What would you think if this was happening in your y3 child's class?

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RunnersWorld Sat 09-Feb-13 15:13:18

And what, if anything, would you do?

One of the children is very disruptive, including bouts of physical and verbal violence, e.g.:

-Throwing chairs
-Swearing at the class and teacher
-Tearing up his own and others' work
-Pacing around the class when they are supposed to be working/listening
-Walking out of class meaning the teacher has to leave to bring him back
-There have also been two complaints from children/parents about him touching girls inappropriately (now has 121 at lunchtimes, so is constantly watched)

At least one from this list happens daily, once it was so extreme that the teacher had to remove the rest of the class from the room while two TA's tried to calm him. School was unable to contact anyone to collect him so he spent the rest of the day in the Head's office, as the TA basically refused to work with him. He's big for his age, strong and scary when he loses control.

My DS2 is in this class. I know all the detail because of my job, most parents of course will only have patchy stories relayed by their DC, but they all know there is a problem. To avoid drip feeding, I will also say I know that he is a very damaged child as a result of sexual abuse and currently living with a foster family. Other parents know nothing of this of course.

I am interested in an opinion from the POV of the parents who know nothing of his background, please.

nt children assult eachother all the time ?

Yes and many get expelled for much less than this child has done. I think that shows just how much that school is trying to help this poor boy and that they are trying their hardest to fulfil their duties as teachers and to inclusion laws.

They may be failing but they sound like they r trying.

tethersend Mon 11-Feb-13 17:46:09

Assaults on children and staff are unacceptable.

Evacuating whole classes is unacceptable.

But it is not a case of putting up with this or going to a special school; there are other solutions.

If I had my way, all teachers would receive mandatory physical handling and behaviour management training, and would be unable to teach without completing a course of proper, certificated training. Schools should be able to access adequate funding to support children with these kind of difficulties.

It is also worth bearing in mind that the child in question is in care, and different legislation applies to Looked After Children when it comes to exclusions etc. The child may or may not have SN in addition to any emotional and behavioural difficulties resulting from trauma, but it is not certain that he has any SN at all.

HotheadPaisan Mon 11-Feb-13 18:41:32

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mrz Mon 11-Feb-13 18:55:57

You wouldn't let an eight year old play independently?

HotheadPaisan Mon 11-Feb-13 19:07:12

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mrz Mon 11-Feb-13 19:07:46

At home

HotheadPaisan Mon 11-Feb-13 19:10:32

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HotheadPaisan Mon 11-Feb-13 19:20:35

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mrz Mon 11-Feb-13 19:28:55

Yes out of hearing ...say playing with a train set/scalextrix in own room

Fairenuff Mon 11-Feb-13 19:42:36

nt children assult eachother all the time

Not in year 3 surely? This is not my experience. By that age, children have learned appropriate behaviour.

HotheadPaisan Mon 11-Feb-13 19:49:36

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HotheadPaisan Mon 11-Feb-13 19:54:36

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