Sorry if this is a long mail but I need some advise as not sure what to think...
My boyfriend and I have never been able to agree about living together – he has a 4 bed house plus attic studio and 3 children – only one an 18 year old son lives there full time – the other’s are a girl at uni and a girl who lives with her mum for the majority of the time – he also has a lodger in the studio. I have a 3 bed house and live alone.
I have in the past suggested he gets rid of the lodger to accommodate my stuff but will not as it’s an important revenue stream – I offered to pay the rent but he was not willing in case we split up.
Before Christmas I sent this mail to him:
This is the email we talked about - basically I am asking you to think about how you can accommodate me and all my stuff - what changes are you willing / happy to make - and what maybe you are not so happy about but arent 'deal-breakers' and know that that they are important to me. The 'stuff' isn't just my belongings but - and this is where I find it difficult to express myself but the mental side - in essense I need to feel that I am living in my home - not just staying in your house.
This is his reply:
My thoughts – living together – how we might get there. Move my dining furniture out to the garage. Sell / get rid of the other dining room furniture – move out it to garage whilst wait to sell it – my records etc – all except for the art cupboard. DS moves his bed and chest drawers etc into the dining room – plus we buy a new wardrobe for him (black matching his other bits). The dining room then becomes DS’s Studio. DS’s old room is then completely empty – redecorate – and this space becomes yours for whatever you like. Finances - £87 per week to me, you cover this simply by renting one room at your place. Food shopping bill 60% my cost?
Please can I have your thoughts on it…
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Living together - need advise
louhelhop · 07/02/2016 12:51
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