Hi there
The title says it all. We have just found out I am pregnant at 46, and I have never had children before (long story). My OH has two adult sons from his first marriage.
Needless to say it wasn't planned! We (mostly I) am in a huge amount of turmoil - he, bless him, is being very calm, is thinking ahead very logically about how to adapt, what to do, how we will work things out.
I have always wanted children but it just didn't happen. He knows this. I had decided that at my great age, it was never meant to be, and made my peace with it. I was on Cerazette, and took it as I should, without fail - and yet here we are.
I so want this baby, now that I am pregnant. Yet I'm terrified. I know nothing about parenting, I am very worried about the health risks to the baby, the greater potential for miscarriage - everything that goes with being so old (in pregnancy terms). I also have no idea how far along I am, as I wasn't having any periods on the pill (I found out about the pregnancy because I would take a test every now and again just to be sure I wasn't pregnant, but I can't remember when I took the last test!).
He has been wonderful - I'm under no pressure from him, and I think secretly he is delighted, despite all the obstacles and the massive upheaval this will bring if we decide to go ahead. I haven't told him that I 100% want to - it's the medical issues that are really scaring me. If I were younger, I'd be in no doubt at all.
Does anyone have any advice, please?
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OMG - first pregnancy at 46
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JustJaneForNow · 09/10/2016 09:16
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