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Hope you are putting your feet up Dinky

MOS sorry to hear your news but sounds like you have come to the right decision. Hope things continue to be amicable.

Gosh its been quiet on here - bet you've all been out enjoying the sun. I'm on holiday/maternity leave now - and rather enjoying it (all 2 days of it so far)...

Hello all - now 36 weeks pregnant and the size of a planet.Hoping to give birth before I go stratospheric

Sorry dp is annoying you Silvery moon - fwiw I think men's brains work (or often don't) in v different ways as I can look in a room and see 4 different things that need doing and dh can look in and see 4 totally different things to do - or not to do.

Mos - ((hugs)). I'm glad you've come to a decision as to what is right for you and hope you and your h can work everything out amicably.

I understand what you're saying mos and agree. I think I'd be able to get over a one-night stand and the act of just sex, but not the emotion that is involved in a long affair.
{{hugs}}

oh blimmey yes, get that cat done. We kept meaning to get our 'kitten' done but never got round to it. Then when we got back from Portugal at Easter our 2 cats had become 6! Dh went mad, he hates the 'vermin' at the best of times but has been pretty tolerant over recent weeks. Thankfully/sadly 2 are going this evening and hopefully one more in the next few days if we can find a home. He has said the kids can keep one and H has chosen 'captain Barnacles'!

I'm feeling ok. A bit sad of course but a huge sense of relief. We'd been living a lie (without me knowing!) for the past 3 years and I've been in limbo since I found out about his affair last summer. After 10 days away with time to think I know I can never forgive or forget what he did. It was just too much. I think maybe if a one night stand we could have got past that but not a 2 1/2 year affair/EA. Too much to deal with. Whilst I was away although I had major aches and pains, I didn't have the tension/stress headaches or high blood pressure that were a regular thing at home.

Very civilised conversation last night and just hope it can stay like that. Just feel so sad that he threw away something that was so good

Oh mos sorry to hear that, but I suppose it's a great load off to have made a definite decision.
Glad you guys are going to be able to work it all out sensibly.
It's nothing major here. Girl cat needed to 'get done'. We made an appointment for this morning and dp said he would get her into the box. She is a very nervous cat, you only have to move an inch and she is off. He made a somewhat half attempt, but doesn't think about it. He didn't restrict access to parts of the flat where it would be difficult to get her (I was in the bath) and then when she ran under the cupboards, he gives up saying she's gone. So I have to get out of the bath and chase her wrapped in a towel.
I closed off all the doors apart from my bedroom and the airing cupboard.
I get her, get her in the box by using catnip sray in the box, covering a towel in catnip spray to throw over her etc. Then I close the door on the box but she fights so much that she manages to move the door and get half out from the gap! I get her back in and call for dp to get some string, cable ties or tape so I can better secure the door, he is in no hurry and when he gets to me, just stands there looking at me holding the door. So I secure the door one handed. She is distressed, I am distressed and he's not even dressed.
He just gives me the right ump that he can't just get things done you know?

We're just so different. My friend had the boys overnight last night. I had to convince him to go out. We went to Nando's but were back home 40 mins later. I love to go out. He doesn't.
Winds me right up.

How are you feeling mos?

oh dear SM what has happened? Hope all ok?
For what its worth, I'm also with a fucking fuckwit!
One positive thing though, he has seen the change in me since I got back from MP and realises I mean it when I say 'I'm done'. I'm sad but relieved that we've finally agreed our marriage is over and had a relatively sensible conversation about finances last night

FFS. Dp is such a fucking fickwit. What the hell am I doing with such a fucking idiot. I don't even know why I bother asking him to do anything when I know I'm gonna have to do it myself anyway. I mean really.
FML.

Well done MOS - fabulous work. Glad you had a good time to boot!

Wow MOS That's great!!!!! So much money, well done you

hello all, just briefly checking in to let you know I returned from Machu Picchu via 3 planes, not in a body bag as I feared at one point. The trek was fabulous, I met some amazing people some of whom I hope will be lifelong friends. As I paid for all my own costs (flight, taxes, insurance and hotels prior to trek) myself, I've raised just under £2,000 which will be split between NDCS and SANDS in memory of our lovely MrsY's Benedict. I'm hoping the total might go up a little in the next few days as last minute money is coming in.

Right, bath time. Hope everyone is doing ok? xxx

Goodness me dinky well, hoping baby doesn't stay over too long! And yes, that we get a little bit of summer soon.

