Firstly I've had to re register as i couldn't sign in with my old email for some reason.
I've been seeing a guy from pof for a month. I know it's not long. We've seen a lot of each other, every few days, which i know some will say is a red flag in itself but we are/were both keen and happy with this pace. Dtd. Was amazing and fantastic for us both. He said he hadn't been on there since we met, I said i had, once, a few days after we met and he said 'why?' so i assumed he didn't want to keep looking and we'd see how things progressed, which they have been doing, very nicely. Spent the afternoon/evening with him yesterday, we seemed very close, he was very complimentary towards me, he's not the gushy type so I was thinking he's really beginning to like me, made plans for this week, etc.
So tonight, after lots of texting back and forth with him all evening,I had a quick nose on there without signing in to see if my ex was still on there, and lo and behold new man is on there, for over an hour.
He did say today he hadn't checked his email account for 2 weeks, so possibly he was checking out his 'would like to meet' notifications, which I am itching to do too, but was very happy to delete my profile and see how things went with him.
Obviously I don't know what he was doing on there, could be arranging other dates....I split with my ex of a year a number of months ago, and found out afterwards that a few moths before we split he had been on pof and been on dates, there was me thinking our relationship was fine and he was doing that behind my back.
I realise i sound about 16, but I want to ask him about this. I can't actually believe I've resisted the urge to text him so far, but anyway, what is the best approach? Hold fire and watch? Just be upfront and lay my cards on the table?
I am so gutted really, it seemed I'd found a really good guy, ticked ALL the boxes, and now this. It could be sweet shop syndrome, but I haven't succumbed to it, and there are a lot of 'would like to meet you' s in my inbox......shit. What to do?
Sorry it's rambling.......
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Saw him of Pof....same old story, what to do?
oncetwice · 21/07/2014 05:33
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