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Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 18:45:54

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! grin

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 20:58:51

nice one smoothie. Hmm, a man from Cambridge meeting someone from OD in liverpool street today? Seems to be a trend.

By the way everyone, before anyone thinks it, smoothieoo is not SurreyGirl, and I am not Cambridge man.

I didn't have curry today...

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 21:01:32

Bant she said 'nice' but she also said 'lovely'. (Also totally second what sponge said but then you'll think all of us laydeez are crazy!)

Kirsty Ok, you're off the hook on the One Direction CD. Yes, date with the engineer is tomorrow. Coffee (with a small c) at a 'nice' local place. Very excited. Did I mention he plays the guitar? And has lovely eyes? Not that I'm getting my hopes up or anything. Off to go find myself one of those wet fish you lot keep talking about...

smoothieooo Sun 11-Nov-12 21:01:49

* disclaimer. There was lots of alcohol involved.

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 21:03:30

Oh no, I've blocked people voldemort from seeing or messaging me. he They cease to exist, he they don't show up in matches and I can't see his their profile...

I'm not quite sure how to proceed. Monday night date guy, no contact after, I didn't like him that much, I got it was mutual, that's fine. Sirius, I do like, I think he might have liked me.. I don't want to overplay my hand. Nnnnnnn.

smoothieooo Sun 11-Nov-12 21:03:40

Plus I would never say nice Bantam!

Fabulous/amazing possibly... Oh just ignore me, I'm pissed!

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 21:06:17

Ok, can I ask a question on here about how to deal with a situation with XH or is that another thread entirely?

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 21:06:18

watch not all the time - just some of them. I don't think I sent a text to LC I didn't take a good 30 10 minutes to compose. I accept ENTIRELY that I am a bit odd though grin

smoothie great news smile Forgot you had a date today too. When are you seeing him next?

PFWB whatsappd me earlier, and again just now. I suspect he has split up with whichever girl he's been seeing since he was last in contact a few weeks ago and feels like trying his luck. I have ignored him both times and now turned my phone off. I never turn my phone off, this is a first!

watchoutforthatsnail Sun 11-Nov-12 21:16:11

sadi dont think im going to get the house. text recieved saying most landlords dont take HB or dogs but she will do what she can.
bearing in mind the other people looking were a recently seperated woman ( who would also claim HB) and a girl who wanted to live with her friend.

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 21:19:21

Nnnnnn, texted him. Nnnnnnn.

'Good coffee, sliced plastinated men, the human genome, dulce et decorum est & intelligent, sparky conversation made for an ideal 1st date. Was really lovely to meet you :-)'

<saws off hands>

<does not text again>

<expects 'how old are your kids?' Text >

<retreats to new notebook>

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 21:21:00

watch ok, most landlords don't... But you are not 'most' tenants. Onwards! Everything's I'll work out, because I say so and I am always right about everything apart from men. Just ignore me about men

smoothieooo Sun 11-Nov-12 21:22:22

Sorry Watch and fingers crossed for the next one where HB and dog are welcome!

Sponge I think he will come to me next Sunday and I'll go to Cambridge the week after. That's the current plan but we all know that these things may go awry in the meantime!

Yoga - what's your ExH question?

MyLittleMiracles Sun 11-Nov-12 21:24:51

Just popped in to say hi! Life is hard but i am still breathing!!! NOT DATING But concentrating on other parts of my life, mainly my son, housing and getting me well!

FlorentinePogen Sun 11-Nov-12 21:25:13

Or I could ask for a picture of her topless?

Or send her a cockshot parting shot. Yours, no cheating now.

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 21:27:58

Florentine - that would just be cruel smile

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 21:28:34

Yoga - maybe start a new thread in relationships and point us to it?

Pixiebelle123 Sun 11-Nov-12 21:28:53

yoga what's the ex question? Having a nightmare ex myself I'm happy to help if I can!

watchoutforthatsnail Sun 11-Nov-12 21:28:53

snape - i know. im just very very worried about ending up homeless or at my bloody mothers. its a very real possibility.

i hope he texts back.

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 21:30:36

He did. No spark, ahh well. :-)

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 21:30:43

Ok, XH question, apologies for it being a bit long.

Pattern since we split has been, we try to be civilised for a while then I say something he misinterprets or that just doesn't suit him and he turns into a bully. He attacks me or just flat out ignores me for days or even weeks. Followed by profuse apologies. Over and over again.

Last straw was over a month ago. DD has a big event coming up in March that I really would have liked to plan together. In fact he sent the first message to me saying 'we really must work together on this.' But once he realised I was on board he changed his tune - rebuffed all my requests to discuss it, agreed to a meeting then cancelled it at the last minute. Said he was going to handle it all and there was nothing to discuss. I finally decided, for my own sanity, and for DD's sake, not to fight with him and just let him do it. I even handed over all the research & ideas I already had. It just wasn't worth the fight.

So today, over a month after we last talked about it, he sent me an email saying please can we discuss it!!!! (He's either realised it's too much hard work or doesn't want to look bad by excluding me). I've been really good at not engaging in any battles with him for a while now but feel this is maybe too big to ignore so have drafted this:

“No, I really don't think we can discuss it. As has happened every single other time we've tried to discuss anything it will be fine at first. Until it's not. I do not trust you to behave rationally and respectfully towards me for any length of time. As soon as I say something you don't like or you misinterpret it will all go wrong. It's happened too many times now and the way you responded to my phone calls and emails about the <event> really was the last straw. It’s been almost exactly a year since this all started and I have had enough heartache in the last 12 months to last me a life time. I don't need anymore. So feel free to use the information I gave you if you want it. Or don't. I'm sure you and <DD> will figure it out. Good luck”

Thoughts?

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 21:32:02

Snape was going to suggest you text him. If he doesn't reply, he is a fool. And you don't want to date a fool smile

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 21:33:20

Snape glad you texted him and got a reply. Shame not the one you wanted but better to know.

lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 21:34:19

Yoga I would do a new thread for as broad a spectrum of replies as possible... and point us to it. Not that you can't ask here, it's just when it comes to twatty exes, the nest of vipers general mn'ers as well as us are what ya need!

watchoutforthatsnail Sun 11-Nov-12 21:34:24

yoga, i think thats fine and reasonable to send, its straight to be the point and not inflamatory. its good.

snape- sorry sad

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 21:35:47

Ooh, sorry, posted before I saw suggestions of a separate thread. Just a few yays or nays will do.

MacAndCheese Sun 11-Nov-12 21:37:08

I'm baaaack... smile

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