I don't really know where to start but here goes..... I've just found out I've been lied to for months and I'm in shock. My fiancé ( we've been together a long time) is really good friends with a work colleauge who started last year. I was very suspicious of this lady as I knew they got on but I went through a really bad patch last year where I convinced myself they were having an affair. He strongly denied this and said they just got on, that was it!!
She ended being posted somewhere else and I was led to believe that they hadn't been in contact, just at this point friend on Facebook. So I started feeling alot happier in myself, we'd not long had a baby when she started working with him and things were good, we had a good Xmas etc. I still asked a few questions about her but all I got was ' I'm not sure, I haven't spoken to her since last year'. I think deep down I knew this wasn't true, I just couldn't prove it.
Anyway, details I won't go into but I've found out they have been in contact the whole time, haven't met up but speak on the phone quite regular. I was absolutely furious. He swears to me she's just a friend, feels sorry for her ( she's been having a shit time) and doesn't fancy her in the slightest , they just get on. We chatted and I seemed ok with it just upset he had lied to me but after a pretty sleepless night this morning I'm so upset. I feel like he is having an affair, I can't handle the lies and I thought I was the only one he confided in, not someone else. I seriously don't know how I feel. I just feel numb, can we get through this??
He's told me he won't end the friendship, I've just got to accept it
He also wants us to meet, I don't know what to do??
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Can you really be just good friends with the opposite sex??
blondebaby111 · 03/03/2015 08:31
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.