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Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 18:45:54

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! grin

SweetSeraphim Sun 11-Nov-12 19:43:27

Oh, x post.

WTF? Weirdo. Him, not you!

lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 19:44:10

wolfandi good to see you back again! Boooo to the crap day, but hurrah for calories grin

I think bearing in mind the island situation thing your prodding method is wise.

Well done bantam - glad the date was good and the spark there

Snape shock at Sirius. How entirely rude!

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 19:45:53

Well, good manners are very important.

Meh.

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 19:47:48

Snape I think that's really rude of him too. It doesn't hurt to send a 'lovely to meet you but no spark' text.

Meanie angry

Super rude to just block someone! Definitely need to set up that ethical dating website pronto...

StrictlyComeDancingDiva Sun 11-Nov-12 19:57:30

Bantam definitely right move with the text smile

snape was ready to be envy about Sirius looking like Tim Minchin, but now confused about OKC.

watch fingers crossed for the house!

watchoutforthatsnail Sun 11-Nov-12 19:58:39

bant - yay, right thing to do. she will like it ( if she liked you)

snape - what? how rude. are you sure he has blocked you?

just been speaking to a very nice lady about a private rent, its slightly out of my price range by 25 a month. have managed to persuade her to let it to me and a dog even though its got new EVERYTHING and is stunning and in the right area.

is it even worth asking to lower the rent? probably not..... mind you she was very impressed with me, said so. working for who i now work for is a bit of a gem ;) she liked that alot.

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 20:03:26

No idea whether he has or not. If I click on him on 'visitors' he still shows up. Aware I can't do that too often or I look like am weird stalker.

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 20:04:04

watch oh! Yay! For house! :-).

fayster Sun 11-Nov-12 20:04:25

Watch, that's brilliant news! I'd ask, what have you got to lose? Even if you asked for the reduction for six months, say?

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 20:06:31

snape I"m pretty sure if he blocked you you wouldn't be able to see his profile at all anymore?

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 20:07:17

watch Fab!

Oh, and apparently 'prosperity is going to come my way soon.' Fortune cookie said so so it must be true.

watchoutforthatsnail Sun 11-Nov-12 20:22:27

snape - sure if you were blocked you wouldnt see him? mind you, im not sure if the history stays??? like, if i go hidden searching, noone can see, BUT, when i do unhidden searching, all those i looked at when i was hidden appear in my visited box.
so.... no clue actually.

id need the rent reduction all the time, not just for 6 months smile
but only by 25 a month, its not a huge drop. and i am lovely smile
who knows. its a back up in case i dont get the other, which id love. but think its a tall order when there are 3 other couples also wanting it.

yoga - that has to be a job, surely smile

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 20:25:06

And I just got a response from SurreyGirl saying she had a lovely time too and it would be nice to to it again. :D

Now I'm going to agonise over the word 'nice'. Or grow the hell up, possibly.

Apparently the ethical dating website is retrospectively working. I haven't even created it, but have talked about it on here, and I just got an email on Match from the Amazing Disappearing Historian, who just dropped off the radar after two dates and various enthusiastic noises about a third.

She owes me an apology, she says, but a recent ex reappeared, and while shes not with him she knows she's not in a position to fairly treat a new gentleman in her life. Sorry and good luck etc. And she thanks me for being a gentleman.

I really want to respond with 'you fuckmuppet' but maybe I'll just maintain a dignified silence.

Or I could ask for a picture of her topless? smile

KirstyWirsty Sun 11-Nov-12 20:31:21

yoga fingers crossed!! Is tomorrow your date with the engineer?? <the one direction cd is DD's btw>

watch fingers crossed for the nicer house and getting it for the cheaper price

KirstyWirsty Sun 11-Nov-12 20:33:22

bant are you being lined up to be her fail safe?? I'd just ignore .. Too little too late in my book .. Ignore!

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 20:43:31

bant. I actually think that is nice of her to do so. I'd never ever date her again, but I'd appreciate the thought/closure.

'Nice' is nice from Surrey girl. That's ok. Maybe not terribly enthusiastic, but she might be playing her card close to her chest...

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 20:45:36

watch brilliant re house! So you have a back-up if first choice falls through, that's great smile So pleased job is going well too, it will make a massive difference to your social life I'm sure of it, and at perfect time of year (people always make more of an effort to socialise at xmas, and also when in new jobs. So all good!)

bantam why couldn't Historian have told you that a few weeks ago when you text her re a 3rd date, instead of ignoring you?

Re Surreygirls use of the word nice, if she's anything like me her composition of that text will have gone as follows (disclaimer I am sure hope for your sake she is nothing like me):

So, Ill say 'it would be ______ to do it again'

Fab - no, sounds a bit girly/faux cheery....

Great - Hmm, not convinced that's right either.

Lovely - no can't say that, I've already said I had a lovely time. He'll think I have no vocabulary.

Amazing - Oh, FFS, far too enthusiastic. Next thing I'll be saying totes amaze like a TOWIE reject

Nice - yes, ok, that'll do.

<text sent>

Oh bollocks, could I not have said something better than 'nice'? hmm <slaps self with wetfish>

On an average text to a 'man' I know what I want to say within 10 secs, it then takes me another 10 mins at least to worry about the wording. I used feel and feelings in the same text recently and kicked myself for a considerable time thereafter. I very much doubt he even noticed...

EiePie Sun 11-Nov-12 20:45:44

<just marking my 'spot' on the new thread grin>

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 20:47:05

Might have just had another look at Sirius, new pic up, again, does him no justice whatsoever but seems to have the curious primordial response of wanting to lick his face. That's new.

Shall not look again. Oh no. lies

lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 20:52:33

bantam that strikes me as something I would say - also trying not to look insanekeencrazylike.

Worley Sun 11-Nov-12 20:53:48

marking my place...
Bant - I have quite often used the word nice.. and meant it would be really nice.. so if I use the word nice do men take it as a not so good thing?

Pixiebelle123 Sun 11-Nov-12 20:54:03

Bantam ignore, ignore, ignore - you are worth more than being a fail safe and if you reply at all you'll only feed her ego (she says after sending fwb numerous texts since being dumped, completely emotionally unintelligent here I'm afraid!). But def text surreygirl to say what a fab time you had.

watch - good luck with the house.

snape - he sounds complicated already but seeing as you liked him I hope he gets in touch soon.

I've messaged a couple of guys on POF this eve but it generally seems like the only men who want to speak to me on there are oddballs.

smoothieooo Sun 11-Nov-12 20:54:57

First date with Cambridge man lasted 6 hours. Drinks in Liverpool Street, curry in Brick Lane, arm holding, then hand holding, then snogging.... AMAZING!!

Dates 2 and 3 already arranged. My very first Match meet up and it was fabulous. He is very nice indeed. Blimey... grin

watchoutforthatsnail Sun 11-Nov-12 20:57:39

sponge, you think that much about texts?
i am rubbish, i dont even think, i just send.... possibly its where i go wrong smile
i dont ever think how stuff sounds, its me, it just comes out, and is out there. i
yeah, am pleased about the work thing, our team is great. we have all been saying we have never worked anywhere where we have got on with everyone so well. its really lovely. Im sure the week away helped lots as it was good for bonding.

snape - i would think if you can see him you cant be blocked. then again, i think on okc you can only block people from messaging you, not from viewing.

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