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I'm really crap at being pregnant and I don't care who knows it.

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I am not one of those glowing pregnant women. I vomit a lot. I have permanent wind and indigestion, and spots. My hair turns into a fuzzball, I gain weight at a rate of knots and am permanently tired.

I am tetchy with everyone and frosty with midwives who pat me knowingly hmm. I am beligerent with consultants who refer to me as 'mum' and crotchety in the extreme with phlebomotists who take five attempts to get one vial of blood.

My pelvis goes to pot within four months, my blood pressure is up and down so often Alton Towers have asked if they can install it as a ride, my ankles are so swollen I look like they've been encased in pastry like some massive hairy sausage rolls.

Pregnancy to be completely frank, is a total pain in the arse for me (quite literally I get piles too) and if I could get a baby, ready made on ebay I would.

I'm assuming I am alone in this, yes? grin

Cashncarry Sun 06-Jan-08 21:39:39

No - you're not alone. I hated being pregnant - threw up for most of the nine months, and when i wasn't throwing up I was suffering from extreme heartburn that meant I had to sleep vertically. My skin went all funny and mottled and I lost a stone and a half and still looked like the creature from the black lagoon hmm

Bring on the e-bay babies i say wink

Rantmum Sun 06-Jan-08 21:40:52

Ummm I have only done it once, but I am definitely in the "end justifies the means" category where pgy is concerned. So no, you are not alone in this wink.

At least I have managed to perfect the 'vomiting in the sink without dropping the toddler' dance now though hmm

Sarahjct Sun 06-Jan-08 21:42:02

Nope grin

In addition to that lot I have alienated my family, ignored my friends, grown a baby with a pot belly, fallen out with DH, spent my last weekend of freedom in my room crying (am being induced on Tuesday) and am about to shell out £175 per night for a private room because I am a wimp and scared of hospitals.

Fun, ain't it?

notjustmom Sun 06-Jan-08 21:43:05

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poppy34 Sun 06-Jan-08 21:45:13

call you mum?! WTF is that all about - i'd punch out any consultant who did that to me

know what you mean re wind/indigestion etc - its a pita

Islamum Sun 06-Jan-08 21:45:55

I hated it, but dd on lap sleeping and shes so lovely..

I wouldn't mind but I was looking REALLY GOOD before I got pregnant. I was finally back in my size 8 jeans, and I had a cute toddler, now I've got a whiny toddler because my milk tastes funny, and DH is driving me nuts because he keeps saying 'you need more sleep' hmm, everytime I lie down I feel sick and hey I have mass insomnia again - I had it through my first pregnancy.

Sarahjct - I don't blame you for asking for a private room but I was just such a pain in the arse last time they gave me one for one night free just to shut me up! grin

LynetteScavo Sun 06-Jan-08 21:46:33

You are certainly not alone.

No varicose veins? Your'e doing well!!

Sarahjct Sun 06-Jan-08 21:49:15

Good idea Choc. I could conjour conjur magic up a full scale freak out and see where that gets me...

spugs Sun 06-Jan-08 21:51:33

im not overly enjoying this one,
my back and pelivs hurt,
i have heart burn,
im fat,
im covered in thread and varicose veins, and today dd1 asked if i had chicken pox as im so spotty hmm .
was the same with the last two but slightly less and now the novelty has well and truly worn off. [aghhhh smiley]
oh and i cant decide what bloody coloured bugaboo to get and i cant get to sleep at night cos im already thinking about how much the head coming out hurts and i still have 11 weeks to go [bugger smiley]

i could keep going grin

Sarahjct - I find 'I need some sleep and all the other mothers are chatting' quite good in this situation, if you can describe them as 'utter chavs' (to be fair they were) it might help too grin

Dottydot Sun 06-Jan-08 21:53:28

You're definitely not alone... After wanting to be pregnant for several years, I hated it once it happened! Was sick for the whole 9 months, had dreadful heartburn, SPD, and was thoroughly pissed off/miserable throughout it all (and what a pleasure I was to live with). The baby felt like an alien in me - I hated feeling him kick and just wanted him out from the minute I knew he was in there!

