I've had a hard day with a 6 week old baby and a toddler who has done everything they've been asked not to! DH fully aware and had been told that I was eagerly awaiting his return from work.
Despite this he went to the pub this afternoon ( he has a job where "meetings" can be held in the pub). He didn't leave the pub until about twenty minutes after his usual finish time. He called during his commute home and we agreed he would collect a takeaway. He called again an hour later when he got off the train to say he was on his way to get our food. So I got the toddler bathed etc.
Almost an hour later he text to say he was waiting for the food and would be back soon! Turns out he had taken himself off to the pub to watch the end of s football game! This was never mentioned and I was expecting him to be about half an hour max after he got off the train. I was furious when he got in.... Crashing around because he was clearly trying to make out he was less drunk than he was. I had to put the toddler to bed ( DH didn't even come and say hello to him so he was crying). When I went back down he had dished up - 2 plates of what he had got from the takeaway and nothing that I had requested! He tried to say they didn't sell what I asked for, which is rubbish. He had just not ordered it for whatever reason. He has form for completely forgetting or disregarding things when he has drunk too much.
I have lost it with him big time and am now upstairs with the baby. Am I unreasonable or is he the selfish, inconsiderate prick I told him he was?
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TiredMummy2015 · 05/01/2016 21:30
I didn't get any food. It all went on the floor 
He had only bought what he wanted... He had dished up two plates but it was something I would never order in a million years. So clearly he hadn't got me anything and then thought "oh shit" and tried to cover it up by sharing out his.
Op. You are absolutely shattered!
When you have dc as young as you have, the events today/ thus evening is enough to tip you over the edge.
One thing my friends and I always say re men and raking care if babies, they really haven't a clue how difficult it can be most days.
The whole takeaway episode was v frustratingly for you because firstly you had to wait ages for it and second he didn't even get you what you wanted.
Try and relax, have a bath or a drink to calm yourself down. Try not to stay angry, the only person you are upsetting us yourself. I really feel for you. We've all had those days
Can I say 'Bastard, bastard, bastard!' or is that not allowed on MN?
for you, OP.
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