every time we talk about them, there is a heated discussion where DH accuses me of being mean and unreasonable. basically me and the in laws had a massive falling out post a miscarriage where instead of supporting us, sil told dh that he should rid a mental head case like myself. she wrote it in an email and since dh and i share an ipad and he knows i read his emails, i read that one of the sil. i rebutted by writing to her that she's beng a nasty piece of work. she told my mil who then said she does not want to talk or see me ever again as i had said unkind things to her daughter.
now i am 5 months pregnant and i had told my husband my feelings of him taking our first born to meet them. they live abroad.
we went through 4 years ivf to get to this stage so the baby is very precious to us.
last time i was pregnant, we received lukewarm congratulations and post the marriage instead of supporting me tgey turned against me. how am i supposed to allow dh to bring our baby on a plane away from me to see the in laws?i can't stomach the thought.
this issue is affecting our marriage. my mil is a controlling woman, my dh is mummys boy, his sister is a poisonous single mum who is bitter with life.
i feel i married into a dysfunctional family, but my dh is lovely though he always stand on their side.
i dont know what to do?
they live about 9 hours flight away from us. i dont want to bring my baby there because i dont want to fly there for nothing and stay with them only to be picked on. since day 1 his mother has been reluctant to accept me without having met me.
everytime we talk about them, dh abd i would end up sour faced or arguing fiercely with him slamming the door and me crying non stop. this is not good.
how should i behave?
i think he should stand by my side and stop defending them or make excuses for their behaviour.
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my SIL and MIL are destroying our marriage
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