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Hi... so just been confirmed I'm due 10th (ish) of January and would love to get chatting to some others in the same area who are also expecting... As I said In the title that includes those of you due late 2011, as well - it's a very inclusive thread - as long as you'd be able to make some meet ups in Oxfordshire and you're going through some stage of reproduction then you'd be welcome :-)

I know there's at least one more of you out there (*ghost* - you there?)

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MakesCakesWhenStressed - expecting #1 EDD 10 Jan 2012

Hi again cakes , good to have an offshoot of the 2011 list going already! I may linger on both to get the benefit of all the wisdom .

Anyone else around?

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MakesCakesWhenStressed - expecting #1 EDD 10 Jan 2012
Ghosteditor - expecting #1 EDD 15 Jan 2012

Oh yeah, I'm gonna stick around both - as we're so early in 2012 we're kind of straddling the line - could easily end up with a 2011 baby instead (eek - hope I don't. Christmas baby= bad)

Your health and fitness regime kind of puts me to shame :-S All I'm doing is eating atm. So hungry all the time! I'm gonna be the size of a whale soon.

cakes, don't worry, it's all relative, I'm not doing nearly as much as I should be at the moment! And if it's any consolation I don't think I'm eating any more but I've put on 3 lbs since last month! And you're only supposed to put on 1lb in the first trimester! uh-oh, I'm going to be faaaaat!

I'm not weighing myself. Used to have food issues and I think that starting to weigh myself now might make my life more difficult. I'd rather be fat and ignorant (well, not have numbers to attach things to, anyway).

sensible stuff! Me too on the food issues, haven't quite got over weighing myself yet but when things progress I will be closing my eyes when the midwife weighs me. I'm hoping that being pg will be a lot more important to me than worrying about my weight and size. I'm always going to be chunky and now is of course not the time to worry about it, so you're absolutely right.

I know my food issues are hanging around because I'm actually kind of looking forward to morning sickness. Fucked up (scuse the language) I know. Am trying to just block all my mess out and focus on eating vegetables for the baby.

Hrm. This is quite heavy stuff for a new thread.

Hallo! So glad to find you. And impressed at the swearing already. This may be my kind of thread. I looked at the 2011 thread, but it seemed a bit too well established, and I kind of slinked off.

I'm due on Boxing Day (always had crap timing) so am 7 and a half weeks. This will be number 2 - DD was 4 in April. Been trying for this one for a while. I'm in East Oxford, near South Parks - would be great to meet up, but I am (pathetically) a non driver, so that may limit me.

Re food issues - I think the non weighing thing is good. In my last pregnancy I ate everything that wasn't nailed down for the first 3 months, and stopped weighing myself once I realised it wasn't useful. There are so many other factors like fluid retention and (sorry) constipation, that scales don't tell you anything. I dont know where they get the figures about when and how much weight you should put on, but I think it's safe to ignore - you may put on lots at first and then just stop. Everyone is different.

I have to confess, however, that I have just started bleeding this morning - GP trying to get me an appointment at the JR early preg clinic, so please cross fingers I can stay on this thread.

MakesCakesWhenStressed - expecting #1 EDD 10 Jan 2012
Ghosteditor - expecting #1 EDD 15 Jan 2012
Liska - expecting #2 EDD 26 Dec 2011

liska welcome to the list and thanks for the thoughts, always welcome, especially from someone who has been through it before. Glad we didn't scare you off.

Really hope that all's well at your appointment - I've heard that bleeding around 7 weeks is common but of course important to get checked out. Big fx for you.

cakes I empathise. keep eating those vegetables and looking after yourself, and I'll try to do the same.

So glad to see another early bird on here :-) And nice to have someone who's been through this before. Wishing you all the best with your appt - hope it goes OK. Will keep fingers crossed for you. Ley us know how it goes.

And yeah, the swearing, I try to keep a lid on it but occasionally a bad word pops out without my say so. Sounds like we'll get on fine though :-)

Can I ask how old you girls are? I'm 28. Just curious.

27!

:-)

Do I have to answer that? Can we just say I'm in denial about my age? Tell you what, I'll work up to it slowly:-)

hope there's good news for you liska?

cakes how are you doing today? I'm pretty sure I'm peeing a lot more frequently (but then I drink ridiculous quantities of water just to get through the day). Tonight is my first night in since the BFP so I'm pretty tired and think I'm going to flop around. Unfortunately DH is going away for a month at the weekend and I go on holiday with the girls a couple of days before he gets back. Bad planning!

Hi, I've had 4 mc's prior to this, but am pregnant again and on a cocktail of vitamins and aspirin. My EDD will hopefully be 10/01/2012, and will hopefully be my second; I already have a 3 year old DD. I have a scan booked at the EPAU in the JR on 23rd May - hoping desperately I make it.

Hallo all - and welcome Milky Way. I've just got back from the EPAU at the JR, and pleased to report that my tiny dot has a heartbeat, so all well for now.

Apologies for being precious before - I'm 44. It always jolts me to write it down, because I came here as a mature student in my thirties. Actually an immature student, tbh, but it means that most of my friends here are in their late twenties early thirties (DH is 32), so I kind of forget. Until that drunken moment in a pub toilet when I look in the mirror...

