Just Mumming 8 - the one with the fire crawlers, wind machines and the Health Visitor revolt

[WilHarlot]

Add your stats Viroids (or don't bother). I feel like there's something I'm supposed to write here but don't know what it is...

I think the undergrads & grads write stuff linking to previous threads but we're too knackered to do that.

Name: Furryscoob
Age: 32
DC's: DD 9.5 months old, expert crawler & daredevil climber.

Eek sorry for filling last thread - didn't even notice!!!

Cuddling B in bed just bought me 1 and a half hours longer in it!

La, 35, new mum to DS aged 5 weeks

Name: Minimooo
Age: 31
Dc: dd 4 months old

Morning!

Thanks for new Fred wil.

Just managed to put E down for a nap. I'm hungry and tired in equal measures. Can't decide whether to go and have breakfast or sleep. Sleep might win....

Oh and I was going to say thanks again for the blw book recommendations. I went for the Gill Rapley cookbook and it arrived the other day. I've read most of it and it's really interesting. Think I might go for it when E's ready.

Name: Snapdragon
Age: 40
DC: DS1, 3 years and DS2...is he 9 or 10 weeks? Can't remember. Terrible mother.

Thanks for the new thread, Wil.

Minion
Soon to be 33
1 DD whose just been forcibly evicted from my arms to her crib cause she's being a whinge bag this morning.

I def think sleep may be going somewhere better, second night in a row, pissed about at 5, tried her with milk, she then spewed it back up on me (cheers r) and then slept till 7:30!
Leaving her to whinge herself to sleep has changed things dramatically.

She's also discovered this new sound she can make,,uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh uh at a huge volume.

That's fun!

Name: RM00054
Age: 25
DC: DS is 10 weeks now, how did that happen?!

Right I'm going to try harder to keep up with the thread. J has put himself into some semblance of a routine (l never believed it would happen!) and will actually nap during the daytime so I'm feeling human again :) I'm loving being a mummy, I've managed to get out and meet up with friends & go to baby-things.
Health visitor (mine is lovely actually. I find the younger ones are more supportive and the older ones are more judgmental) says J has reflux and we've just got to wait it out He's happy with it so it's just the constant vomiting, multiple changes of clothes and never ending laundry that's the annoying bit.
Hope everyone else is getting on OK, sorry I've not kept up with the thread.

(actually age = 26. Forgot I had a birthday in between doing a baby!)

Oh you're such a young thing RM, mucho jealous. You're probably finding this all a breeze as you have lots of sprightly energy unlike me in my coffin dodger status.

Wil
Old
A 3 year old firework and a 7m old grumpy teether.

MrWil is away for the night. Bad times.

Fleur
35 but feeling 75
DS 7 weeks

Struggling. Finding it all tedious, monotonous and feel like I am doing it all wrong.

DS cries, eats, wees and occasionally naps.

I struggle to get out because of the constant crying. It's my own doing as I hate being anywhere when he melts down so I walk and walk and walk.

DH is being a bell end. I had a small glass of wine last night and he told me that he doesn't like me drinking. So I said I would give up BF instead (ultimate bad mother).

Feeling grumpy today

Cymraes
30
DD1-6, DS-4,DD2-2+1/2, DD3-10 weeks

Im going to try my best to keep up, and post something useful!

A friend has just had a baby girl, she has 2 boys, and ive handed over some newborn pink. Wanted to cry, but its for the best, no more babys for me...

Hello all :). Thanks for the new thread will

Name: cookie
Age: 33
Dc: DS who is 1

So my news is I put my back out yesterday :(

I love that you forgot how old you are, Rm!

Fleur you're not doing anything wrong. There isn't even a right or wrong, just a muddling through. If you can get through the day having kept your baby fed and clean-ish you're doing a grand job. If you manage to feed yourself and have a shower you're doing better than most.

It does get better, it really does. Your little bundle of basic needs will slowly start to interact with you and you'll get those gorgeous gummy smiles before too long. And you'll gradually feel more comfortable taking him to places. I still break into a stressy sweat when MiniSnap screams in public but it's always easier to cope with if I'm with someone. Have you got any friends who might be able to take you out for a coffee and a rant? Or could you try the local NCT coffee group or similar?

I don't know what the answer is re. the husband. I think I would have cracked the bottle of wine over his stupid head.

Actually, scrap that, Fleur, you need a proper break from being screamed at. Can you give the baby to your DH for an hour or two at the weekend so you can go out on your own or with a friend?

Tee
32
DS - 12 weeks yesterday.... He's learned to shout... Oh sweet Jesus.

He has however learned to giggle as well so, you win some you lose some. I've become dangerously obsessed with Flop and Bing. Is this normal?

Also have discovered that the end rails if the snuzpod are perfectly sized and shaped for holding a packet of Jaffa cakes.

We ate dinner alone for the first time after putting TT down earlier last night. He napped for 28 minutes and then went bananas and refused to be put down again until 11. we are def in a leap/spurt, although I wonder where I've gone wrong with bedtime a bit - he wakes 11, 1.30, 4 and 6 and then will sleep 7am-12, his night waking us actually as frequent as it was when he was very new, and he'll spend the first half of the night in his cot and then the rest he comes in with us. He has probably 3 catnaps lasting 30/40 min during the day. He just really likes his lie ins, and I'm guilty of letting him do it as I will sleep with him if we've had a rubbish night. It's a vicious circle!

fleur - jiffy for your dh. And a large for you.

