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Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 18:45:54

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! grin

MirandaWest Sun 11-Nov-12 18:48:48

Hello smile <posts on thread quickly before it gets to 1000 in about 5 minutes grin

lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 18:49:47

Hello Miranda grin

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 18:50:42

bant just text her, honestly. None of this 2nd/3rd day game playing bollocks. If you want to see her again, just sort it out.

Toying with a text for Sirius Minchin. He looked at my OKC profile an hour ago... He's been on and off of it this afternoon, maybe he just needs a poke push.

What does one say in these circumstances?

MirandaWest Sun 11-Nov-12 18:51:43

I am down south this week staying at my mum and dads house as I am working in London next week. Am currently procrastinating and not preparing the exam paper I am marking tomorrow hmm.

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 18:55:24

Oh. Doesn't show up in my OKC searches anymore. Guess that's a 'no' then.

<hoists bosom>

lulubellaboozle Sun 11-Nov-12 18:55:47

Bant I'm of the 'do it now' school of thought, agree with Snape forget the game playing bollocks if you like someone.

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 19:02:21

Oh it's not about game playing, my worry was: if you've had a nice date with someone and they text you ten minutes afterwards, can it put you off for over-keenness or is it sweet?

Heleninahandcart Sun 11-Nov-12 19:06:19

Bantamif like them, it's sweet. Go for it.

lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 19:06:39

I find it sweet bant, and my minimum expectation is a text or mail the same evening/night to say they had a good time and check I got home ok, or anything along those lines...

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 19:07:36

I think it depends what the text says.

If its OMG I think you're the 'one' I must see you again immediately

I would be running for the hills.

However if it says something like 'thanks for today was lovely to meet you - can I see you again soon

That's absolutely fine. And there's no way that should frighten anyone off smile

(Good to hear all went well btw!)

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 19:07:57

It hasn't been ten minutes though has it?!

I think this evening is fine. I'm never put off by journey home messages, 'it was lovely to meet you, you're a star! Lets definately do it again sometime soon?' Either gets the response, 'you're equally awesome! Lets do it!' Or 'oh. That's sweet. No spark, sorry. Be happy. Etc'. Then everyone knows whatis going on and everyone can move forwards eithe separately or as a team.

And I'm sorry, I know it's bollocks, but the bloke does this. You need to instigate this I'm afraid. That's not to say that women can't ask blokes on dates (she clearly did!) but you have to step up now. It's your turn.

Do it!

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 19:09:54

Yes, just text her already!

and report back what she says

Movingforward123 Sun 11-Nov-12 19:12:17

bant I would also say text her. its always nice to get a text the same day saying, I had a nice time etc smile

KirstyWirsty Sun 11-Nov-12 19:14:46

Bant have you texted yet!! You know it's right smile

wolfandi Sun 11-Nov-12 19:18:27

Sooo...I poked/flirted/whatever it is that you do to contact men in a cowardly way on POF this afternoon several times. I've decided that if I only prod the men without photos then they aren't real and therefore are safe to contact. As non-real people must be safe. Obviously. Regretting asking me to stay now folks?! My profile is hidden so it's just a way to allow them to view me and decide whether to say hi.

Today has not been the best. I've got some strange longstanding problem with my hip. It seized up in M&S this afternoon and made me fall over at the front of a long queue of people. And then I promptly burst into tears with the shock and embarrassment. That really helped with the embarrassment factor..! Doh. A large dominos pizza on the way home fixed everything though. I do love calories. So much. Not sure I have room in my life for sharing my calories with anyone.

I totally agree with Snape, Bantam - don't do the playing it cool crap. Just thank her for a lovely time sooner rather than later. And Snape - give him a poke and a push. Surely none of us can go wrong with sending pleasant texts in a non harrassing and friendly way unless thats why I'm very single?!

wolfandi Sun 11-Nov-12 19:20:00

Bollocks. By the time I'd finished writing that - the entire gang had posted. Please ignore all out of date comments on my post. Will book speed typing lessons pronto!

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 19:21:48

Yep, what they ^^ all said. Text her to say you had a nice time. I would be wanting that. (See all the girls agree so now you have to)

mercury7 Sun 11-Nov-12 19:23:24

I'm also in favour of the 'journey home' message, it doesnt have to turn into text ping pong!

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 19:23:27

Bant bant bant bant bant bant bant bant !!!

OhWesternWind Sun 11-Nov-12 19:31:11

Wolf loads of sympathy about the m&s incident. I have dodgy balance and have been known to do similar. Why do we get so embarrassed about falling over?

Guys without photos - hmm. I always wonder why there's no photo and think it's because a) they're married/in ltr b) they're scary looking or c) both of the above. Think I'd prefer to know who I'm winking at, but it passes an hour or so quite nicely smile

Hello again all. I post every five threads or so to say I'm joining in, then the thread moves so fast I can't catch up! But I keep reading to find out what's going on - I'm rather nosy like that!

Bantam -definitely send an 'I had a lovely time text'- Snape is right, has to be the bloke instigating, I'm afraid, and if you don't get one you assume there was nothing there for them, time to move on.

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 19:32:59

Okay okay okay. I'm not even home yet and text sent.. You're bullies, the lot of you.

But thanks smile

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 19:41:53

Hoorah! <high fives thread!>

Can't contact Sirius minchin. Surely with all the above, he has to contact me. Unsure whether he has blocked me on OKC or not (surely I'm not that hideous...). He comes up in a user name search, but not in a match.

I refuse to waste time thinking about it.

wine

SweetSeraphim Sun 11-Nov-12 19:42:37

I have a good feeling about you and Surrey girl, Bantam. There is an air of inevitability about it, in a good way.

Snape, I don't understand, what happened with Sirius?

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