Silvery moon - the course sounds like a brilliant idea - am sure you'll do well as you are interested and motivated. Enjoy half term.

Baby due 4 July - with Danny I had a strong feeling he'd be early, not really getting that with this one who seems to fall between ds1 (v late) and Danny on the in utero activity stakes. Scarily already one baby and another being induced next week on the due in July thread I'm on. Will be crossing my legs and refusing to birth this baby till summer actually arrives!

SWT hi
Sorry to hear about Sam, but sure it can be sorted easily. Jacob had tonsils removed (and adenoids) just after he turned 3.
Hope O is ok and continues to settle down.

Luke's been listening to me, he keeps saying "7 weeks to go, 7 weeks to go then we have a long holiday"

Did I mention that I have been looking into doing a degree with the OU? I know SR was/is doing hers through them too.
I'm going to do Childhood and Youth Studies. Have spoken to the OU, have spoken to my headteacher (who was supportive of the idea) and spoken to dp who is indifferent.
Really excited but nervous about it too, hoping it's not really above my capabilities and worried about time etc.
I just have to enrol now, but need to finish the course I'm doing through a different college first.

Glad it's halfterm. Need a break from it all.
Dinky when is baby due? It's soon isn't it?
Seen some pictures of mos on fb, looking good on the trail.

Hope everyone else is ok, and <waves> to any lurkers x

Hi STW - lovely to see you on! Sounds like things have been tough recently with Dd but glad you feel things are getting better, and hopefully easier. The good thing about glue ear and tonsils is once diagnosed its pretty easy to fix so hopefully things will get easier with Sam too. Can you believe our babies start school in September?

Hello! So glad to see this group is still active! Haven't been on Mumsnet for aaaaages but often think of you all. I'm afraid I've become a FB addict . Things much the same here in Chessington. Had a rough ride with DD recently - she's suddenly become very autistic, but I feel things may be settling down again. Also been having a few illness/behavioural issues with Sam and I've suspected ENT problems - hearing test yesterday suggests glue ear and tonsil problems so that's something to look forward to!!

Am going to try to read back over a few pages of the thread to find out the gossip .

Dropping by to say hi
Hope everyone's well. mos thinking of you on the charity trail, hope it;s going ok and you are well.
dinky Danny sounds like such an adorable boy, glad everyone is well and they're looking forward to baby 3 coming along.
All ok here, nothing much to report.

Hi Calico - nice to see you!

Mos is currently off in Macchu Picchu for charity - I hope all is going well and she's having a great, if tiring, time.

Yup getting v excited about baby's imminent arrival - Danny is the most excited of all! Apparently he's been spending a lot of time at preschool playing in the baby doll corner and tells me he will help with the baby - but only if its a girl. Not much to report in the Dinky household - out of the blue at the start of May we got offers for Danny (and then ds1 for year 3) for a small private school we put their names down for a year ago which caused much angst - we've decided to go for it - mostly for the good pastoral care. I am worried we will struggle financially with 2 lots of school fees and a nanny for baby (which we will need anyway as nanny will have to drive the kids to school and back!) but am sure we'll make it work somehow.

Gosh it has been quiet - thought I would have missed loads of chat.

Unusually Lilian is having a little nap on the sofa - so I have some rare Mumsnet time before I pick up DS from school

MOS did you take the job? If they can be flexible on hours that in itself is worth a lot...
I need to find some sort of more permanent job once Lilian is at school - though the school holidays would be hard to manage. I've been freelancing for 5 years doing ad-hoc projects but I really want to get back into 'proper' work now - before I am too old to be employable!

Dinky you must be getting really excited about the little dinky3 now!

Hello all - v quiet on here isnt it. Hopefully now the sun has disappeared again you'll check in!

MoS - good luck with your final bit of training for the Inca trail. When is it you're off?

dinky

Oh no MoS - that's rubbish. If its less money than you thought and the hours don't suit then definitely don't take it - but do take the ego boost of you being the best candidate after so long away from practicing. Something better will be out there.

less of the 'wow'. they've just phoned and offered it but less than I thought was mentioned at interview and it will be approx half of what I was earning 7 years ago. I actually feel quite gutted that they think thats all I'm worth
I also feel a bit as I went to their offices for written exam one week (although only took 45 mins plus travel) a 1 hour interview the next and gave up two of my days to do some training/try it out, days that I could really have used doing other stuff.

Probably all out enjoying the sunshine MoS.

Wow re new job - you're right that jobs in law can be hard to land so well done on getting so far in the application process and fingers crossed the part time option works out.