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The absolute last straw* is that, since being paid plus getting £600 bonus on 24/12, I have £75 left in my account! The cocklodging bastard is GONE TODAY. I'm going to meet him at station and hand over stuff then meet my best friend (who I am not allowed to see!) for £74.99 worth of booze and slagging him off.

What the actual fuck have I been doing?? 2013 starts here

* so so so many last staws including 'peeling potatoes is boring' on Xmas day!! I spent boxing day writing a variation on this post in my head. Plus, for full disclosure, I took him back after he whacked me Utter madness

You mean he spent your wages? And hit you? I wouldn't even meet him at the station, just tip his gear into the nearest skip....

Good for you and well done!! It takes a lot of courage to make that step, so keep that anger inside you until you've handed over his stuff! good luck and enjoy the rest of your life!

Yeah ditto!

Well done to you enjoy spending that 74.99.

No, I spent my wages on him (on 'us') BECAUSE IM AN IDIOT. He hit me in the summer.

I know! I know!

Well done, enjoy your new start xx

Congratulations on getting rid of the useless arse!

May your 2013 be richer in all ways.

(and maybe get some advice from women's aid if you think he might get nasty about it.)

Thanks

Don't forget to get the locks changed before going out!

Isn't it amazing the things we not only put up with, but think we ought to keep putting up with, even hate ourselves for failing to accept, right up till the day the little light bulb goes "ping!" And then after that it's all "Wtf was I THINKING?"

One of the great healing moments was when I remembered some dreadful things XH had done or said years ago (later denied, of course), and realised that I don't have to even try to forgive him any more. I can seethe and resent as much as I like! And then forget it because it's water under the bridge, not because I have to try to pretend it never happened. It did happen, but it's history. And so is he.

Yes get the locks changed. Could your mate sleep over too just to be on the safe side?

He hasn't got any bank cards or anything you share?

So true Annie. Like waking up from a a bad dream.

He doesn't have a key! I'd not entirely lost the plot, thank god

What a good way to start the new year. Onwards & upwards!

I tried keeping a journal of our relationship because I forgot things from one moment to the next (I know I'm not alone in this). He was ignoring me before Xmas but I can't recall why (whatever spurious reason he made up) and then we had Xmas together. What? What happened between 22/11 and 24/12??? I have NO IDEA.

Aaaah. What a relief. I will feel v cold in bed but that's life, eh?

Ugh, he's not replied to text though. Hmm.

22/12 I mean.

A hot water bottle is better.

And cheaper!

You should organise loads of nights out with your mates and a holiday, stuff to look forward too.

Bed socks

Nice one op - happy 2013 & congratulations.

Well done and good luck for 2013.

Good for you. A great way to start the year.

I would rather be cold in bed than share it with an arse.

He's going to be so shocked. He's been soooo happy, little Knowing that I hadn't given in at all! I've actually been plotting!

Sorry for exclamation marks. I feel a bit sick so faking it

Love and strength to you in 2013 - hope its a great year for you!!

Good for you love, keep that metal until you've given him his stuff back, once you've decided it's simple, have a great new life!!

Thank you all

I'm working from home so packed his crap (sadly, too heavy for me to carry so will have to put his fucking Timberlands in a rucksack) and stripped the bed, turned the mattress and put linen on 'boil'. His feet, sisters, his feet.

No reply to my text but a witheld call which was either him or work, but work would have called back. I'll have to send another text later to say 'meet me or I'll leave your stuff at tube station'.

La la la!

Well done you,have a great 2013.