A brief background re my dad. He EA my mum, they are now divorced. He was a pretty shit dad, never went out of his way for anyone .. When i came back from travelling he was supposed to pick me up and just didn't bother turning up, any Father's Day or bday present he would be very ungrateful and say 'is that it do I not deserve more?'
After the divorce we fell out as I obv sided with my mum. He would send me shitty messages saying how he heard my husband had been having affairs (which he hadn't) and how he would turn up at my wedding even tho he wasn't invited, how I didn't deserve his surname anymore and lucky I was getting married so I would have a new one etc etc
A few years past and DS1 was born, when he was 1 I decided I should try again with my dad and for the last couple if years my dad has been brilliant like a different man, very charming nice helpful etc.
I have not seen him for 3 weeks, I invite him every few weeks for Sunday toast to which lately he has been busy. Last week he calls and is very sarcastic sayibg he has not seen grandchildren and bet they have forgotten who he is etc. I respond that he is always welcome and that I do actually invite him over frequently for a roast. This is the man that didn't even bother getting the kids an Easter egg!!
So 2 nights ago I get this text "hi bingbong, dad here, is there any chance if me seeing my grandsons over the bank holiday, no invite nothing, do you and mr bingbong come and visit me, no. I'm their grandad and I want to see them, sort it out'
I knew it wouldn't be long before my dad's old habits come out. I know it's not that bad but it takes me back to the way he used to speak to us and his bullying ways.
So I reply very nicely that he is very welcome any time and how about lunch yesterday afternoon?
No reply
So I txt and say dinner in the oven are you coming? He says he can't come. I then say how about Sunday before 2 or Monday before 3. To which he replies let' sort something out next weekend when we both have more time. Clearly being sarcastic because I has to be something in the afternoons.
In fuming , he made such a song and dance yet I give him
Various options and I get turned down!!! My husband is awAy all this weekend until next weekend which he knows so it's quite hectic with two kids.
I have not replied again as I'm so scared of getting any abusive bulky-boy txt that I've left it.
But I need to get my point across and say that he shouldn't be sending me those txt messages. That I have him various options this weekend and again he didn't come so he can't be that bothered about seeing us? But then I don't want to get in to an argument.
Whst dhoukd I do just leave it,? Thanks
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Relationship with my dad, shitty text message
BingBong36 · 03/05/2015 08:52
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