The good thing was the feeling of relief once I'd had him - even after an emergency section - at least I wasn't pregnant!! grin

Dottydot - I just can't believe I've chosen to do this again. I think I must have blanked out most of last time. I keep saying to DH 'I'm sure I didn't throw up all the time/fall asleep at 5pm/gain so much weight/have so many spots/have hairy eyebrows' etc. last time. He just rolls his eyes at me because apparently I did all this and worse!

sweetkitty Sun 06-Jan-08 21:58:21

I have NEVER glowed in pregnancy, in fact tonight DP says he hates me being pregnant. I am a miserable whinging pregnant old cow!!!

First 14 or so weeks I hate all food everything makes me feel sick, have to eat to stop being hungry but open fridge go yuck close fridge again.

SPD's is already rearing it's ugly head, agree pregnancy is a pain in the arse for me too (and hips and front of pelvis), hate feeling completely knackered.

Don't get me started on what my skin and hair are doing, my 2yo DD2 keeps putting "cream" on my forehead spots and shouts Mummy got lots of spots!

Still to look forward to are getting huge, heartburn, peeing myself, feeling unable to breathe (and anything else I can think of).

Yes the end justifies the means but I hate being pregnant (this is the last time though ever)!!!

Oh and EVERYONE has advice for the pregnant lady haven't they.

No I never considered ginger biscuits for morning sickness. Wow that's novel.

Really? It's a sign that the baby is healthy that I feel so bad - how fucking wonderful, let's alert the media.

Ooh I shouldn't allow myself to gain too much weight, why's that, scared I'll borrow your jeans lardarse? angry

and my personal favourite:

WELL YOU HAD SUCH A TERRIBLE TIME LAST TIME, THIS ONE IS BOUND TO BE EASIER!!!!!

yurt1 Sun 06-Jan-08 22:03:16

I remember during my 3rd pregnancy my Mum said "oh dear you're not very good when you're pregnant are you?' (after I'd snapped about something).

sweetkitty Sun 06-Jan-08 22:03:19

I think last time I had a Pregnant and Fed up - come a whinge here thread. Might have to make another soon.

tudorrose Sun 06-Jan-08 22:05:31

oh am so glad its not just me! hate hate hate being pregnant - the end cant come quick enough for me and still have 8 weeks to go. but thanks for giving me excuse to finally post something have been lurking on here for weeks like a big fat wimp. very big fat wimp!

I hasten to add I'm only 11 weeks pregnant so I have a lot of whinging time left! grin

Oh and why are piles 'just part of pregnancy' if blokes have them they get them sorted don't they, they are not just told - you can buy some anusol but it's not very good, they may well go after delivery (IN ANOTHER 30 weeks!)

tudorrose Sun 06-Jan-08 22:19:03

still cant believe i chose to do this knowing how crap it was before! both times! never never never ever am i doing it again. ever. i am grumpy, spotty, swollen, aching, tired all the time downright evil cow really. and it was my choice grin

hedgehog1979 Sun 06-Jan-08 22:20:25

and I thought I was the only one who felt like this. I have wanted to be a mum for ever and am 16 weeks into my first pg - DH is an only child so MIL keeps giving me you won't feel like this forever and keeps patting my stomach really hard. I may throw up over the carpet and her soon. My mum is great and warned me when I first found out that she felt like crap for all 9 months of all 4 of her pregnancies.
I thought that what I was feeling was due to the fact that I have been suffering with depression for the last 8 years and have had to cut my medication radically although not altogether - too risky for me.
I am so glad that others feel like this too. Is anyone in the RH area who feels like meeting for a moan and coffee sorry caffeine free beverage?

HH

beforesunrise Sun 06-Jan-08 22:22:38

gosh, so not alone. i get monster eczema everywhere, my back hurts, i have spd so bad i cannot walk, my boobs hurt and sag big time, i am so tired i think i could kill someone, my hair goes all limp and greasy, and i smell funny. seriously.

this would be nothing if it wasnt for those annoying types (my SIL above all) who gushes about how wonderful and womanly she feels and how she would be pregnant all the timeif only there wasnt a baby at the end of it all (seriously).

for me, people who love being pregnant need their head looked at tbh.

i suppose it doesnt help that dh is also quite open about hating my pregnant body!

sweetkitty Sun 06-Jan-08 22:23:42

I'm on number 3 you would think I would have had enough by now.

I think I go on some sort of high after the baby is born partly because I have a beautiful new baby but mostly because I am not sodding pregnant anymore.

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