Of course, come December when I will (hopefully) be a 45 year old woman with a 4 year old and a newborn, I expect to feel every single day of those long years. Bit scared actually.

Where in Ox are you from, Milky?

oh milkyway , that sounds really hard. congratulations, though, and will keep fx for you.

Gosh, how funny will it be if we all end up at the JR at the same time next January!

liska heehee, I wouldn't worry, I think you're much more of an average age for mums in Oxford, I suspect I may be at the younger end. Me, and the teenage mums, I guess. One of my good friends has two girls under 4 and she's in her early 40s and has just had a knee replacement - it must be tough at the moment!

Yeah, I'm the youngest of anyone I know to get pregnant (except my sister in law, but the less said about my in-laws the better). I have one friend with a baby and she's in her early 30s - I'm kind of relying on her for advice because she went through this about a year ago!

I'm crying a lot, rather than peeing, I think that's where all my water is going! I cry when I try to do something difficult, I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I see something sad - I cry at everything. I've always been quite emotional anyway, but this is ridiculoud. I'm also clinging onto DH a lot, needing cuddles and reassurance. I'm basically turning into the incredible needy wife. I even cried when he told me he was taking me out for dinner tonight to celebrate :-)

Liska - are you from Scandanavia? Your name sounds kind of scandanavian. And I am emphatically in favour of being only as old as the man you feel, which makes you 32, right?! :-)

How long have you guys lived in Oxon? I only moved here in Jan and I still haven't made any local friends, really. tried everything I can - got a job, joined social groups, but haven't found anyone sympatico (or even my age!).

Good luck with your pregnancy Milky Way, I hope this is the one for you!

I say 1 or 2 more members of this list and we have a possible meet up to plan! We can be the pregnancy meet up with no bumps :-) (unless, like me, you're eating your own body weight in carbohydrates and have a fat tummy to show for it!)

I have my booking appt on 6 June at Wallingford MWLU and am waiting to hear about my scan, which will be at the JR I guess... Am a little confused about what each is for and what is involved, but I guess the Midwifes will explain it when I get there.

Is anyone else thinking of doing hypnotherapy/hypnobirthing? I figure even if it doesn't work as well as they say it does, it can still help me with my fear and anxiety - I don't like hospitals or pain or being out of control and that kind of stress isn;t good for me or the baby, so I'm hoping hypnosis can help me stay calm at the very least.

OK, I've waffled on enough now - anyone else want to talk? :-)

Hi ladies,

Sounds like you're just bursting with emotion cakes ! I've been a little bit more weepy too - cried last night when the lovely chap died at the end of Inside the Human Body on bbc. Also starting to feel a bit wibbly if I get arsey emails at work (which I do often due to the incompetence of my predecessor - I'm starting to sort things out now but it's a long haul) but I soon manage to get my aggro back on!

I moved here almost five years ago (wow!) but I have a ready-made social unit in the form of my sports team, and I do lots of classes and things which are quite sociable. I also used to work in a much bigger company so still see people from there, but my current company is so small that we're all at very different stages of life. My closest friend at work is probably going to be a bit upset and concerned when I tell her about the pregnancy as she's very dedicated to work and sees me as the only other reliable person in the office - also she's almost double my age, and I don't think she was able to have children, so it could be hard for her. cakes , keep at it, and I'm sure you'll find a good group of people. Sounds like NCT classes or similar could be a good 'in' for you.

Keen for a meet up, but might want to wait until after my scan which will be early July, so I at least have something to show for it. Also have never met anyone from the internets so am a bit shy!

I'm not planning on hypnobirthing but could be convinced - the yoga really helps with breathing and calmness so I'm hoping it will carry across. I am good with pain generally but I'm expecting that this will be a completely different and unpredictable experience so I'm not counting on being able to cope! I do love the water so am super-keen for a waterbirth. I'm trying not to get too involved at the early stages though, am naturally cautious and a bit worried that things could go wrong. I have a friend from school who lost a baby at 8 months and I just keep thinking about how awful it must have been.

here's hoping we get some more names for the list sometime soon. I have my suspicions that Oxford is a reasonable fertile place and more significantly is full of the type of people who frequent MN

lol - definitely think Oxon is a MN type of county! :-D

Right. I better go do some work instead of spending all day knitting! :-)

x
Cakes

I've just called the GP to book an appointment with the GP or whoever needs to see me, only to be told that I don't need to see anyone until 8 weeks! So I'm booked in with the midwife for June 10th, just before I go away on holiday.

I don't know what I was expecting the GP might say but given that the NHS website insists that one must inform the GP straight away so that they can give advice on vitamins and living healthily (yawn) I thought I might as well as least call up...

I'll be 8+4 at the appt so at least it won't be tooo long before I can have the scan.

how about you three?

That's weird. My practice insisted on me seeing a GP for my first pregnancy. Oh well. I have booking appt on 6th june and first scan on the 29th, when I'll be about 12 weeks :-) Getting excited now

Oh yeah - and we're planning when and how to tell the parents/grandparents (weird to start thinking of them like that!)

I'd like to join, not sure when I'm due, early January (I think). Not my first pregnancy though but my first one in the UK and the last was 4 years ago so feeling a bit clueless.

Bollocks Ghost, I've booked an app with GP and I think I'll only be 6 or 7 weeks. To be honest it's just to keep DH off my case (lovely that he cares).