaks to OP during the day, might speak 10 hours straight or not at all. Doesn't change the fact that he makes the deliberate choice to chat for so long and so often with a woman he has no obvious connections to anymore. If there's no work/other reason behind the talks, then it comes down just plain desire and at least the start of emotional affair or more. Very suspicious definitely.

Coldtoeswarmheart Fri 08-Apr-16 21:34:24

Yes, it sodding well would bother me.

bluespiral Fri 08-Apr-16 21:35:43

Yes it would.

BigHairySpider Fri 08-Apr-16 21:36:12

If the phone log shows they chat almost every day before and after work I would expect that they may chat more in the day too. They may be using email at work which you obviously are not able to see. Sorry op, I wouldn't be happy with this.

LosingTheWillToSkate Fri 08-Apr-16 21:56:12

The talking wouldn't bother me. I have male friends I speak to daily.

Lying about it would bother me an awful lot!

MissusWrex Fri 08-Apr-16 21:57:40

Dodgy as fuck op.

GraysAnalogy Fri 08-Apr-16 22:00:41

This sounds like an emotional affair. I'm sorry OP.

I would hit the roof.

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