I argued with my husband earlier as I felt he was being lazy. He came home from work and lit a fire, leaving me to put our toddler to bed whilst also looking after our 4 month old.
He came upstairs and kissed us - and seemed apologetic.
When I went downstairs again I left the 4 month old with him so that I could tidy the kitchen after dinner.
When I finished tidying I went into the sitting room to take the baby and bitched about his laziness. He snapped at me and kept turning the TV up louder. When I turned it off he went upstairs and got into bed with the toddler.
I turned everything off downstairs then went upstairs. I saw that the dirty nappies still hadn't been put outside. The baby was crying so I left her with my husband so I could deal with the nappies.
When I returned my husband was lying in bed holding his iPad with the baby just lying on her back on his chest screaming. I snapped and asked could he not hear her crying. He asked me the same question and I pointed out I was dealing with the nappies.
He then picked her up by grabbing her baby grow and moving her off his stomach and onto the bottom of the bed. Basically as if he was lifting a dog by the scruff of its neck.
When I saw this I saw red. I didn't really think but grabbed his throat and shouted that he would never lift our daughter like that again.
He tried to push me then hit me hard three times - all on the side of the head. I back away and he shoved me. The toddler then woke up crying. I went to lift him but my husband pushed me away (even though the toddler was crying for me).
I kept trying to take him but my husband shoved me away and said I was provoking him. I just repeated that he lifted out daughter like a dog and said I was taking both children to bed with me.
He stormed out and I took both babies into my bed.
Thankfully they are both asleep and calm.
I, on the other hand, can't stop crying.
I know I was wrong to grab his throat but the way he picked the baby up just made me see red.
My ear and cheek hurt. He shouted that I was provoking him but surely, no matter how provoked you are, you don't hit out like that?
I guess maybe I should ask myself the same question as, effectively, I lashed out first
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Did I push him too far?
Tired2ndTimeMum · 13/01/2016 22:46
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