Name: Zyla
Age: 37
DC: one dd, nearly 7 months who wants to crawl so much but can't work out she actually needs to push herself up, so lies on her front flapping her arms and legs, then screams because she doesn't go anywhere.

I was a bit rubbish at posting on the last thread, even though I read it, I'll try and be a better viroid on this one!

Pis, 35, 2 PFBs by virtue of them being born 14 years apart.

BabyPis has a tooth! So far no attempts at giving mammy a piercing have been made which is good. She's also found a way to slide around on the laminate flooring so cannot be left alone. She pulled the phone off the windowsill by its cord yesterday (didn't hit her on the head thankfully) then attempted to chew through the power cable

I met a friend for lunch today with her 8month old. We threw them some bits of salad which got sucked on and discarded then we gave them a couple of chips which were devoured! Not sure that's really the right way to do BLW it felt so good to get out of the house. BabyPis and I seem to spend a lot of time staring at each other so I really need to make an effort to get out more.

Afternoon, I wish the moro reflex would fuck off. Just took 2 hours to get very tired DS to sleep because of it. It's like he's conducting an orchestra.

fleur oh god I wish I could come over and give you a hug and slap your dh round his stupid head. I am feeling exactly the same as you and he's got a fucking cheek! You've done nothing but the best for that baby and he's being a prick. Screaming - are you swaddling / dummying / dark room etc. to try to calm him? I'm presuming it's more though than just tired and it's the reflux causing it?

I'm shattered - we've been at the cranial osteopath this morning. DS's diagphragm is apparently much more relaxed (thank you gripe water) and his head sensitivity is gone. He's still tight in neck but she said it will probably only be one more session. He is burping much easier than before. Then went to baby sensory which B slept mostly through and the rest stared at the lights on the ceiling while I wafted a scarf in front of his face going 'peekaboo!' and rattled a maraca at him singing the teletubbies song. it was a free taster session. Don't think we'll be paying for another until he's a bit older and can focus (if at all). I'm knackered because we had to pick the babies up and put them down loads - phew, my back is banjaxed!

rm how are you doing? How are you getting on with wee one?

I am starting to feel like I'm a better mum in a way - I engage a bit more with B and I'm not so snappy. I still feel constantly like I'm teetering on the edge of some kind of depression, which is why I can relate to what you're saying fleur. I keep beating myself over the head about the fact that I'm not radiant with joy all the time. I desperately wanted a baby, I have a baby and now I feel desperately trapped a lot of the time. I love bf but I also hate it - I hate that I am the only one who can feed him and I am constantly tied to him, even though I absolutely love being able to feed him myself from my body. It's like a weird version of catholic guilt. Still wrestling with the idea of introducing bottle. I just cant bring myself to do it as I feel almost like I will have 'failed' somehow even though I'm pro people feeding babies however they choose. The anxiety is giving me no head space and I am a bit miserable. I'm going to persevere (you're all probably sick of me moaning on about this so I'm going to shut up about it). We are doing much better with the feeding and I am quite happy to feed him, I just want to be able to hand him to dh sometimes but I can't because of the cluster feeding.

tee good to see you! You said that you do bath etc.. with him - have you kept that going? We've introduce bath at 7 then we dim lights downstairs and try to get him into 'bed' mode. Unfortunately he keeps not going to sleep until 9pm and sleeps until 12 ish, so missing out the important 10pm feed that's meant to take us through a bit further. I'm hoping he will start to adjust himself without us changing anything.

Shameless place marking

Huge for Fleur and La hope things improve soon. Can you express and leave baby with DH for a couple of hours? Sorry if I'm out of turn, I'm no sure about these things yet.

We're in hospital, we've had a steroid injection for babys lungs and I'm on an insulin drip. Have to have another jab at midnight then be monitored for 12 hours and hopefully home. In the meantime I'm bored shitless but fortunately brought iPad and homemade biscuits no fecking wonder I've put more weight in

Anyways it's all about the big picture and it's not for long. Well I'll be home until Monday at 2 then the fun starts
I'm getting giddy now and terrified of course

Micro loves chips Pis, bash on.

La why would you feel guilty giving expressed milk? Or do you mean if you used formula? Either way nothing bad is going to happen. And if mix feeding keeps you breastfeeding for longer then surely it's a win?

Oooh good luck purple!!! It's the final countdown

Don't be daft, I really appreciate your comments :)

My fear, as always, is the supply side. I am worried about affecting supply if I give bottle. I can do it on a one-off no problem though - just need to teach dh to look after the baby!

wil if I give expressed milk for last feed of day on regular basis I presume I'd need to express it just beforehand, or otherwise I'll be engorged and/or supply affected if I just miss the feed completely. My big scary fear is affecting supply, in case i am faced with situation where I don't have enough for him.

Your boobs will never run out. All that would happen is he'd scream at you for a bit. What time is the feed you want to give a bottle at and what time do you want to go to bed?

la your supply will adjust to whatever you're doong, so long as you do it regularly. So if you miss a feed once, it won't affect things apart from you maybe feeling full. If you miss the same feed every day your boobs will adjust to not make the milk for that feed, they're clever things! Don't fret about the odd change affecting things long term, you can even skip a feed for weeks and weeks, have your supply adjust to that and then reintroduce it if you want and your boobs will catch up after a few days of B sucking at that time.

purple hi! Eat ALL the biscuits while on the drip and let them sort it out hehe :)