Husband has gone AWOL

[chelle792]

It's mother's day, my due date was supposed to be in two weeks and one day's time (mc at 11.5 weeks). Husband went out at 9.50 to pick up materials for work "for half an hour" with the dog.

He's not back yet.

I don't even think I'm worried - where the fuck is he?

[Ginmakesitallok]

I assume he doesn't have his phone?

[MoominPie22]

Strange post.... And what exactly would you like us to do on here? Post our guesses as to his potential whereabouts?

[pocketsaviour]

If you're not worried then what's the problem? Were you planning to go out? Do you have other DC?

I doubt he will have attached any significance to it being mothers day. It took me a while to work out why you'd even mentioned it. Unless you have discussed it with him?

[Bluecarrot]

I'm really sorry he's not there to support you... Or so that you can support eachother. This must be a very difficult day for you both.
What things bring you comfort? A chick flick? Meeting a friend? A long walk? I think you are setting yourself up for disappointment if you are waiting for him to make you feel better. Empower yourself and do what's right for you right now.

I'm really, really sorry xx

[VinceNoirLovesHowardMoon]

Moomin
Op are you ok? Is he always like this?

[BirthdayBetty]

Pub?

[Marchate]

Hope the dog's okay!!

[CrazyMary]

It's Mother's Day, could he be visiting his Mum or organising a surprise?

[puckingfixies]

So sorry for your loss op . Hope your DH is ok.

[Redroses11]

That's tough and lonely. Hope he comes back soon.

[ILikeUranus]

I agree with Marchate and CrazyMary. Sorry you're having a crap day OP, and your dh has buggered off randomly for half the day. I'd be sad and pissed off too mostly because he didn't leave the dog with me.

[chelle792]

Thanks moomin for showing such compassion in the face of what is pretty obviously an outpouring of greif

[OurBlanche]

Woah, chelle!

You might want to save that for him. Your Op wasn't all that clear... you said you weren't worried, you 'sounded' annoyed. If you want more sympathy here, and you will get it as, now, on 2nd/3rd reading, it is obvious that the bit in brackets is what is upsetting you and he has just buggered off.

and my sympathy for your loss.

[ImperialBlether]

What happens when you phone him, chelle?

[chelle792]

I was doing ok until a very lovely person sent me a facebook message sending me love and hoping I was ok. Cue the falling to pieces.

I can't be annoyed at my husband it's not his fault I lost our baby. He doesn't even have his mobile with him.

He is unlikely to be with his Mum as they are JW's and don't celebrate Mother's Day

Point taken blanche, sorry moomin didn't mean to be a bitch

[BolshierAryaStark]

It's unlikely he's even realised the significance of today for you.
Sorry it's so shit.
I presume you have tried to ring him?

[BolshierAryaStark]

X post.
He's probably at the pub, or maybe took the dog for a good wander.

[OurBlanche]

Ah! The joys of facebook

Does he often go out for long walks? Is it part of his usual weekend routine?

Maybe you need to try and have a bit of a cry on him, when he comes home. Explain why you are feeling a bit fragile. If he is usually a good man he will probably be mortified!

[MrsSteptoe]

You poor thing. It's a really ghastly day for you. Do you think he's running away from your grief? Or do you think he hasn't really twigged and he's just sort of got caught up in the pub?

[CamboricumMinor]

for you OP

[chelle792]

I don't mind facebook too much, I tend to stay out of the drama. This person is so lovely and has been a great support. She got pregnant only a couple of weeks after my mmc so our babies would have only been about 8 weeks apart. Two babies in the family would have been lovely.

Husband doesn't really have a routine. I'm sure he'll be back soon.

I've cried so much this past few days - I thought I'd have no more tears.

It's thrown a grenade into our relationship and I don't know how to recover

[chelle792]

He wont' be in the pub. He'll be "pottering" - goodness knows where

[hownottofuckup]

You weren't being a bitch OP. Your post wasn't cryptic in the slightest, I'm not surprised you're upset.

[hmcAsWas]

I read your OP and focussed on your dh being AWOL and didn't notice the bit about mc. Re-read, and there it is. So sorry for your loss - Mothering Sunday can be a very painful reminder

[littleleftie]

OP I am sorry for your loss

Do you think he knew the significance of today and has gone AWOL to avoid any emotional conversations?

Or do you think he is just being thoughtless?

TBH I wouldn't be happy about my DH going out "for 30 mins" and still not being back four hours later and uncontactable whatever the situation.