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Dp makes me jump on purpose

(95 Posts)
bordellosboheme Tue 15-Oct-13 23:04:25

Is he a twunt? angry
I just came in from a 40 minute drive. It was dark outside, it was dark in the house and dp was standing there trying to give me a little shock as he put it. Surely this is the behaviour of a 12 yo? Not a 57 year old? Can someone explain him to me please?

bordellosboheme Tue 15-Oct-13 23:04:58

Oops 47 I mean. I aged him by a decade. He deserves it!

SweetSkull Tue 15-Oct-13 23:06:06

I would absolutely hate it.

Ikeameatballs Tue 15-Oct-13 23:06:32

Ex-p and I used to do this to each other all the time! It's not one of the many reasons that we split up.

runningonwillpower Tue 15-Oct-13 23:08:56

Why are you even asking?

That's twunty behaviour in a grown man.

mikkii Tue 15-Oct-13 23:09:00

DH claims I sneak up on him to make him jump. I don't, I just don't stomp like the rest of the household (including my elephantine daughters)

Gruntfuttock Tue 15-Oct-13 23:09:59

I don't understand why he would prefer to frighten you rather than welcome you home. It just seems a really twisted way to behave. He has a very cruel streak, certainly. It's not behaviour I understand tbh.

SugarMiceInTheRain Tue 15-Oct-13 23:10:43

I'd hate it. If you lashed out in self defence thinking there was an intruder in your home, the idiot woukd only have himself to blame grin

PeanutPatty Tue 15-Oct-13 23:10:43

If he knows it genuinely frightens you and he continues to do it then he is an arse.

SugarMiceInTheRain Tue 15-Oct-13 23:10:56

I'd hate it. If you lashed out in self defence thinking there was an intruder in your home, the idiot woukd only have himself to blame grin

SugarMiceInTheRain Tue 15-Oct-13 23:11:50

Sorry for the double post, and the typo!

FriendlyElephant Tue 15-Oct-13 23:13:46

I can see how it might possibly be funny once, but if its clear you dont appreciate it then doing it again is not on. I would hate it.

The thing is... I LOVE making people jump. blush

However, I do agree if he knows you hate it he should stop.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Tue 15-Oct-13 23:20:20

Oh god I hate this! Dh and have made each other jump unintentionally many times over the years - and we laugh about it. But deliberately doing it? No!

I had an ex who thought it was funny to wait outside the bathroom door and jump out at me, when I came out. It really wasn't funny - it scared the fucking shit out of me.

FunkyBoldRibena Tue 15-Oct-13 23:21:30

I don't understand why any man would want his beloved scared witless when walking into a dark empty house.

BrunelsBigHat Tue 15-Oct-13 23:22:33

Dp tries to do this to me.

Unfortunately for him I have bat hearing, and he is a noisy fucker, even when he thinks he is being stealthy.

Nob.

If he succeed he would start to piss me off very quickly.

TwoStepsBeyond Tue 15-Oct-13 23:25:01

What a twunt. My lovely housemate used to say "I'm just coming in, don't let me make you jump" whenever she came into a room. She and her parents were all prone to scaring each other, so they made a special effort not to. That's what people who love each other do. Making a particular effort to scare the shit out of each other, not quite so endearing.

bordellosboheme Tue 15-Oct-13 23:27:27

I agree grunt! Can ppl that said they love doing it explain why? It's a little cruel, surely?

bordellosboheme Tue 15-Oct-13 23:30:57

That's lovely 2 steps beyond. It is one of a host of odd behaviours with dp. I'm starting to wonder if I've drawn the short straw relationship wise.

Its hilarious. I always get dh, spesh after watching a horror film.

Its his facial expression and the way he twitches. Priceless.

wordyBird Tue 15-Oct-13 23:55:46

Agree with Grunt...

GilmoursPillow Wed 16-Oct-13 05:39:02

Slightly different, but many years ago I had an ex who would shout "Watch out!" half way across a road when there was noting coming. Of course, I would be instantly alert to a car that was about to run me down and he thought it was hilarious.

I told him he was being a twat because one day he'd be serious and I'd ignore him. angry

"It is one of a host of odd behaviours with dp. I'm starting to wonder if I've drawn the short straw relationship wise"

What other odd behaviours is he doing apart from trying to scare the wits out of you in such a manner?.

Re the short straw well you likely have drawn the short straw with this one. I would seriously consider your future with this person.

What do you get out of this relationship now?. Why are you at heart actually together?.

Chubfuddler Wed 16-Oct-13 06:58:18

People who do stuff they know other people hate, and then hide behind it being a "joke" are arseholes. Quite simply.

Driz Wed 16-Oct-13 07:05:18

I think it's funny. We all do it at work, which can be a little embarassing if it is not the person you intended it to be and just a random stranger however, you don't like it, so he really should stop doing it.

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